Real love is something that will never be taken away only that which we thought was love can. People mistake one for the other but someone else will love you the way in which you loved the other one and you will see the difference. Our expectations are what hurt. And expectations begin in the mind. Hang in there and let someone love who you really are not what you want them to see. We all want to be loved but we need to start by loving who we are and seeing the good within us. Not preaching to you just a Buddhist seeing the suffering that we all fall into including me and how we can stop the madness simply by having compassion for ourselves and seeing the great person who looks at us from inside the mirror.
Oh beautiful!! I was laughing because it is 11:02 in the morning and it say this was posted 3 hours ago and I was amazed that you were witnessing a full moon while the sun is just peeking out from under the hazy, marine layer. Don't you just love virtual reality:)
Hmmmmm me thinks that chasing that which is not ours is a waste of time. It is not a personal thing when someone is not interested, it is their prerogative. Don Miguel Ruiz wrote a great book called The Mastery of Love it is enlightening for sure and I highly recommend it for everyone who is seeking a relationship with substance. Wanting something because it is not available is silly. Wait until that someone who wants to know you lets you know. It you approach someone who is negative say thank you and bless them on their journey. Be happy you are not them because they are unhappy and feel separate from part of humanity. Separation creates suffering. When we can see the negativity for what it is and do not make it about us then we are free to love ourselves. Then life is a beautiful thing. This is all ideal you see as I am working on this everyday and would not be here otherwise. However, I have had plenty of men I have not returned e-mails with and some who I said thank you and no. Or have even not been replied to myself after reaching out. I just know that the right one is out there and maybe I will meet him here and maybe this is just a step in the right direction.
Thanks Drea111!! I hope that we can all have an opportunity to inspire each other and touch the next generation so they feel connected to the healing power of their hearts.
Yes I suppose that humans really are rather weak, yet I think that what we can create from our minds can either be acutely healing or extremely destructive. I am hopeful that my sons generation can be guided to use their minds in connection with their hearts to create some beautiful solutions. I have this dream in my soul.......
Perhaps too little too late for us to enjoy, but perhaps what we start now will effect our future generations. Never too late to put into place seeds to bloom later:)
I find it so hopeful when someone from the next generation has an insight and can articulate it. Well done! I have raised my son with a very different upbringing than I had. I was raised Catholic and I have a Buddhist practice which he can choose to be involved with or not. I also home schooled him for 6 years to give him a sense of who he is as an individual instead of feeling like part of a herd. I think Greg Mortenson (Three Cups of Tea) has the right idea, education especially for girls in countries like Pakistan is an important step in changing the status quo. Unfortunately there will be others like Florida who will insist that Capitalism is the way to continue but animals evolved over time I think it is time for us to do the same. Perhaps the survival of the fittest should involve eliminating those who haven't learned how to share what they have. At any rate you have given us all something to think about. Thank you for your words! Ann
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RE: Love hurts
Real love is something that will never be taken away only that which we thought was love can. People mistake one for the other but someone else will love you the way in which you loved the other one and you will see the difference. Our expectations are what hurt. And expectations begin in the mind. Hang in there and let someone love who you really are not what you want them to see. We all want to be loved but we need to start by loving who we are and seeing the good within us. Not preaching to you just a Buddhist seeing the suffering that we all fall into including me and how we can stop the madness simply by having compassion for ourselves and seeing the great person who looks at us from inside the mirror.