I was the only little lamb in my family well into my 20's. By that point, my father had managed to romance a stout German woman with very fertile ovaries... and then I suddenly had a sibling: my baby brother!
To this day, we do not speak much but we never need to. We have an odd way of knowing exactly what each other is thinking. We've even fallen into fits of laughter without ever having said a word. My stepmom, would ask "what's all that about?" and we would both simply point to each other and laugh saying:
Yes... because he was/is a coward. I watched him turn around & do it to another girl. Oh well, you can only give them the knowledge, you can't make them use it.
Oh dear... the toils of being young & inexperienced. I wouldn't want to be that age again for anything!
Ok, look... you have a couple of factors to look at besides age. He's been really hurt, maybe for the first time. He's carrying that baggage around like it's designer. You've already been through a failed marriage & you now have a child. May to October is nothing... a drop in the hat. I doubt you can speed this guy's pace up & if you did, you'd only ruin the outcome. So... you'll have to decide, do you want to sit his little but down & say... "look I want this to work, screw the past... show me some dedication now or I'm walking"? ...or... Do you want to let him unfold before your eyes, at his own pace. Keeping in mind, just because his pace is slower than you feel is needed, doesn't make it a bad thing. I often find the slow but steady guys are the most dedicated, loyal & responsible.
The first thing would be to iron out this little matter of the so called lies. Real men don't need to lie to mommy & daddy about their dates. ...I'm just say'n, either he has some codependent issues or he needs to stop using cheesy tactics to impress you. Find out which it is.
Now, YOU have to go decide for yourself. Good luck.
I rather roll around in my bed all night, preparing it for presentation in the morning. If the cats feel it's well made, they will continue the rolling around while I am away.
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RE: PLEASE AMERICANS CHECK THIS OUT
I think I'll go hug all my Muslim friends & ignore the rest of this thread, too.