Unfortunately there are people out there who look for any reason to sue another person to get money. It is irritating when you try to help them and find out their true motive. Anyway, I agree that it was very kind of you to offer to help and she should have thanked you profusely.
Mr. Zoharstrius. You got my interest until I became overwhelmed in the water. But interesting screen name for positing a philosophical dance. Any takers?
You are kidding, right? If you are telling the truth, how very sad you feel that way because you are very beautiful.
You need to love yourself - see the truth that you are beautiful and worthy of love for yourself. No matter how much love men give to you you will still feel it's not enough - and will look for flaws in their love for you - if you have low self esteem.
Other people cannot give this love to you, so you keep searching for a "perfect" love - not understanding that you will never be able to "receive" love until you love yourself.
Turn off the photo rating. That way no one in a bad mood can ruin your day. I doubt people look at those ratings when finding a compatibile person...lots of beautiful people here who turn the darn things off, lol.
I am so sorry that you went through a stabbing in your stomach. It sounds excruciating. It is also terrible what happened to those young girls. They certainly did not deserve to suffer.
As for Venus she is good people...it is easy to get into misunderstandings around here....I think I have been here over a year and have seen many.
Janmei, so true. I have a mother in her eighties. Luckily she has her family close by who love her very much. But what struck me is how it is "the way of the world" to flock to that which has something we desire or is of benefit to us, and forget or abandon that which does not. I don't see how it can be changed as far as that being human nature, but happily there are people like you who can rise above this basic selfishness and continue to love/care for those who do not give us something in return (other than returned love).
The problem is religious people believe they have to witness and bring people to Christ. Because of this they cause ill-will with the nonreligious. They just aren't taught that this type of witnessing rarely works and isn't what Christ meant. The strongest witness is the person's life and character, not how many bible verses they can memorize and recite.
It is more painful to be the one who loves more. But on the other hand, the joy would be more potent as well. I think the relationships in which we were the ones who loved more are the ones we remember most.
It is human nature to love conditionally, so in a way you are asking is it possible to change human nature? Perhaps we can raise above it, but won't it always fundamentally be there, waiting to draw us into its pitfalls? I believe some parents unconditionally love their children, and if this is true than the possibility of unconditional love exists.
For the most part I think we love people for the gifts they bring into our lives...a selfish thing to be sure. But also we love them because we have grown to know them and in that knowing grew a familial bond and affection. Thankfully I don't spend my day trying to change other people or control them, and I do appreciate their differentness. The dilemma for me at times is UNDERSTANDING it!!!
Sometimes you have to fight to win the prize. Just going with the flow is giving up control of the situation and accepting circumstances that cause you unhappiness or emptiness. Defeat can be bitter but you have the pride of knowing that you did your best.
It is always worth the battle to fight for our soul (or shadow), or else it will always remind us of what we have lost.
What you say is to some extent true. But that's the way it is with physical attraction...when you are superfit and look your best, you are going to attract the most people. Once they get a chance to know you and love you, then they may accept the few extra pounds...because love has grown.
Women are the same...we can love an overweight guy but our hearts still unwittingly pound for the guy who is fit and very attractive. It's just in our wiring, and no amount of talking about it will change it.
It all works out in the end, though. Look at all the married couples out there, far from physically perfect. Love is real, believe in it!!!
Why should they delete their profiles? Would you rather that it was MANDATORY you sign in or your profile is deleted? What if they just got busy and will come back later? That's all we need...profile police in yet another form.
Preaching isn't reaching. Nothing turns people away more than the word "repent". People are tired of being beaten with a ruler. Win with witness, as another poster said.
RE: Some people !
Unfortunately there are people out there who look for any reason to sue another person to get money. It is irritating when you try to help them and find out their true motive. Anyway, I agree that it was very kind of you to offer to help and she should have thanked you profusely.