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RE: i died for love

Oftentimes the loss of love may leave such a void in our hearts we want to die, but truly loving another is setting them free and wanting their happiness in everything. We cry over the loss of a loved one because that is what it is: loss. Loss of being able to be held by them or hold them, to enjoy their love, to feel what they make us feel.

That is why it is so inappropriate to "die" for the love of one person. The human heart is capable of loving many times in a lifetime and to receiving love. To want to hold onto another person who no longer loves us is not loving them but loving what they give us. Set them free and yourself free to love again.

RE: Why is it...

Perhaps because they are the primary colors.

Red, yellow, green and blue are single or primary colors that form the basis of secondary colors (such as purple, green, and orange) or tertiary colors (like burgundy and teal). Burgundy is two parts yellow and two parts red, while pink is simply one part red and one part white.

RE: Older woman dating younger man. . .

Always remember that when you set to fish in a pond you will net a lot of opinions, and that is all this is.

Always take your situation individually and judge it on its own merits. I know very successful relationships where the woman was older and successful relationships where the man was older. Many variables come into play so blanket statements like some I've read here should really be taken with a grain of salt.

Just my opinion, which is what you get when you set to fish in a pond...lol!!!

RE: What's Goin On?

I don't know if you mean on this site or in your area, but you are only 19. Not a lot of people your age group on this site, so be patient.

The only thing I would suggest is to have more confidence in yourself!!! Love yourself and others will respond to it. They don't respond to insecurity or low self esteem. You are worth it so know it. :)

To meet women, try to meet them naturally at ents or activities of interest, or classes. Be friendly and you will find someone.

RE: For my Chinese Sweetie …..

There's a reason that the most often used advice we hear for relationships is to "be yourself". If the working of our loved one's mind and heart does not capture our interest no amount of reinvention on their part will keep the spark going. It is either there in the day to day living or it isn't. It's kind of like sitting at a table with another person...the easy silence is there or the intermittent awkwardness. There is no real connection between the two people so they must "invent" conversation and work at being interesting to the other.

Sometimes we so want someone to "like" us we try to talk about the things they are interested in and become the people we think they want us to be, and in the end this never works. The effort on our part will cause us to tire and our partner will sense the artificiality.

I used to keep asking my partner to "tell me more about himself". He never had much to say - and thus I got no answer except what was obvious..he wanted a beer.

RE: Why does it always show me as being online?

CS says I am online a lot but the truth is I have walked away from the computer and just didn't log out.

RE: Do you believe in zodiac sign?

Don't pat Pisces on head when angry. I have fish teeth.

RE: Do you believe in zodiac sign?

Venusruled, who said I didn't know "anything" about Astrology? I have read about and heard about Astrology for most of my life. Just because I don't believe doesn't mean I dont know anything about it. I came to that decision through research. Many agree with me that it is pseudo-science; others are ardent followers. To each their own! That's what makes the world go round...differences of opinion and thought. How dull it would be otherwise. :)

RE: help me!!!

If a girl does not want a casual hook-up she won't respond to your profile. I would limit your search to the women on here who are looking for the same thing you are. Otherwise a bar is a good place or other hot spot - birds of a feather flock together and CS is more about connecting than casual play.

RE: Do you believe in zodiac sign?

Hi Yan,
I would agree with Max on this one. I may be wrong, but I believe Astrology has been debunked as a science. In my personal experience I haven't found it to be true.

To give an example, my mom is a Taurus, and they are supposed to be highly material. She is one of the most unselfish and giving persons I have ever met, and she does not prize material things. She can be stubborn as a bull, but so can a lot of people. :)

I think you can find traits in your sign that match you, and some that don't. If I could guess my astrological sign by all their traits, I would probably say Aquarius, but that is not my sign by birth, lol.

If you enjoy it I'd say have fun but don't let it rule your life (especially in horoscopes or future predictions). No matter how many people around you follow a doctrine does not make it true.

I have had friends into astrology and I respect their personal beliefs- each are persons with wonderful insight and uniqueness of gifts.

