Janmei Blog Comments (314)

RE: IM THE BOSS

makis, he is an American.

RE: Worry About You

mimi.. i read your profile. why do you mention your country?

good people will not disrespect you because of your country.

you should feel proud for being a Vietnamese, and for your leader Ho Chi Minh.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

a ha. thank you hugh and mimi.

today it becomes more like autumn. the sunshine is gentle, the wind is cool. autumn is always a good season.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

the last word a friend said to us last time may be the last word they said to us in this life.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

Hi mimi. Yes, I can not forget her. So I choose to forgive her.

I hope one day she will remember me and talk to me. I am always on her side.

Hi nice and easy.
Yes. Not reply on our messages, not reply our phone call, not talk to us anymore. Sometimes we wonder if we have done something wrong that makes them angry… but actually it is very simple: they forget us.

So I said, sometimes, the last word a friend said to us may be the last word they said to us in this life. When turning around, they will go further and further, only leaving a shadow or a memory.

Sometimes you stare at their phone number, their msn, their email, or their blogs, and can not see them active for a long times, you will wonder in your heart: Where have they been? What have happened to them? Are they well?

I guess that is something call… “miss”, which contains two meanings: to think about somebody, and to lose them forever.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

perhaps you are right. she is too busy. too busy in joining her husband's friends circle and forget her own.

well i have other friends too. not just her.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

thank you kcuc.

yes, that is the way friends become strangers. you know, when you haven't seen a friend for a long time, but you know they remember you, then you won't feel so lonely. but if a friend has already forgotten you, even though you meet them in the street, you will still feel very lonely.

have a nice weekend! i am going out to join my friends! so see you later!!

hi mike. well i read your latest blog and find that CT has recognized you. well..

no. it is just some casual words. not a novel.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

well i know you are talking about yanner.

who are you before this profile? you seem to appear recently but you seem to know us very well.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

oh.. bunnies? that Irish J-bunny23, the smart beauty?

oh she is much smarter than me.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

hi jim. your style reminds me of mike.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

thanks mimi and manroe.

forget her? yes, YY, DD and RR all said the same things.

but i guess i will choose to forgive her rather than to forget her.

and i will past her the link to KAI-FU Lee's 15 advices.

and i find it quite common that those who find their lovers will forget their friends in a sense.

but i think KAI-FU LEE’s advice is right: Never lose your friends circle or ignore your family after you find your lover, because if he leaves, it is exactly your friends and your family who are really behind you.

RE: A cynic's view of climate change

based on your blog and your pictures, i want to say that:

you are a smart beauty!

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

hi manroe.

but i am still waiting for her call. i hope when she is free from her husband's friends, she can remember me and message me.

you know, every word a friend says to you may be the last word he / she says to you in this life. every time you see a friend may be the last time you can see them. i don't want to lose this good friend in this life.

she hasn't used me. she just forgets me and her friends circle after got married.

hi mimi.

Yes, i understand. i can understand that we are too busy to meet each other. i am so busy that i can not meet her too. but i do not forget her. i remember her. just she forgets me. forget DD, RR, which is her friends circle. so when i asked DD and RR if they had heard of TT, both of them said "no".

anyway, i am going to sleep. wish me have a good sleep!!

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

that is fine, mimi. people have differet views.

but i guess i haven't said that friends should see each other day by day.

there is some difference between "not seeing you for a long time" and "forget you completely".

actually i feel pity for my this friend. because she forgets her friends circle, so her friends circle will forget her in the future.

if she remembers me only when she divorces, then i hope she will never remember me.

i also wonder what kind of friends they are if they remember you only when they need your help.

just my opinions.

EL: Those Who are Really behind You

hi john. i am fine, thank you.

hi hugh1. yes i got your opinion. thank you.

actually i haven't seen TT since september, 2009. before, i would see her 2 or 3 times in a year when i came back my hometown, because after high school, we have been in different cities. most of the time, we talked online.

this time i came back and wanted to see her very much. i missed her. i bought a gift for her too. but.. you know, when you are so good to a friend, but he / she is so cold to you, you know how you feel.

move to different place, be busy with our work and life, so do not have many times to contact the old friends... yes, that is the way we lose our friends.

EL: The Sky is Blue and Black

Thanks all!

