I don´t think I do look too deeply, I simply read what people write about, unlike many here. Perhaps its all about perception.
Whilst I agree with much of what you wrote, it bears little relevence to the OP. If you read Pubs post after yours, I think it proves my point. The primary concerns are about this specific disease, and how it may affect the child which you didn´t address at all. Who actually READS posts I ask myself, it isn´t about looking deeply into anything at all as you say.
Pub, I´m so sorry you have this worry about your unborn grandchild and your son, I do believe there are tests to determine whether an unborn child is at risk which may be worth speaking to the doctor about.
Your support is all that´s needed which, I´m sure you´ll give wholeheartedly, despite the "in-law" obstacles.
Everybody is commiserating with you about your relationship with your daughter in law, sad though that is I agree, but I thought your thread was more about concerns for the unborn child.
I´m afraid I don´t understand your thread clearly Pub. There are some holes in what you wrote.
Did your son tell his wife and her family that he had sickle cell before she decided not to take her contraceptive pills?
This disease is something few people really understand. I certainly have no knowledge of the consequences for an unborn child if one or both of the parents are carriers.
I have two siver lockets each containing a curl of my son and daughters baby hair.
I rarely wear them as I´m a jewellery fanatic, and they are now outdated and clumsy looking. However, they are still treasured.
Charm bracelets are another old-fashioned item of jewellery. I have one full of pretty charms which I´ve had since my 18th birthday, but again, I don´t wear it any longer.
I´ve heard some good cover versions, particularly when a modern beat is added to a much older original. However, I´ve never heard a cover that is better.
To illustrate what I´m talking about, compare the folowing.
I´ve heard some good cover versions, particularly when a modern beat is added to a much older original. However, I´ve never heard a cover that is better.
To illustrate what I´m talking about, compare the folowing.
Yes you did come across as a little down. People often put on a brave front here, or promote a different persona, not sure why really, but I´m quite perceptive.
I´m here tonight because my boyfriend is nursing his sick mother. His father is there, but as Javi is a doctor, his mum feels more comfortable when he´s around.
That´s another thing I love about Spain, care for the elderly and family values still exist.
I didn´t say you were negative. I was referring to my voice being the only negative one about online dating.
I´m sorry that you are alone in RL at the moment as you said after this post I´ve quoted. It happens to many of us at some stage in life, and my remarks about having good friends and a social life may seem (unintentionally) flippant to those like yourself in such a position.
There are a number of links which I could post, but I´m sure most people don´t bother to read links anyway. Just be sure to read information which does not come from a self-promoting online dating company.
You were lucky then Robert, one of the few I mentioned. However, there are also studies which state that internet marriage also has a low success rate.
Other studies have come up with figures stating that self-effacing men are more successful in online dating.
That can´t be true though can it Robert, given your "success".
I seem to be the only negative voice here, and I´m sorry for dampening everybody´s optimism.
Do you have Spanish friends too? I found that the very few English people I met here in Murcia city centre were teachers like me, but much younger generally, and to be frank, not really teachers, just English speakers travelling around for fun.
As soon as I started making Spanish friends my world opened, and they are very dear to me.
Online dating doesn´t meet expectations for the majority of users in the romantic aspect, there is no doubt about that, and statistics back it up.
I do agree though that "inhibited" people, who perhaps are loners, may find it much easier to at least strike up a conversation on a dating site. That does not guarantee success though does it.
Your Bathroom Habits Say You're Selfish You are very independent and self-centered. You don't solve other people's problems - and you don't expect them to solve yours.
Your look is put together, classic, and stylish. You always look fashionable without trying.
You have the perfect blend of confidence and class. You're proud of who you are - but you don't broadcast it.
In relationships, you are practical and realistic. You have a romantic side, but you only let it out when it's appropriate.
I don´t agree with part of the first observation. I spend a lot of time helping people, though I dislike asking for help so that part is right.
Well one only has to look at the well documented statistics to discover that online dating has an extremely poor success rate. I´ve never been under any illusion here, as I´ve said before on many occasions.
I´ve had seven online dates in three years, all of which were disappointing, or not what I was expecting for a variety of reasons. In between, I´ve also had RL dates, which although did not go beyond three or four dates (until recently), were much more enjoyable, and easier. No emailing back and forth for months on end, an immediate physical attraction, and all the other advantages of meeting somebody face to face.
There are a few exceptions here on CS, but in comparison to the membership number, online dating sadly fails to "come up with goods".
I think one has to maintain a good social life, which isn´t difficult in my part of the world where everybody socialises outside due to the good weather and tradition, and people are not reserved, so it´s easy to strike up friendships.
If that isn´t possible, then online dating can be an additional aid, particularly to boost ones confidence, (though it can also be a cruel place) make friends, and learn about other cultures if nothing else.
Hmmm let me see....Perhaps because most "cool" attractive, young girls generally have no problem getting dates in RL, so don`t feel the need to join a dating site. If of course you´re referring to your experience here.
How old are you? Mid to late thirties? If so, you´re hardly a youngster, therefore a woman in her early forties may not be too old for you, and there are plenty within that age group on CS.
Maybe it´s those much younger than you, in their twenties for example, that you can´t relate to. Not surprising, they probably can´t relate to you either.
I´ve already responded to the OP some time ago. I was replying to your response to another post made by freckles (sorry I know I didn´t get the name quite right).
Of course there are few people who really see themselves as others do, but that is not the same as somebody describing themselves as 6 foot tall and fit when they are quite the opposite, or when someone has specifically requested certain attributes in a potential partner, yet someone who is poles apart from that sends messages.
I think women generally get the flack here for not being honest, or not open about their physical appearance, but as the poster said, albeit a little insensitively, it works both ways, men exaggerate the positives too.
Yes she is only 18 and does have a lot to learn, but I married at 18 and had a good head on my shoulders.
I think she was exaggerating a little, and perhaps a little mean with her choice of words, but you are right, everybody has the right to contact another on a dating site.
However, only if that person has actually read the profile first AND there are no HUGE differences in what he or she is looking for.
Sometimes a little flexibility is a good thing, and small differences can be worked around.
As for the OP, 3000 euros is probably much less than the going price for people willing to accept such an offer. Also as scousedon said, it is not as easy to go through such an arrangement as simply handing over money and taking part in a sham wedding ceremony.
I know a few genuine people who have married people of a different nationality, yet the red tape they are dealing with to enable them to be together in one country is still insurmountable.
Your standards shouldn´t drop at all, and as others have said, we all get the too old, too young, or simply haven´t paid any attention to profile interest.
However, as you are expecting a baby you should also recognise that your success rate at finding someone is significantly reduced.
Thats life, and the odds are stacked against many people for a whole host of other reasons.
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RE: I do not get this...
I don´t think I do look too deeply, I simply read what people write about, unlike many here. Perhaps its all about perception.Whilst I agree with much of what you wrote, it bears little relevence to the OP. If you read Pubs post after yours, I think it proves my point. The primary concerns are about this specific disease, and how it may affect the child which you didn´t address at all. Who actually READS posts I ask myself, it isn´t about looking deeply into anything at all as you say.
Pub, I´m so sorry you have this worry about your unborn grandchild and your son, I do believe there are tests to determine whether an unborn child is at risk which may be worth speaking to the doctor about.
Your support is all that´s needed which, I´m sure you´ll give wholeheartedly, despite the "in-law" obstacles.