Good to see you posting!!! Hope school is going well! :)

RE: feelings

Very sweet guy. Thanks for the friendship, John!

RE: Why why ~ why are you always asking why?

It is obvious why we ask why.

We ask why because we believe there needs to be a reason for what perplexes us. Why did you do that? Why don't you love me? Why is there evil and suffering in the world?

These reasons don't always satisfy us and so like a child we continue to ask why until we are blue in the face, all reasons are exhausted, and we are left at square one: still perplexed.

WHY is this? Because sometimes there is no reason why. Some things are inexplicable.

RE: Life

I see Adam eating tacos.

RE: other blog not posted-why

Maybe Adam means Florida's retirement community.

RE: other blog not posted-why

Hi Easy!

If that's the case I'm moving to Florida, lol.

I'd also add to the Blogger that you might be more flexible in the ages you are looking for (I don't know how many 69 year old men populate this site). The blog mentioning Easter did post by the way so no worries. Check your blog entries.

RE: other blog not posted-why

I believe that you look young for 64 (is that your age?) but your profile pic looks like someone is theire early 30s. Maybe it is the discrepancy...you probably just have the wrong age on your profile?

RE: DOES A GUY THINK IT TOO FORWARD....

What is this profile doing here? The nerve.

RE: Beautiful,sweet and adorable little girl!

Moon,
ha ha ha ha! That picture of you in the orange suit is the funniest yet. Thanks for bringing a smile to my day.

P.S. Yes, the little girl is cute. She is blessed to have so much love in her life!!!

RE: Dealing with hate!!

You deal with hate by not letting it have power over you. Those people who hurt you, who put you down...also have hate in their lives and they are taking it out of you. Dont let it kill your spirit and dreams. There are others who will build you up and will care about you. But first that love has to come from yourself...you need to love yourself and take care of your life.

If you don't like your life the way it is, find the ways it is in your power to change it...whether that is finding new friends, moving to a new place, studying for a new profession. Love is stronger than hate but you have to let go of its reins in your heart - of anger towards those who mistreat you, of the bad things that happen. You can move out of the darkness you are in now...many people have done it to lead great lives. I wish you the best.

RE: Grammar and English

Somehow I get the impression you thought I was berating you when I was doing the opposite. Please forgive my lapse in not immediately knowing the definition of an artifical language (esperanto) as I have not studied language structure and linguistics as you have. I am sure there are many things you do not know I could explain to you. That's what makes us all human after all...having different levels of knowledge, expertise and yes, ignorance.

RE: My wife

You are forgetting gravity in a few years.

RE: A funny thing happened on the way...

Never fell down a flight of steps in my life either except last year. For some reason I didn't see the bottom few steps and went straight down in one painful thud. Shocked me too so I hear you. But you did have the slippery element...I just plain missed a spot.

RE: please give me some tips for deflation my ego/prid

Usually for a person to be God centered rather than ego centered they must be moved by something greater than themselves (through prayer for example). Prayer has an uncanny way of lifting us out of our selfishness and into the needs and cares of others around us. We can tell ourselves not be prideful or egocentrical but will power doesn't do much in this arena - the act of coming out of ourselves must come from without. jmho.

RE: HEEEEEEEELLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPP..........!!!!!!!!!!!

If you keep hitting your forehead like that, you will get a dent. That's not good because when it rains it makes a puddle instead of sliding off - anyway be careful with that forehead slapping

RE: ~The Cold Chill~

Adam, they are just trying to steak your tacos.

RE: ~The Cold Chill~

It has happened to a lot of people. This may not be what happened in your situation, but look up Sleep Paralysis.

RE: DELETING MY PROFILE IN 24 HOURS FROM NOW

You published THREE blogs threatening deletion in the last few days. Of course no one saw it because they were trying to IM you and you weren't answering.

RE: What Animal would you be??

Not a clam, more an oyster. If I can figure out how to get its pearl into my bank account.

RE: i dont get it

I don't want .02 Venus, I want a dollar...

RE: what type of person will u like to marry.......?

Must love fajitas