I have being here long enough to see this happening from time to time and my conclusion to this is that some people look for entertainment and people give them the pleasure as simple as that. You need two to tango.
It is not easy to trust someone is a change we have to take sometimes, it is part of life. Sometimes you loose, well let me rephrase not loose but gain experience. Senses get trained with time and we learn to judge a little better to whom we give our trust to. Does it hurt when our trust is taken for granted? You bet it does hurt, would I stop trusting people and take changes? No, because that is not who I am. I believe in people goodness (foolishness I know)
Hi, I really appreciate if anyone can give me any advise or even comments about the area, school wise (high school) crime rate anything at all is welcome.
Well first love is a personal concept is what one think love is. Trust is just a part of a big picture. People usually look for love and happiness in others when there is not enough inside them. Love and happiness need to come within.
I will say that respect and communication are fundamental in any relationship with those two the future looks much better. In my opinion many relationships are destroyed or end because people are not true to themselves, they get into relationships for the wrong reasons deceiving themselves and others. Nothing good can come up out that but resentment and despair.
Another reason why I think relationships don't last besides the one above mention is that people think that by definition the other person belongs to them. Freedom is a wonderful state of being and being with someone does not and shouldn't mean that the person belongs to anyone but oneself.
Day by day I think it over and over and come to the conclusion that if I'm not respected as an individual and my freedom to love and do what makes me happy then I prefer 10 times to be alone. I am a responsible person and know what and why I would like to be and share my life with someone. I am a mature person who would like to find someone who shares the same views but until then I just keep being happy, free and in peace with the life I have constructed for myself.
I am not sure if this helps, but in summary yes I would say that loves is a little selfish and one have to do and what makes one happy and if one's truthful happiness is caring and doing things for others then so be. Trust, I am not so sure is the main ingredient for love.
One can even go as far as to say love is one of the most selfish experiences.
Find the following article about selfish love. (curious to find out your objective comments)
Your love for you - selfish love and other's love for you - selfless love
Did you ever realize or experience that ...
If someone ELSE cooks or bakes FOR you - that will usually taste much better than if you would prepare the very same food yourself FOR you !? Maybe a tuna stake?
Or if someone else GIVES you a gentle loving massage - it feels much different / better than if you would give yourself a massage ?!
Or that someone ELSE singing FOR you is more pleasant to listen to than if YOU would listen to tapes from YOUR very own songs !!
It is NEVER the job but rather the attitude and motivation WHY you have or do a particular job that makes the main difference between selfish love and selfless love !!!
One and the same job can be done sometimes selfish or selfless ! our choice.
Examples for selfless love.
1. Social workers 2. nurses, midwives, priests, ministers, teachers 3. medical doctors 4. rescuers - like firefighters, mountain or avalanche rescuers, rescue teams at sea, and similar 5. people having jobs for various humanitarian organizations - such as Red Cross, WHO, Unicef, FAO, UNHCR, SOS - children village and the many missionaries working far outside bible courses in field word or agriculture projects, schools or vocational training, etc. 6. healers, family counselors, .. 7. and many other workers 8. last but not least a mother.
If love is hard work then it is not love. We humans experience love in different ways. The way I see it is that love should be free.. Love to me is being happy and wanting the same for the person(s) that we love, by doing things and wanting the best for them without pressure.
I can only talk about the love I feel for my kids and the people who are closed to me . Love them and keep them happy most part of the time it is not always easy, but I wouldn't say that is hard job . My desire to see and do things for them can only make feel pleasure and happiness.
No one likes to be push or be obligate to anything and when things go that way (Houston you have a problem). If love is based on those principles then no matter what anyone do, it will not work and sooner than latter it will end and the love that was felt once it cease to exist!
At this present moment I would say, first my head, I know what and what I don't want in my life, then my emotions. But I can not tell honestly what will be a concrete answer to this, because I haven't fall in love for a long time and how we fall in love it varies and it can be a sweet surprise it can come without warning. He has to definitely be a special human being.
I can not prove to you that God exist , because he is not physical, nor I want to make you believe, you nor others that do not believe in his existence. One thing I can do tell is that he is real to me and that is all what really matters. I do read the bible as much as other people, nor I go to mass, because to me God lives within me and my actions. I lost someone very dearly to me almost 15 years ago and because he is not longer here I stop loving him, he is not longer physical matter, but I assure you he is still alive and he will be as long as I can live.
Well, you said it, you can measure the wind, but can you see it? You can test and see the electronics and chemical reaction,to measure feelings which are not necessarily can label as love (btw interesting way to explain love) now, people who believe in God can not see him either, but you can measure their faith by their actions just because they believe in his words, have you ever seeing the power of pray?
Hi! first of all let me tell you I do respect your opinion as anyone elves. Now Descartes a great mathematician, philosopher, believed in God as much he believed that 1+1= 2 and yet he question both. My question to you is; how do you know love, the wind, abstract things exist, if you have never seen them, how do you know if you are real that at this moment you are behind your computer reading this lines, how are you sure?
Question? not really, but rather thank him for putting good people in my path, who for just being there and having the patience and time to listen to me, when I most need it!
Question? not really, but rather thank him for putting good people in my path, who for just being there and having the patience and time to listen to me, when I most need it!
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RE: ladies name the most wanted things from a man.
A happy man, who loves himself, has a great personality. A man who respects and accepts people as they are and treats them as he likes to be treated.