I believe that some differences are a good thing. It is then a journey to discover what motivates and engages the other person. Sharing some interests is good, but life is too short to not be challenged. Smiles and laughter, Shambellina
Interesting responses from the guys.... From my own personal perspective...I would like to be nurtured, listened to, able to communicate with the man, loved, trusted, able to trust him, romanced, appreciated, share laughter, talk, hopes, dreams....a man to be compassionate and understanding...strength and determination. Intelligence, zest.....able to cook (oops!) A man who can understand that sometimes I need to jumpstart the car or split the wood. At the risk of sounding totally romantic...a man who could allow himself to be pampered and respond in turn... I guess it's different for every woman! Smiles and laughter, Shambellina
Hi Billy, Isn't the sound of crooning magpies that most magnificient song? I love it. Sadly, nature takes it's course as I have discovered on many occassions. I love the warbling sound as the maggies serenade outside my bedroom window, but then I am filled with sadenss as they attack the weakest and defenceless newbie amongst them. Last year I found a little maggie, scrawny in appearance, sitting on a branch and looking very forlorn. I went up to it and realised it wasn't well. A lovely lady in our local community took it into her care and discovered it was blind. I guess the parents knew and had left it to survive the elements. This little maggie now lives a happy and fulfilled life in a sanctuary. Nature is pretty swift in its decisions.....it's us sensitive souls that have to wrestle with it. Here's to constant warbling from your maggies, Shambellina
Hiya sweet, You deserve to be much better than a dessert. You just have to realise that you are worth more than that. While you accept being the last course, that's all you'll receive. Show 'em what you are really made of and they'll be quaking in their shoes and wanting the be all and end all! Hugs and laughter, Shambellina
If you are concerned about being alone, then how do you really know yourself? I would prefer to be alone than in a relationship that I am not ultimately happy in. Best of luck Eeros, smiles and laughter, Shambellina
Thank you lovelies for responding. Billy, I'm not even aware of a barrier, it just feels 'numb' and that is such a strange thing for me to experience. I guess the subconcious has a strange way of protecting oneself? Ben, I take your comments as they are intended...so true and forthright. Why I have not seen this before? I guess I must go through the pain to reach the outcome. Sometimes it is just plain difficult to let myself feel the emotions now. They hurt. 22 years was a long time to love. But I suppose they are part of the process of learning and growing within myself. How scary.....to feel like this. Max, I hope I can one day trust another, it sounds like you have experienced this all and moved on, thank you for sharing. 10k, I hope there is a cure, alas, I will lament for the rest of my years!, I wish you sunshine and hope your heart heals too. Venus, have you been hurt and able to let yourself love again? As a woman, it would help me to know if you are happy to share your thoughts? I am so appreciative of all your comments, it has taken a little of the bleakness away. I am frightened of losing my ability to love. Smiles and laughter, Shambellina xx
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RE: Compatibility
I believe that some differences are a good thing. It is then a journey to discover what motivates and engages the other person. Sharing some interests is good, but life is too short to not be challenged.Smiles and laughter,
Shambellina