calmheartseeks Blog Comments (1,531)

RE: I want to die.

If that is really your picture, you are gorgeous. That attribute alone can attract many blessings, including love. You are also young, and have the world (and your life) in front of you. If you additionally possess intelligence and good health, you are blessed indeed!

I agree with the poster above...count your blessings...because you have many. Killing yourself is never an answer to life's problems, which many people have to a far greater degree than you.

RE: What do you think?

"disagree" - sorry for the typo. I wish we could edit these comments.

RE: What do you think?

Good insight about charm, franko. :) People usually think being charming connotes a certain falseness, but it is often true that genuine charm is a gift and very disarmingly pleasant...I love charm when it is sincere and from the heart. Of course, the definition of charm might need to be agreed on if some absolutely degree with this opinion and take it all literally.

RE: my brother

Prayers for your brother, let us know how he is?

RE: ex's

Never underestimate a jealous female.

I don't quite understand why he would end the relationship over this but I am sure it is complex.

It does seem that your future will have a lot of angst with her in it...not something you'd want for yourself.

RE: met someone

Love isn't alway at first sight. People can grow on you, and you find yourself more attracted.

If he truly wants to spend time with you that is a real plus. :) Many times in a relationship couples don't give each other a lot of time but "make it up" with other gestures (i.e., shower you with gifts but only see you twice a week). This same behavior will manifest in a marriage (they will be out with friends, at work, or the bar instead of home with you.)

It looks like you understand the most important things in a relationship. And looks do change over the years...never marry a body.

RE: Guess he wasn't the right one

Unconditional love is very hard to find in a romantic relationship. You are saying in effect, "there are to be no conditions in your love for me." There are usually reasons we "fall in love" with others - take them away and the love goes too.

Just continue to be open and yourself. You seem to be a caring and beautiful person.

RE: Like A Ship sailing Out To Sea

zimzane, just don't zig zag. every day is a day for sailing but some people are stuck at the port.

(jut' kidding ya - :) nice thoughts...keep on bloggin' babe!)

RE: What are women looking for these days?

Link didn't post correctly. Here are a couple more:

RE: Got to Hide Your Love Away . . .

love that song. true, isn't it?

RE: What are women looking for these days?

It depends on the woman. some are just looking for basic attraction/chemistry and compatibility. They want someone who is financially stable (not chronically unemployed), who has some ambition in life and is available, both physically and emotionally. The last part is where women have the least luck, lol.

It never ceases to amaze me what one person will find attractive in another, so it really boils down to individual chemistry.

There are women who want the Prince; just as men want the Princess; but they are living in a dream world and not what you want anyway. Right?

Hang in there! Have confidence in yourself, that really is the number one major turn on for women.

RE: Insanity?

lol. let's not tell anyone. I think it applies to a large percentage of the population!

RE: Insanity?

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. . . Albert Einstein

Finally, I have gotten a diagnosis...

RE: TO CRABBIT OLD WOMAN..

Beautiful poem showing genuine compassion and caring. One thing though...people like it when people remember their name, and are not referred to as that old man or that old woman...especially a crabbit old woman lol. Remember their name, and it will mean a lot to them...that action alone will show that they matter as persons, and are seen valuable and unique individuals with something special to offer.

RE: will you miss me?

someone I know once asked the same question as your post (will you miss me?). When asked what was meant, she said never mind...then she tried to kill herself, causing great suffering that continues to this day (to her and to those around her).

Please don't do anything to try to end your life...as the other poster said, you will feel better.

RE: Young and hot!!!!!!!!

Gosh, there could be a song about it?

Young and hot, young and hot
Don't come back to me when you're not.

I gave you all my love and care
While you yearned for Johnny Fair
His curly hair, his deep blue eyes
His swaggering gait, his careless lies
Made your heart beat wildly
Until the day he set you free.

Young and hot, young and hot
Don't come back to me now you're not.

Your eyes are red from endless tears
Your skin is lined from passing years
You call me on the phone to say
You wish you could see me today
But I won't come out to play
Your shining hair has turned to gray.

Young and hot, young and hot
Dont come back to me if you're not.

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Sad if true?

RE: GurlFriend !! You're Using Me !!

I'm so sorry, swan. :( Just know that this happens to many people and protect yourself. Give as your heart says, but hold back when it is simply using instead of genuine need.

RE: ok ladies

Try posting in the forums (if you haven't already)...I find people here are basically friendly...a lot don't want to be IM'd though...unless you ask them first.

Have fun, it's a great site.

RE: What's it really all about?

Livin', I was speaking in a general, group like sense, not of any individual person...but as for "don't look, be found"...I don't expect them to find me only... why limit reciprocity in a relationship...

I hear what u say, though...My longest relationship came naturally (a friend of a friend) and not by going through a dating site, but you never know! :)

RE: Part 2: A german girl wants to come see me

You didn't believe us until she "made the move", lol. At least you didn't get taken...I hope you reported it.

RE: What's it really all about?

It sounds simple, doesn't it? But so hard to find! We have so many expectations of others as they have of us; it's only natural there will be some disappointment, even major disappointment, along the way...but when you really love another, when you hit that chord of loving and being loved JUST AS YOU ARE, that is the one real thing you can hope for as a possibility in your life.

That's why it's kinda funny when we come on these websites, with all our hopes and expectations, and do not find what we hope for, what we dream of...we only find real people, real life, but we keep looking, because the very next profile, or the very next one, might be him/her, and we will fall madly in love and know that they are THE ONE.

But what happens when we meet them for coffee? We notice that they have a pot belly, that their teeth are yellow, that their laugh annoys us, and we say "nice meeting you," and go home, to read the blogs, to post in the forums, and wonder if love will ever be ours.

RE: Cats can get pretty mad, . .

that lion is pretty scary...maybe that's where they get it from.

And I agree, no fights...ok?

RE: Cats can get pretty mad, . .

lol...maybe that's where the expressions "catty" and "cat fight" came from...cat's are cute but they can be vicious ...any dog fight videos?

RE: Badness at Christmas

If she gets him back, please tell us. I am so sorry to hear this, especially around Christmas. But I agree...get the story out, maybe even in the paper, if possible.

RE: What you want in life and what you get are two dif

man, you're right!!! get that message out as quickly as possible, lol. I'll take number one.

RE: Without you I can not stay alive

i have news for the poster. He WILL stay aive without her, unless the reaper comes.

Real message: find joy in your life not dependent on finding someone or you will have unnecessary misery. Let finding someone be a plus. and I agree, make your profile more positive!!!

RE: A Winter's Day, . . in December

Haven't heard that for a long time, but it speaks of isolation (yes singleness)...of being a rock, an island, the standing alone idea. A rock, is a hardness, a protection from being hurt, or feeling emotion...an island is standing alone and apart from the rest.

"I touch no one and no one touches me, I am a rock, I am an island. And a rock feels no pain, and an island never cries."

Very sad song.

RE: Can love be found in your senior years?

The problem is Cupid. If you can get him on the phone tell him to call me ok. His arrows have only given me heartburn.

RE: I went to get coffee

The thing is how to move from the joke to getting the phone number...therein lies talent.

Most guys don't know how to make the transition, and I don't blame them.

RE: hate

I don't know what horrible thing happened in your past that you are being judged for (you are only 22 years old), but thankfully there is such a thing as forgiveness.

Continue to treat people as you would like to be treated and if they treat you badly in return, end the relationship. Love is important yes and part of that is loving yourself enough not to let others keep you down over something in the past that cannot be changed.