Well apparently I am going to go against the grain :)
I think looks are great, but I also think if you truly get to know someone and fall in love with their personality then sometimes they become more physically attractive. I know it sounds crazy, but it's happened to me a few times.
As a few others have mentioned looks do fade, so I base very little of my opinion of someone on that. People get older and saggier, gain or lose weight and in general change in some way or another, and although I understand what everyone is saying that once they love someone the change in looks isn't as big of a deal.
I also don't agree you can only be passionate with someone you are physically attracted to. Actually a dated a guy who I honestly did not find physically attractive, but we had such an amazing chemistry and passion that there was no denying it.
I don't think it's shallow to care about looks, but I agree with others it's best to look at the whole package! I rather have someone who is a great person with a bit of a beer belly (that can be fixed, personality can't) than a model who is just decent personality wise.
I've dated all body types. Personality is most important by far for me because looks fade, but a bad personality is forever.
That being said their is a type I am attracted to more than others. I personally have a thing for stocky guys, always have, and most likely always will. But would give any nice guy a chance. The guy I am looking for can be in any body :)
1. Age 2. Height 3. Personality (eg. low maintenance, no drama ect.) 4. Interests and hobbies (no one wants to admit they just come home and watch TV every night 5. What they are truly looking for - such as saying as long as he/she's sweet and not meaning it or I just want a casual relationship that stays that.
haha I agree, my issue is not many guys in my area. I was more talking about when I am out and about. I am also clueless on telling if a guy likes me or not :)
I guess that's what you get when you are with the same person since you were 11 haha.
Oh well, maybe one day I will get over my shyness
I do agree though, sometimes great, outgoing people get too shy about that particular area. It's pretty scary, luckily girls are usually approached more then guys. Flirting is a new, and an incredibly complicated concept for me. So many unwritten rules in dating...
I feel lonely and today particularly feel like there is no hope. Seems like my relationships never work out. I think it will get easier though, after 6 years of always having someone by your side...an adjustment period is needed.
I think the biggest thing I could do to improve my chances are to be less shy and maybe flirt a little. That fear of rejection gets in my way every time though.
I am surprised by the reactions. I actually read the question a few times just to make sure because the answer seems simple to me, but obviously some disagree.
I think if someone is cheated on then in general yes I feel bad for them. Of course there are some circumstances like that person cheated first (not right but at least it's karma) or they were split up for that time but in general. I was cheated on and although I was by no means perfect cheating is never ever the answer. If you don't love who you are with talk about what you are not satisfied with and if you can't resolve it, end it. Simple as that.
I can not find one decent reason for someone to be cheated on, no matter what if you made a commitment to someone in any kind of a relationship between dating and marriage nothing could validate breaking vows, promises and trust. Even if someone made mistakes and was not fulfilling their duties (emotionally, physically ect.) then they need to deal with that. Cheating doesn't fix anything. Everyone is worth more then that!
I would like to agree with ".if someone dates you then we all hope it is for the right reasons ....and there is only one way to find that out ...besides would you WANT to date someone that makes you feel less for your income...." and a lot of times (at least in my experience) guys who are financially well off are often egotistical, and treat everyone as lesser. I would go for a poor nice guy over a rich jerk any day of the week!
If I was a wealthy woman I would be concerned about emasculating a guy and making him feel like he was incapable of providing, so I think everyone has those insecurities, no matter which side of the fence you are on.
Also a note of addition to my previous post any woman who would expect you to pay for a lavish meal when you can't afford it shows little class in my opinion.
I think when you pick somewhere to eat you should think about whoever is paying budget. Although pricey restaurants are not my thing anyway. I think I have had better picnics, and great hole in the wall dinner dates then somewhere overly pretentious.
I get your point though and I would say if a woman is wealthy and wishes to go out for a pricey meal that her date cannot afford she pays, or it's a rare occurrence that happens every once in a while. Still would expect flowers though :p
There is going to be gun crime everywhere with high populations, but Canada does have one of the lower gun violence ratings. I think he was referring to freedom of speech, democracy ect. as well as literal freedom such as wilderness perhaps.
I don't know if it's the safest place on earth, haven't been everywhere else but I do love it and also never lock my doors :) No need! I sure do love Canada though, wouldn't want to live anywhere else!
I think it depends on the people. I wouldn't just because I don't think I am ready to be a mother figure yet if it became serious even though I love children and want some one day.
I think single dads are wonderful people though, and have lots of great qualities, but I also have noticed many don't want anymore children.
I think it's kind of sad the amount of men who think all women are money hungry and vicious. I agree that as long as a guy can pay for his own life I am happy. Of course I don't want to be supporting someone or getting into a relationship with someone who cannot manage their money or gets themselves into debt but beyond that I don't care.
I am not sure if this is from experience or media but I think that most women in 2011 are content supporting themselves. I hate reading guys being so negative about women and how we are just after money and looks....I can't speak for anyone else but I know I have been looked over, ignored and insulted by how I look by guys. I don't let it worry me because I know I am a good person, but my point is I think to say women are money hungry and focused only on looks is not only incredibly incorrect, but also quite insulting to those of us that aren't like that.
Can't put everyone in one gender into a group. I apologize for the rant, but I am quite annoyed with reading the negativity about women by some of the men on this site. If you think all women are terrible why do you bother with a dating site. The attitude is not very becoming, at least in my opinion.
On topic, as you have most likely guessed I look at the person, and every ex I have can vouch for that!
Very good for you! We need more people like you on the planet. If you have enough to share why not. I know I have been in tight situations and am eternally grateful for the people who helped me. Good job helping others just because you can.
I did it for 6 years with a guy I met online. After about a year we met and visited each other 2 or 3 times a year. Worked out well, ended up dating for 11 and a half years.
Takes a lot of trust, commitment, and a great long distance plan :) Certainly possible in my experience if both parties are willing to put in the effort.
I like that you volunteer your time and energy into something wonderful and that you give a detailed description of what you want, and what you have to offer!
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She must have been walking beside my one guy...
RE: Shallow but true ( I have noticed about myself)
Well apparently I am going to go against the grain :)I think looks are great, but I also think if you truly get to know someone and fall in love with their personality then sometimes they become more physically attractive. I know it sounds crazy, but it's happened to me a few times.
As a few others have mentioned looks do fade, so I base very little of my opinion of someone on that. People get older and saggier, gain or lose weight and in general change in some way or another, and although I understand what everyone is saying that once they love someone the change in looks isn't as big of a deal.
I also don't agree you can only be passionate with someone you are physically attracted to. Actually a dated a guy who I honestly did not find physically attractive, but we had such an amazing chemistry and passion that there was no denying it.
I don't think it's shallow to care about looks, but I agree with others it's best to look at the whole package! I rather have someone who is a great person with a bit of a beer belly (that can be fixed, personality can't) than a model who is just decent personality wise.
To each is own though I suppose.