Hi mimi.
Yes, the good comes after the bad. We should have some hopes.

Actually when I wrote this blog I was listening to a song. Its name is “tian hei tian lan”. When translated, it should be like this: The sky is blue and black. An old song I listened ten years ago.

Sunrise and sunset will make the clouds and sky red or orange or pink or yellow. Beautiful.

Hi yan.

If my memory is not wrong, this sentence should be the first sentence I could read when I opened Tolstoy’s novel “Anna Karenina” many years ago. It was written in Russian first. Of course I read the Chinese translated version.

The secret… I guess the real life is the source of writing, no matter it is a long novel or just some simple, short, casual words. My cs blog is just some simple, short, casual words without too many logic and layout because in a foreign language I can only write such kind of simple short casual things.

Hi hugh1. thanks. Yes, perhaps those stories are too messy. But I guess you just need to read the beginning and the end, then you can get the message.

Hi ben. Yes. There is something called “insecurity” or “fear”. From the earliest beginning of human beings, insecurity and fear have taken root in out hearts. Though we claim human beings are complicated advanced creatures, however, in 21st century, we still can not get rid of them.

Good night everybody!!

RE: I have all this, but the part i want is not here..

still you can not move on.

not many young boys will stick to a girl as stubborn as you.

but have you ever thought that maybe the one you lose is just an illusion? you said you have thought a lot since she left. but have you thought of one thing: if you were with her, she would become real and has some flaws; but she left you, so you thought of her very much day by day, so the more you think about her, the more perfect she becomes?

sometimes the lost one is not so perfect, just because we lose them, we miss them all day long, so they become perfect in our mind. what our brains have, may be just an illusion.

as a young boy like you, life is much more than love.

RE: IF...

Nice and easy. I love these several sentences. Good.

It is not about the interpretation. It is about the manner. But that doesn't surprise people. Some “rich” people always have a superior feelings and arrogant manner, which disgust other people.

RE: Sometimes…

you know mimi, not all things can go on in the way we want. that is sad but that is true. we met some people and then we lose them. but i also think that makes life beautiful.

not many people can accompany us to walk to the end of the life. those who can are those who are sincerely and truehearted.

and those who disappear will become a memory.

i think it is also a good idea to meet more people even though at the end, i will lose all of them!!!

EL: His Old Flames

battle field

EL: His Old Flames

Hi how1e.

1) hero?? Did I type this word in my blog?

2) “better than…”. As a “Rich business owner who seeks for young ladies” (as you said in your profile ), you must have talked to many young ladies and know something about their “general standards” about choosing a bf or husband. I don’t think you need me, a skin-deep, narrow-minded, short-sighted person to tell you.

Of course, some people’s standards might be a little against the “general standards”, such as… perhaps according to the “general standards”, you are “better than” him. “rich”, “business owner”, “Germany”, “get most of things” (said in your profile ha ha). But in my eyes, he is better.

But that doesn’t mean that you are worse… just personal view. I am sure in many young ladies’ eyes, you are “better”.

3) change her mind… So what should he do? Ring her all the time, follow her all the time, ask her to come back all the time when she decides to choose her boyfriend?

The boy I am concerning with has a gf now. He is quite happy. So what can I do when he is so happy with his gf? Send him lots of mails, ring him all the times, beg him to love me, go to his home and never leave, or even threaten to kill myself if he does not love me? Oh come on. That will only make him unhappy, angry, or dislike me.

I guess, this can be attributed to our old topic: think for yourself and think for others.

4) stupidity.. I guess everybody knows that love makes people stupid, unless they have never loved in their life.


Based on your latest comment to my last blog, I feel extremely sorry that my blog cost you so much times reading and typing so many critical questions.. I guess, as a “rich business owner”, every minute, every second will help you earn many money, but my blogs cost you so much time and make you lose so much money…

And I am extremely sorry that perhaps after this comment I can not write many new comments here to reply your answers because tomorrow I will have a 10-day holiday after some long busy working days… but I will manage to find some time to see if you have spent your “valuable” times typing “valuable” questions to my blogs again. Bye bye. Wish me to meet a young, handsome and “rich” man in my holiday.

