I am certain if you took a poll you would find more people who have been hurt. Of course I have been one of those people and I figured out if I keep my eyes wide open and don't wear my hear on my sleeve I won't be hurt again. It took me until 5 yrs. ago when I got my 2 divorce to figure that out. There will always be people out there who are looking out for what they can get, but if you view people with the eye of the tiger you will save yourself a lot of grief. I have been happier on my own then I ever was in any of my past relationships.
I wish you all the best. It would seem that you are looking for someone close to you or someone who will relocate for you. Unfortunately that may be a stretch as many women have children they can't or won't uproot for anyone.
Ladies may thing that distance is a problem because at some point in time a decision has to be made as to who relocates. Long distance relationships can put a burden on the parties involved unless someone sacrifices what they have. In my case, it has been the men who wanted me to relocate to be where they are. I have a life that can't be sacrificed, but it's either their way or nothing. I will take nothing if it means I am happy.
If you send someone a photo of yourself that is apparently different from your profile and they are not interested says that they are shallow. To some people looks and money rates higher than anything you can offer of yourself. It's a shame, but who needs someone like that anyhow?
Interesting post. Love takes time to build and before getting there we must run over a few bumps in the road. This is where we learn about ourselves and grow stronger. When the day comes that we do find the love we envision we will be ready for it.
Of course this has happened to me many times. Most people will not admit to experiencing something like this for fear of being considered weird. This kind of falls in with experiencing ghostly phenomena, and ESP when people hear about deja vu. I would rather be set aside from others then to fall into a crowd. Truthfully, I have experienced all of the above. Nothing wrong in being different.
So are you talking about in person or online? I had a pic that showed me in a skirt and was all the time complimented on my long legs. What bothered me is that I wanted to be accepted no matter how I looked for the person I am and not how I look. In truth, that hasn't changed whether it's online or in person.
It would be safe to say that many of us have been in the situation. I think it's better to start over then to stay with someone who is a player. You put all you have into it and get nothing back. You may be past the hurt stage and are now in the anger stage. This will pass as you heal. Things come one day at a time. Get busy, take time away from trying to date anyone until you feel ready to give again. When the time is right you will meet someone who completes you. Been there, done that, and have moved on.
When you are doing something that you hate, it is time for you to take some down time. Find something that you like doing the most and set that up to do when you get home from work. It will make the work day go faster because you have something to look forward to. I always like to have time by myself after being around others all day. If you give this a try you may come to be a happier person.
Since we never know what is in store for us, accepting the idea of being an old maid this early will be selling yourself short. I had an ex. husband tell me at the age of 46 that I had better get a move on because 50 was right around the corner. In truth, I am getting more attention at the age of 50 than I ever did at any time prior. I am alright if I remain alone and if I should meet someone, then I would alright with that as well.
The answer lies in destiny. Some of us are destined to find the right person and others have to succumb to pain from others before they meet the right one. The key is not to give up on the existence of love after going through a torrential relationship.
Looks don't have anything to do with who a person is. It may be your good looks that attract women, but they are only after what you have to show up front. Meeting someone who wants to be with you because of who you are is another thing. This takes time, but if you give up you will never win. There is someone for everyone and patience is the key to finding them. You can be drop dead gorgeous, but if you have the personality of a dog you will only attract other dogs. Hang in there!
Being there as much as you can with your friend will speak volumes about how much she means to you. The idea about the pictures and a journal for her family sounds perfect. What has made me smile in a dark moment is to have support and their sense of humor. It may not take away what is wrong, but lightens the heart just the same. Best wishes.
Being honest is never a bad thing, but sometimes you catch hell for being that way. If you were brutally honest you could probably get by with it because no one wants to touch that.
Well we have to begin somewhere. There are many more that we don't know about because not all wish to tell. I know of several who have found their soul mates and any one of us can be among the fortunate ones.
My life in a nut shell is like sailing to new horizons. I learn new things and do new things. I give it my all to maintain humor in the best and worst of time.
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RE: honest and trustworthy
I am certain if you took a poll you would find more people who have been hurt. Of course I have been one of those people and I figured out if I keep my eyes wide open and don't wear my hear on my sleeve I won't be hurt again. It took me until 5 yrs. ago when I got my 2 divorce to figure that out. There will always be people out there who are looking out for what they can get, but if you view people with the eye of the tiger you will save yourself a lot of grief. I have been happier on my own then I ever was in any of my past relationships.