Women are checked out. However distance, kids, interests, future aspirations always work to deny a possible connection. The fewer obstacles in the path of a possible relationship the better.
Distance is the problem. A girl hangs on for a few e mails and then realizes this situation is going nowhere. A girl quickly decides there is no chemistry and ends the contact. I tell the girl my main interests in the first contact. I expect her to ask questions or comment on my interests to facilitate communication. Most of the time they respond with mushy statements of love. If you don't respond to them on a daily basis they are quick to criticize or condemn you. Everybody's life doesn't center around CS even if it is a free website. Relationships take time to develop and grow. Women are in too much of a hurry to realize this fact. I love to get mail. Just wish it was from someone close to home so I could capitalize on it.
It is really great to interact with ladies around the world. However 99% of them want a husband not a pen pal. The correspondence and promises of lasting friendship quickly dissolve like an ice cube on a hot summer's day.
If you want to be treated with respect by a lady you have to be willing to share your inner most secrets (Skeletons in a closet) with her. If she finds out later; she will definitely feel you are deceiving her or withholding information vital to the strengthening of the relationship. If the truth injures her feelings for you; then the issue of trust is not present in your relationship. Both of you will have to part company and begin over with someone new at a later date.
Hopes spring eternal with each and every new contact. You send words of endearment and wait anxiously for similar sentiments in return. After a few exchanges you feel you are making progress. You are truthful and try hard not to act macho or controlling. Suddenly as a few days pass you silently see your latest hope of success evaporate into thin air. You search your psyche desperately trying to find the wrong word or wrong phrase that sent your contact fleeing in the opposite direction. You resume looking at profiles. You select one you like and send out a message. She replies. The process begins again. Someone asks you if you are having success on Connectingsingles.com. You bite your tongue and do not answer.
When you are young you are probably attending school with a large number of eligible people to form friendships with. After graduation people go their separate ways.
Responsibilities are always there for people growing up; house chores, earning money, setting goals in life, getting a driver's license etc.
People who need people have to gravitate to activities where people gather. Find out the activities that men enjoy participating in, put on a nice dress, bring a nice smile with you, act friendly, and see what happens.
Some women don't want a big age gap in a relationship. They don't want to nurse someone with health problems or become a widow soon after tieing the knot. They fail to realize due to death, divorce, or circumstances beyond a person's control an age gap exists. Looking for love is a continuous process. Stability and maturity should count for something. A woman has to make herself happy not worry about the comments of her friends and family. Better to meet all interested suitors rather than turn people away for superficial reasons.
You are on the money when you say people have to work to make a relationship successful. When people care about each other they tolerate the few irritations that the other person possesses. People today expect perfection. They are ready to separate as soon as something goes wrong or they have a disagreement with the other party. Ladies have to answer their e mails. More communication and more meetings are necessary for couples to bond and begin their courtship.
The good guys are out there. Don't judge a book by its cover. Don't condemn a guy for not having a great sense of humor. Be willing to spend some time communicating. Good things will happen with patience.
Answers to our romantic needs are part of the great unknown. We press on hoping for success, searching for answers to become part of the mainstream. We change our manner of contact, we become more confused and frustrated, we appeal to identical people on the site for solutions. Use the power of acceptance more than the power of rejection. Then and only then the power of the percentages will work in your favor.
People tend to have long memories. They hesitate to turn the page when meeting someone new and starting over. They carry their old thoughts both positive and negative and convey their opinions to their new listener.
Emotional baggage is painful to all parties.
Have a friendly disposition, be positive, honest, and respect others the way you too want to be respected.
A girl in every port. Bringing a girl aboard your ship to meet the chaplin one day after meeting her. Going to sick bay after a wild night ashore. Borrowing money from shipmates since you ran out of funds three days into a week long liberty period.
Great memories from an old salt on two westpac deployments.
A computer is a great barrier for rejection. Unable to keep your feelings intact if rejection happens in a public place; when it happens via computer at least you can laugh about it and move on.
People have to adopt a mentality of contributing to the world to justify their success in life rather than labeling themselves a failure because of an inability to find true love and allowing loneliness to consume their thoughts 24 hours a day.
Rejection should affect a person like a mosquito bite instead of as a terminal illness.
Commitment happens after a period of time. Both parties have to see each other in both the best and the worst of circumstances. If both parties admit they have faults but are willing to work together to minimize the damage commitment can take place.
Men stop seeing women after a date or two if they feel something better is out there.
Women demanding commitment right away want something that is not going to happen.
Patience is necessary.
Everyone has three lives; his personal life, her personal life, and a life together. Everyone needs some space.
Setting deadlines or extending ultimatums only leads to disaster.
Single websites are supposed to be a solution for those people not meeting others in volunteer environments, at dances, at bus stops, or being introduced by third parties.
Be patient. Hang in there.
Don't pay for rejection.
Get involved in some activities close to home and see what develops.
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Women are checked out. However distance, kids, interests, future aspirations always work to deny a possible connection. The fewer obstacles in the path of a possible relationship the better.