What needs of his are being met is what I don't understand? I'm not giving him anything. Just a random text ever other day. As for discussing it with him. I have and he says that he hates being glued to his phone and that when he gets back from this job he is doing he will make it up to me. Is danieljosh right though? No matter what his job is... should he still be putting a lot of focus on me? We just met and I would think it is okay that he puts his job in priority over me. Yet, I also feel that if he cared to keep my attention that he would make an effort. Since I have spoke to him about it and he told me what was up, I almost feel that I need to stick it out. Would that make me a fool though?
That's where I am confused. I've given him an 'out' during our conversations. I have even voiced my concern that I feel he isn't interested by his lack of communication. He tried to assure me that he is honestly busy with work and not to give up on him... Why this one has me so puzzled.
I'm not sure. He made it clear on the profile of the dating site he was part of (he deleted his profile after meeting me).. that he said that the past is the past and that he doesn't reflect on past relationships and would like a woman who is the same.
So, I met this guy.. a local one. We went on a date and I received mix signals from him. There was a steady flow of conversation and at one point we went to a park and sat at a picnic table to talk. I had mentioned I was cold. Most guys would take advantage and wrap his arms around a woman to offer warmth and to get close. He did not. Having worked that day he was rather tired and ended the date abruptly saying that he was really tired. Said he wanted to go home and sleep. When I got home I went on Skype.. and there he was online. I took the initiative to communicate and said hello and asked how he was since he had been tired. He said he was fine and we started to talk about how the date went. I told him I felt he wasn't interested. He said that wasn't the case at all and that he is very interested, but didn't know how far he could go and wanted to respect my wishes to move slow.
Fast forward to a few weeks later.... We talk once in a while, but typically only if I initiate the conversation, with him doing so perhaps once or twice in the past two weeks. This is always through text or Skype... never on the phone. He says he doesn't like to be glued to his phone. Sometimes he doesn't even reply to my texts.. or we will be in the middle of a conversation and he will stop replying. When we do get to talking it is great. We share common interests and such. He also at that time comes across as interested. We have yet to get together again.. and only I have brought up seeing each other again, which he says he would like. Only problem is... it doesn't happen? Just wondering if I should move on.. or give it time?
Don't give up.. and don't 'settle' for something you don't want, just because things may come a bit more difficult for you.
You seem like a lovely man and I certainly would give you a chance.
As for preferring an able bodied woman to a disabled one, I can understand what you are saying. It would be more difficult for two disabled people to have a relationship. Not sure if this is the right place to have a poll though? I think that people's opinions may differ from place to place. How are women in your country feeling about this?
Thank you kindly. Sometimes I get so excited or passionate about what I am posting that I leave out some little thing that would make my post a bit more insightful though.
I'm not opposed to a long distance relationship. Just need to be up front on the relocating situation real quick. Sometimes that makes things too serious too fast. Then one or the other gets a bit flighty. SIGH
I suppose I didn't state as to why I still come to CS. I have made friends here over the years and perhaps it is even out of habit that I do come back. Also, I am a single mother of two younger children... so this is a social outlet for me when I have time to myself.
I suppose this is my case. I have been here on CS for 5 years. On my profile I state that I am looking for chat/pen pal. There was a time I used this site to be more active in actually trying to find someone. Realistically after having had some interest shown between myself and a few (not at the same time), I have come to find that distance for me is an issue. So, although I am still waiting for the right one to come along, I'm not seeing this as a place for it. Though, if it happens, it does and won't be closed minded either. As for setting my status the way it is, I did that because a chat/ pen pal is more or less what it would have to be seeming there are no men from my local area.
I dated a man who was born with spina bifida. He was wheelchair bound and one of the sweetest men I have ever known. I don't doubt that we would be together now if he hadn't passed away.
Good to hear you devote time to spend time with your child. Although I don't quite understand this man's situation yet, I believe the other replies have opened my mind to the fact it might not be in his control.. and that I shouldn't have passed judgement too quickly. Thank you kindly for the reply.
You are right, but I have already stated that I was wrong in assuming things about this. Was just initial feelings about it. Feelings happen, doesn't make me a bad person.
kelsann Forum Posts (139)
Very well put. That is how I felt. Just didn't know how to say it.
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