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RE: Benefits of Brevity

Well, it's true you wasted everyone's time, which perhaps was your point. I really don't like reading something that has no purpose, but of course it's your blog...guess you're having fun by the emoticons! :)

RE: My love..

The last poster was right about the wasted time that could occur if things go on as they are. Not only the three years wait, but the recovery time needed if there is a break up afterwards. You don't just "get over" someone you were emotionally with for three years. I am still limping over a relationship from years ago! Love can hurt, and wounds extremely badly. Listen to your friends, dear moon...and keep smiling and keep loving, from your heart!

RE: God is your supply

I learned this foundational wisdom several years ago, as written in your title. It's great to see you posting it here. Kudos!

RE: hmmm im not an atheis...but i doubt

lanee...

RE: The last and final blog entry by choice....

You seem to be a very open and highly sensitive person, and not all of us are going to understand you at first. :) Please don't leave CS because of what someone did or didn't do. I think you bring a uniqueness and special insight to this Forum, and am also sorry to see you go (if that's your final decision). Best wishes to you.

RE: hmmm im not an atheis...but i doubt

God created us out of love, and desires that His great love be returned, just as when we love someone our heart yearns for a return of that love.

God showed us just how great His love is not only by creating us, but by sending His son Jesus Christ to bear the price for our sins (which had irrecovably separated us from God), Who for the "joy set before Him" (His love for us) suffered and died for our salvation and redemption.

You ask why God wants to be worshipped. If you go deeper into the meaning of the word, you will find that worship springs forth from love. We truly worship Him when our love fills our whole being: "Bless the Lord, O my soul; and all that is within me, bless His Holy name." (Psalm 103:1)

God does not desire worship in the sense of a servant bowing in to a King, but the deep love, adoration, and devotion that fills the heart for a loved one.

A.W. Tozer defined worship in the same sense: "to feel in the heart, and to express in an appropriate manner." To truly worship God is not just to feel it within our hearts, but also to express that feeling. Worship is love communicated.

God does not want worship like a peon to a demanding Prince. God wants our love.

RE: STAY AWAY FROM THE LEOS OF THE ZODIAC!!!!!

Those Cancers seem to have claws, if I believed in that stuff, which I don't. I'm surprised the FBI would keep those kind of statistics, being they investigate and all. Astrology has no scientific basis and before zodiac lovers attack, that is just one little opinion so relax and enjoy your holiday!

RE: My love..

Plus add to this that you don't know how you really feel about someone until you meet face to face. Three years isn't too long to wait for someone you really love, but as you haven't met each other in person yet, it hasn't passed that test. Howie is right that you should try to meet somehow.

RE: Why believe when everything is always the same?

I did not mean we were meant to be single, but that sadness and needing another to complete us isn't the best way to start off a relationship. I nearly died when my longest significant other left me, because he was my sole reason for living...he made my world bright and when he left it went dark. I meant no disrespect and I understand very much how you feel.

RE: a million dollar question. .

Well now How...people agree on some things, on others they don't...that's life.

Lots of sayings about love. One everyone may agree with though: "love hurts". you know...like the song by Nazareth:



Anyway, Virgosign, your question, which is better, to love and to lose, or to never love? I would say it's better to love and to lose, because to never love would be a very cold existence, and if I were to never love, I could also never receive it.

RE: Sense Not So Common

Yes, I've always been taught to make my bed in the morning. It's standard practice (or supposed to be). Not everyone does it, of course.

RE: Why believe when everything is always the same?

Just from the fact that you have counted how many days you have been "alone" shows you are giving a sad vibe off to others . Don't you know that it is better to be happy single than unhappy with someone you shouldn't be with? Only other sad people will respond to this state of mind, so look for ways to light up your life so that when she comes along she will see a smile on your face and not a sign that says "I need you".

RE: What is it all about?

Adorable picture of your granddaughter's baptism!!!

You are right that you need to be happy alone and as you are. Otherwise, when you enter into a relationship not as a whole person, you become dependent on the relationship and it will be dysfunctional...not to mention cause searing pain if it ends.

I wish you happiness and love in future...send it out and watch it come backc.

RE: homeless in America

Your profile says you are the owner of a construction company. You have a digital phone (picture in profile), access to the Internet, and money for beer. How could you have absolutely no friends or family at age 30? It could be true, but no one at all?

You also say your roommate was "some Christian dude" but your profile states you are a Christian as well.

I don't doubt you are having troubles but we have no way of knowing who you are and your circumstances, to be giving you money or people in your area giving you a room in their home.

I would agree to go to your Church and try to find a referral to a rental or assistance there. If you believe in God and are sincere, I believe He will help you. Perhaps you should place this post on the site forums for your area (if you haven't already). I hope things get better soon!

RE: a million dollar question. .

Yes, and then there is the old saying/song, "You always hurt the one you love"...



just teasing ya!