EL: His Old Flames

Hi hugh1. Don’t worry about me. The only way to avoid being opposed is to shut up, but since I dare write something publicly and openly, then I have been ready to get flowers or eggs people throw to me. Bye bye hugl. I am going to have a holiday, so perhaps I can not see you in the coming days. I will miss you!!


Hi john. Thanks. Thanks for your sharing too.

EL: His Old Flames

hugh!!

He is also the one who walked across the bridge with me in your blog "That perfect day".

Thank you.

EL: The Way of the World

fine. i appreciate all the sincere comments here.. this blog have too long comments, out of my expectation.

i guess the world is differnt and everything has two sides: the good side and the bad side. like the way we think. perhaps compared to the west, we think in a not so free way, but in a responsible way. and in my eyes, the westerners perhaps think in a free way, but not a very responsible way.

but fine. two sides. can not say which is right or which is better. the world goes on in this way long before i was born.

thank you how1e. i sincerely say that you are very deep and know much more than me. you travel more places and meet more people and can learn from them. experience is very important. so i will learn from your comments and view them objectively because they teach me many things.

thank you mike. you are more friendly than i thought before. but i think you are too lonely in your real life. before i said that we take care of our parents and our kids but you do not understand this family culture very much. but it is exactly this family culture that make us feel not so lonely in this world. but fine, everybody has their own belief. i respect that.

RE: Need A Topic

hi. i think, if even yourself do not know what topic to write, then even others give you some inspiration or topic, you still can not continue to write it.

you don't need to think about what to write. as in the right time, right occasion, an inspiration or a topic will occur in your brain. and then you can think of it. after you know the whole story, you can put in into words.

if you have no idea what to write, go out to play. i always think that, a good subject/topic/story, just like the Mr. Right, will come at the right time, right place. do not need to find it deliberately.

EL: The Way of the World

hei hei. who say they have a perfect life? i have never said it. perfect life? nobody will say that their life is perfect. because in this world, no perfect.

don't worry about my sister. life is not just for marriage. she is happy there.

not excited. just because some people can type some words which hit the points, so everybody wants to talk about it. if you have the wisdom to hit the point in one topic, then i am sure many people will discuss the topic you find.

EL: The Way of the World

from every person's angle, one-child policy is extremely cruel.

from the entire human beings' angle, one-child policy benefits many people a lot.

with the natural resources fewer and fewer, food less and less, space more and more narrower, but the population expanding, one-child policy benefits many people.

EL: The Way of the World

well mike if i hadn't seen how1e's photos before, i would have thought that howle and CT are the same person.

i respect the part that we should care our parents, love them, do not abandon them, forget them, ignore them, or send them in old folks'home to let them live miseably and die alone.

but i am against the part that the girls have to be closer to the boys' families rather than their own families.

yes, differences make things interesting. but, if a west boy even does not know to respect his own parents, even abandons his own parents, and let them die alone in the old folk's home, how can he respect my own parents, and how can he understand that i will never allow my own parents live alone in the old folk's home. but the chinese boys who take care of his own parents will understand it easily why our girls care our parents so much. culture differences are very important.

what most west boys want are just some fun. when you have his babies, when he is tired of you, they leave. that is why so many single mothers and why so many children grow up in broken families in the west. but what chinese girls want is not just some fun. a good, complete family, so that kids can grow up healthily. that is something most of west boys do not understand. difference about life attitude is very important.

such kinds of differences can be a big problem when mixing races. a big risk. not worth.

when more men know that children's intelligence is decided by their mon's intelligence, then more men will like smart women.

as i have said, victory. in the coming years, there will be much more boys due to the one-child policy. that means many boys can not marry. that means another bigger victory will come.

actually being single is good. if i have a bf, if he knows that i am talking to a 45 year old, "rich business man" (as you said in your profile) from Germany, how would he think?

EL: The Way of the World

and now things change step by step.

after 1980's the one-child policy, more and more families have only one child. that is to say, some family only have one daughter or one son.

so in the coming years, women and men will become equal step by step.

before girls would be closed to her husband's family after marrying him. but in the future, it goes both ways: boys become closer to the girls' families, and girls become closer to the boys's families. step by step. i can see this phenomena among some of my friends. that is a good sign. a victory.

EL: The Way of the World

I was born in this cultural background, I am against it, so I have no other way to go. But I can solve this problem by choosing to forget it.

sorry for the missing word.