First of all we are billions on earth. Around 6.615 billion people all over the world, with 102 men available per 100 women being thje global ratio of men vs. women.
So there are more men on earth than women. Let's take a quick look at how humungous some ratios are:
Qatar 307 men per 100 women United Arab Emirates 205 men per 100 women Greenland 113 men per 100 women China 108 men per 100 women India 107 men per 100 women
Source of this data is (The Economist, Pocket World in Figures 2010 edition)
So my friend, let's correct the perception. If you get hold of a good woman, hold on to her cos they have more men available
Most of our choices revolve around OUR "needs" and "wants". Needs have limited levels but wants are neverending and so are choices. Since most people have a misdirected sense of and confusion about needs and wants, the choices they make are equally inappropriate.
I think there is a classification of choices. Broad visionary choices that shape the course of our lives and relativey smaller everyday tactical choices that may or may not conform to our longterm vision of life and are more connected to temporary goals.
Moreover, people aslo confuse a compulsion with choice. Things that we are forced to choose when we have no choice. That's not a choice, that's a compulsion and the state of helplessness. Choices only occur when we have the power to choose from different things, matters, decisions. Whether Rational or Irrational.
Choices that are want-driven grow infinitely while becoming bigger and stronger consuming on itself. A want is achieved giving way to another want and so another choice has to be made
It is more due to the laws that inflict heavy costs in case of divorce. This, intead of protecting the instituion of marriage, actually acts as a detrrent to it. So, in the material world, people find a less costly ways to stay together. Prenuptual agreements are a way to mitigate potential risks.
Actually, a material benefit or loss is not a guarantee that the marriage would take place and would last. Countries and cultures not offering such laws have a higher rate of sustaining marriages and lesser rate of divorces. Quite Ironic.
The invisible bond of marriage is a committment between two individuals to love each other and be together through thick and thin. Nothing in the world can guarantee that the committment would be fullfilled, other than these 2 individuals.
Selfishness, false sense of material security / insecurity and lack of sacrifice ends up in persuading people to be stupid and break free from marriage. Happiness is a very relative term and is often shortlived. Only spiritual happiness lasts.
My late grandparents stayed married for life (50 years), and my parents still are, for the last 38 years. Both couples loved eachother unconditionally.
So my friend, the answer to your question in one line is that " true love is becoming extinct these days". Sigh!
Good that you chose to vent it out. Yes, I agree it happens. But then that's how most poeple on CS are. Quite ironic though, but this is the reality.
But.....it doesn't mean at all that there is perhaps something wrong with you. It's actually the fake people who disappear when they fear their real self would be revealved. So you should be proud of yourself that your genuineness forces the fake people to disappear. This is a gift you have. So rest assured they won't be able to take advantage of you.
If they disappeared, they weren't the ones meant for you. So it worked for your betterment eventually. What if the same wrong ones stayed for you and didn't disappear, I'd say it would be a rather worse situation.
So relax, enjoy and be positive. There are some real good people here as well.
You are very young and have your whole life ahead of you. It is sad to know what happened with you. As you said that you fell for him and that you had no control over your heart.
All I would say is that be positive and take a time out. Things will work out for your best. Trust me, a day will come when you would laugh over this situation of yours. Just hang in there and wait for the destiny to do the magic.
Err...I am confused...please help me understand. What is a borrowed person? Is it that you asked some woman to give you her man you for a few days so you could fall in love with him. Then you are sad cos you have to return him back since he was "borrowed"?
was it a man or a teddy bear? I hope it was a thing not a human. right?
I think in this case what people lack is Common Courtesy. But in a way it's an answer in itself and being silent and ignorant, this is how they actually silently reply " I'm not courteous and hence don't deserve a decent person's attention"
Please never care to contact such people again. By default they will attract their kind and you will attract yours. Birds of a feather flock together......Remember?
Sadly, we only come to know when somebody plays that game with us. The reason why there are so many players, is that there are many more fools who let them play with their LOVE. And that's the irony of fate
love is the most amazing feeling in the world. The fact is that you would regret not having loved and may regret after you've had it. Cos mostly it breaks heart!
wait a minute! I agree that the blog is emittinng positivity behind Chughtayejee's noble intentions. But I fail to understand why what you bought, got, your success and what you learnt doesn't matter?
I mean how could you teach if you don't learn first? How could you give what you haven't got? whether material or immaterial. I think it does matter. No?
Also, I don't really think I should expect people emulate my example. It's a bit too self-praising and more towards narcissism. I would rather expect others to do better than me and not make mistakes what I made.
What I like though is the feel of genuineness of intentions from you. And yes, Integrity, compassion, courage and sacrifice are all so valuable traits.
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Pegasus is very interesting. And why did you choose it Sandy?