RE: need an answer so badly

He is deeply hurt and no longer trusts your sister, so now he is suspicious of even more things he is afraid she may have done. He left to force her to own up to these things, or to save his pride. I don't know what you mean by "do all men think like this now". Try to see it from his point of view...his children are not his, and he thought they were for 13 years. Give him time to heal and rebuild his trust in your sister. If he refuses to give her another chance, that happens when there is betrayal this deep in a marriage, as terribly sad as it is. There is no reason for you to be afraid of getting married...you are a different person and hopefully will marry someone you can trust and who can trust you. No one on this site knows if your sister's marriage can be saved...that depends on the foundational love between her and her husband and if it is worth saving. If he really loves her, he will want to forgive her, but the wound is deep and fresh. It seems to me from your post your family is siding with your sister and he is the bad guy...just an observation that may not be true. I believe that God answers prayers in His wisdom, which is very difficult for us to understand but need to trust. There are people who will tell you prayers never get answered, and those that tell you they have received miraculous answers. I hope it all works out for the best for you and your sister.

RE: Please Help (its about a dream)

Are you afraid your mom might kill herself, or that spiritual forces in your home might cause something bad to happen in your family?

I agree with Moonlove that the best thing is to pray about the dream and be very careful about what you say to others. If the dream is from God you will receive help; if it is your own subconscious then perhaps you will understand how to find peace because it's clear you are deeply troubled about your home/life, and your family safety.

RE: was i a fool or was i fooled

Was I a fool, or was I fooled?
My heart he stole, my heart he ruled
Love grabbed my heart to wildly sing
With gilded pearls and a diamond ring

The days swam by in misty dreams
The sun shone bright, nights long moonbeams
Wrapped me in their glistening glow
I couldn't hear, I couldn't know

One starlit night he was on the phone
I heard his voice, I heard his tone
He hated to tell me, he was wrong
But she was beautiful, she was a song
He'd met another he couldn't lie
That's why he had to say goodbye

My heart stopped cold, my realized fears
Frozen in pain, locked in my tears
Why was he happy when I was in pain
Why was he free to love again?

Was I a fool, or was I fooled
In love's true ways I had been schooled
Never to be caught by love's sweet cord
Now that I had felt its sword.

by c.h.s.

RE: why?

lol, marykay.

RE: I could walk a thousand miles

Very sweet, jayjay. Now go knock her off her feet.

RE: BROKE MY HEART

Angeleyes, although this news story is absolutely heinious, one thing I'd like to add is that people on drugs are not themselves. They will steal from their mothers to get their fix, and can have complete personality reversals when under the influence. I know. A past boyfriend of mine used drugs and it broke up the relationship because of the turmoil it caused. For instance, although he supposedly loved me, he stole parts from my car to sell them, then blamed it on an anonymous thief, while he sympathized with me about who could do such a thing.

This doesn't excuse the woman!!! She was the cause of a horrendous death for her precious child, who had no more worth to her than her next drug supply. She also may be sociopathic. These are not normal people in that they do have a conscience. I understand your very rightful disgust at what she has done, but know that she is a very sad individual. If at all possible, try to hate what she and her accomplice did, and as you believe in God, pray for their souls and for the rest of her dear little daughter. They very much need it.

I only hope justice is served in this case.

Thanks for the recommending the movie, Solo!

RE: nightowl...?

I haven't had a decent night's sleep since I put a TV in my bedroom.

RE: I like rain

I like the rain because it seems to make things fresh, clean and new. The sun always comes out after the rain, and that reminds us of how it is true in our life as well.

RE: First Date

Their mannerisms and their energy. Some people have a short attention span...they are always glancing around, even when they talk to you. I like people who are really there with you in the moment, and not jumping ahead to what they will be doing next or holding the floor (making sure they are the main topic of conversation). If you can hardly get a word in edgewise on a first date, don't count on that changing. He (or she) is just getting started.

RE: Age differences..

Quite often the younger lady is looking for a father (in the sense to provide for her). Older men often have their own home and money to spend. Younger women like that...a lot. But they still like attractive men their age...they like 'em hot...that's the most used word in their vocabulary.

RE: Being human is should be treated like human!!

Moonlove, thanks for being such a wonderful person. You cheer me up, sweetheart. I hope things get a lot better for you!!!

RE: Man as a Subject

Only one? Wow, more than one man touched my heart, and yep, it hurt. Don't know what I was thinking, either. Perhaps I wasn't thinking. Now that's a thought.

RE: What's wrong with people?

I do have a question, if you don't mind, as it is your blog...how can someone make themselves feel chemistry with another? It is either there or it isn't. In other words, if the problem is there is no spark, what can be done about this "pickiness"?

Interesting topic, though!

RE: What's wrong with people?

I don't have a photo up as I'm not looking at the current time, but I wasn't really talking about myself...just in general. I do agree that people are picky!

RE: The proper way to behave in a response.

The "average price of carrots" blog was really about butterball turkeys, poorboy sandwiches at midnight and chocolate. But I digress.