Thats a good way of putting it...its not possible for anyone to be without sin...which i think is a good thing really...but its how we portray ourselves, such as communication which helps to define us in a truer light!
Thanks for your comments guys...I enjoy reading other peoples thoughts/opinions :)
sometimes i wish i could zap into my screen and visit all the places i hear about....and still be home in time for dinner!! ;) thanks for sharing guys.............nice to 'know' ya :)
I look around at the people I teach and share some very personal stories and tales with them....I hear of marriages longer than I've been alive and still going now...I see people still laughing and loving after years of being together andyou just know they got the formula that works for them.
Some of us just struggle to find the right ingredients....for a while...but I totally agree with you....and anything less than you described is emotional robbery!! ;) lol
I hear you on this one, I have had a traumatic experience with trust also...but there is a way forward. I will say though that what works for me may not work for anyone else, but maybe it will...
The first part of it is recognising we have a trust issue in the first place, and for all the cliches of not tarring everyone with the same brush its not about them, its about 'us' so that said its really is just taking one day at a time. If you know there is potential with someone and he feels the same, have the conversation with him, explain how you feel but also let him know that its something you are working on day by day. most men do seem to understand and are ok with supporting someone on that, at least the good ones!
The biggest lesson I learnt was literally what MY limits and expectations were in any relationship, soon as I was honest wtih myself I learnt to stand for them, walk/back away from someone who is not of the same thinking but I never, ever try to change someone just because I happen to like them, that causes more distrust when they stand up for themself...we all have to grow at our own pace.
In time it does get easier, making friends, male and female is a big part of my life but getting to know how people work helps me understand the relatinships (of all kinds) in my life and value/delete them!
I dont think we should ever stop learning, we're only on this earth once and if we dont make the most of it we could be missing some great things!
The essence of learning is to ponder and put into practice that knowledge. Not saying I always do, I wish I did! But I agree that sometimes we need to just think!!
I am merely interested in how people think, I'm not struggling to get IN a relationship or OUT of one! Lol While I am happy with who I am and would LIKE to meet someone I also have a brain that likes to learn.
BSooner - I agree with your home ec teacher totally! The small things are still big enough to make or break some good atmospheres in a home but nothing is impossible if the maturity is present enough to compromise :) All I say is thank goodness for pressurised toothpaste bottes!! hahaha (joke, i'm the one that leaves the cap off the tube!!!) lol
When I was moving to the states I used CraigsList for finding some essential stuff I needed.....I'm still being spammed a year later even though I didnt move!!
I have to agree with you on the monogamy thing....I hear of so many men and women thinking the grass is greener in the next field and off they go to play, leaving behind possibly years of work on an existing relationship, family, home and all other stuff. Seems to me that not many have the staying power to get through the hard times anymore, fooling around and divorce is just far too easy!
thank you all for taking the time to comment and share your thoughts with me!! i have much there to think about..and yes i am a deep thinker and yes it does annoy some and please others, so i constantly have to keep it in check...hense me not wanting to share everything in my head! lol
i am now officially guilt free of any wrong doing by not sharing my jaffa cakes!!!! LOL
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that was cute!!! lol
What made you laugh?
ok thats good. i can keep a relative amount of dignity then!!!