I went on Google to find her blog, and one of the links was to her identical post on another dating site. The responses she got there were even nastier, ruder, snider than anything anyone has written here.
I think the reactions of people to her straightforward and sincere search for her personal match tell a truckload about the mentalities of the people who end up on these sites.
Of course the name of the other site was probably a clue to the sort of people who would join that site. It had the words hook-up in the title, and the people joining that site were not inclined to be at all receptive to her outlook at all.
My reaction to reading the responses of most of the people there is that these people have a lot of spite and bitterness in their own attitudes about their own frustrated sense of loneliness, and they need to lash out at someone who doesn't fit their sad juvenile mindset.
One thing she's accomplished, at least, is made it clear that the other site is one I would not want to join.
The contact restrictions might make it hard for people to tell you about their friend, brother, etc. They would want to give you that personal information privately, and find e-mails to you blocked because of their own profile settings.
Green thumbs should mean "this comment was particularly well put". Red thumbs should mean "this comment was unhelpful or mean".
When the red thumbs are used just from a grudge against a particular writer, then they lose their usefulness.
I think it would be good if we could see who gave the thumbs. I'd actually rather have it made known which posts I gave a green or a red thumb to. Even if I were giving red thumbs out of spite, if someone had annoyed me that much I'm sure I'd actually prefer to have my personal grudge visible. The anonymous red thumbs are both cowardly and silly.
If someone was being stalked by a red thumb enemy, it wouldn't be such a bother as long as they could see it was the same person every time.
So my suggestion is keep the thumbs but make them not anonymous.
to say you know something, from having lived a while
to say you've learned something, from having been around a while
to have learned from experience, from having done a few things
to have learned from observation, from having watched and listened
to decide that you know what you think, because you've had enough time to have thought about things
to have altered your opinions about some things, because you've experienced things and learned from them, and because you've had time to think and rethink things
to have retained your opinions about some things, because you've had time to observe life and to rethink things, and to have seen which of your earlier opinions have held up over time
to decide that you don't particularly care about the opinions of others, because you've heard most of them many times before, and you've seen what little value was in most of them and how very little use there ever is in trying to argue or debate with anybody about anything, how little it ever accomplishes
to prefer to be left alone
to not care whether you're living up to other people's expectations
to admit that you don't know some things, because nobody knows everything
WHEN YOU'RE YOUNGER, YOU ALSO HAVE CERTAIN RIGHTS:
to say you know something, from having lived a little while
to say you've learned something, from having tried a few things
to learn from experience, and to try a few different things for yourself
to learn from observation, to watch and listen
to try to decide what you think, because you have to reach those decisions on your own
to alter your opinions about things, because you still have a lot of new things to experience and learn from, and because you have time to think and rethink things
to retain your opinions about some things, as you observe life and see which of you opinions hold up over time
to decide that the opinions of others don't have to rule your life, because you have to make your own decisions and determine your own life
to choose to be alone if you really prefer it
to question other people's expectations of you
to admit that you don't know things, because that's how you learn
Spelling skills here in general are poor, nobody bothers to use spellchecker. Everyone talks about having a sense of humor, but half of them need to have jokes pointed out by means of little cartoon emoticons or else they cannot see the intended humor.
And if I haven't scared you off yet, here's a creepy clapping bear that should do the trick.
Confidence very often goes with stupidity. The stupidest people are often the most confident, because they're too stupid to know how ignorant and horrid they are, and too apathetic too care. Beyond even that, they actually enjoy and are proud of every horrible thing about themselves, because they're stupid.
What is the subtle distinction between "confidence" and aggression?
The most intelligent people are very often the ones who appear the most insecure. They'll often be called shy, even if shyness has nothing to do with it. They've learned to hold themselves back from a society full of aggressive idiots.
And so you keep going after the aggressive idiots, the ones who are proud of their own gluttony and therefore appear "confident" to you, and then you come back later with your horror stories of what selfish jerks they "turned out to be". And you go around crying about why can't you find any "sensitive, caring" guys.
Well the sensitive ones are the intelligent ones, more often than not the quiet ones, and very often the ones you perceive as insecure, and therefore unattractive in your eyes. Stupidity, aggression, and loudness, go together, and they pass themselves off as confidence.
A 728 lb. person who is trying to reach 1600 lbs. is not just big, not just stocky, and certainly not voluptuous. She is also not intelligent, and whatever her face started out looking like, by 728 lbs. it is no longer going to be cute except possibly in the eyes of an actual hippopotamus.
There's no excuse for that kind of deliberate gluttony..
Would I "go out" with a confident 728 lb. woman? How could she even GET out if she tried? That's just totally obscene and inexcusable.
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There’s a country, named ‘Wales’! How is it?
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