Now, see... this ^^^ approach will yield much better results than jumping up in front of the class & ranting all about the "woe is me" of your day. *demonstrative yawn...
Take a hint, if you're getting blown off by ALL the girls, it might be time to work on that special little approach you've been using. After all, this isn't a Mexican fast food stand. If you want to get your paws on a "Taco", perhaps you should take your two pesos & head further south.
*eye roll... wanders off in search of intelligent life...
Viewing a profile is just that, having a look. It's posted to be viewed & so it shall be. No matter who or why, the reasons are endless... it's what is done afterwards that counts. (Remember, some people have that option turned off. They have no idea who sees them.)
If a person wishes to be subtle, they can vote on a picture, send a flower, comment in the forums or send a simple complimentary note or card. There are no set rules as to how two people must interact & as such, no reasons to take name calling guff from some twerp behind an electronic shield.
Any man who utters words like "arrogant small minded shallow false woman" should remove the mirror before he begins dictating. In life, there are some pretty darned good reasons why SOME people are single.
Perhaps if the spent less time blabbering childish nonsense of that sort, they might encounter some beautiful people, maybe even find a mate.
Enjoy the love, live a good life. We who have seen your union bloom have the honor of smiling in the knowledge that your leaving is not a sad thing, but an example for all the new lovers to be.
Non smoking IS a condition for me. I don't mind helping the person quit but I simply can not be around the smoke. I am Asthmatic & I can not tolerate it in my home or being in the home of someone who constantly smokes. If it's a matter of my health or my dating, my health is first. Period.
Sometimes, there are reasons to set limits or have conditions to dating.
I don't know if it's the best... but it's got all the makings of one of the coolest.
Today was hard. I haven't had a shower and the AC has been out. It was a day too hot to sleep & full of construction trucks & drilling noises. Both my AC & my water main were broken. Most landlords let sleeping dogs lie until the last possible second... but not mine. He's a human. He drove out & spent the whole day with me, as if to make sure I wasn't suffering alone. He even offered to buy me a hotel room for the night but I have two sick kitties right now & can't drag them into a foreign environment. So, what did he do? Everything he could. He got every workman jumping & even managed to somehow get the city water dept to send out a crew to deal with the water issue pronto.
Here it is quarter til 2am & I now have AC, running water, chicken in my tummy(he bought me food) and a case of spring water to drink... all to make sure I was comfortable. Now all this is pretty impressive, granted... but there's one more thing my land lord did to make up for all the drama... He knew that I had wanted hard wood floors when I moved in. The floors in my place are... well, crap. The carpets suck & the wooden floors underneath were destroyed years ago. I had offered to split the cost of installing a new floor but I couldn't afford to even split the bill so it never got done. I had an interesting design in mind & doodled what the room would look like. The LL saw my doodle & we got talking about it. Well, he has outdone himself... he has just offered to foot the entire bill as a little peace offering for all the trouble I had to go through today.
Just stand in the silence of it all and open your eyes... look at all of it with clear eyes. If that means you have to cry them clear, then do so. Once you have noticed all the losses, look around you. Look at the little stuff that you didn't notice.
After Katrina, I took a silent moment just to listen to the sounds of people coming out of hiding. It had a deafening roar to it & I almost let it bring me down. I was spending so much time looking around the ground I almost walked into one of the biggest spiderwebs ever! It was about 4' across and had been spun in the bend of a destroyed pine tree. Most impressively, was the huge Monarch butterfly it had caught. No doubt this little guy had been hiding somewhere throughout the storm & now he was about to enjoy his first real meal. I think I watched him for 15 mins, carefully wrapping up this delicate meal for later. It was as if he was saying grace before dinner.
This small moment brought the reality of all the sadness into perspective.... it was just one second in time & now all my tomorrows were fresh & new. You too have all fresh & new tomorrows. You have the most important jewels anyone could ask for, your friends & family. All is well now. Be alive.
It just depends on what you want to achieve from the massage. A professional massage starts out gently & becomes more intense. You start at the core & work your way away from the heart, never towards it. Do not neglect the hands & feet, they have millions more nerve endings & vascular supports than the rest of the body. They are areas that hold a great deal of toxins as well as stress. Use a non greasy lotion or natural body oil(almond or coconut work well) so you don't make the person's skin sore. It also makes rubbing the muscles easier to do. Try to learn about the areas where the muscles actually grow, instead of where you feel a lump. No one like to have a bone rubbed, so stick to the areas of musculature. Keep the rub simple & short. Unless you are a trained professional with experience, you can do more harm than good pretending to know what you are doing. Don't rub too hard. More injury can occur from a hard rub, if there is something medically wrong with a body part & you aren't aware of it.
Just keep to the basics, don't go over board & you can both enjoy the experience. An even better idea is to take trip together to a professional masseuse. Have a couple's massage together & enjoy the whole thing at the same time. By doing that, you will learn a little more about proper technique, as well.
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Some days I wonder why I come back.Will the little cat fights & pissing contests ever fade?
I mean, seriously people... where's the gain in it?
For those of you who know I still luv ya...