So you should be! As I am of the choices I´ve made in my life during the past decade.
When people have said to me how brave I am to travel alone to different countries to work in the past, and to then settle in a new country without the support network of the ex-pat community as I have deliberately chosen not to live in these areas, I´ve laughed it off and said I´m not brave at all.
Now I realise it´s not something many people could do, and you should too.
Lee, whatever I think of your original thread topic, and incidentally that has got completely lost now, you should try to rise above any negative comments from others, and negative comments you yourself have made.
People naturally have opinions here, and everybody has the right to post them, whether they agree with yours or not. I know it´s hard, I´ve taken the bait on a few occasions too..... and regretted it later.
Hi Petal, that´s what I was trying to say. When we feel ill, or as in your case with a raging toothache, we need tlc.
I do think though that family and very good friends can be a blessing if one doesn´t have a partner.
I know women with husbands or live in partners who couldn´t give two hoots if they are feeling ill. To be fair though, it´s not always that they don´t care, but they are afraid and try to act as though it´s nothing and will just simply disappear. My ex husband was like that. He loved me to bits, but if I was ill he just couldn´t handle it...out of fear.
Actually I´m not a great lover of seafood either, but in the paella, it is not too noticeable in any real shape or form, and not in great abundance. The taste of the rice is the key.
I couldn´t cook live anything! And if I see anything swimming around in a restaurant aquarium, I go for the vegetarian option!
Phoenix, I think you underestimate the masses. Yes, it is a complex document, but there is plenty of information out there giving people friendly explanations for it.
All legal documents are complex, and all we can do is to read, so some research, and ultimately make up our own minds, as apparently the voters in Ireland have just done.
I say this because this time around, the Treaty has generally had the mystery taken out of it, and more people evidently can understand it.
I remember the first time around, when nobody really understood what it was all about. Now many more people can actually quote elements of it,and appear to have a greater understanding of what it is all about.
I think that demonstrates a collective and responsible attitude, unlike the first vote.
The only time I´ve felt.....not lonely, but alone, is when I´ve been ill. fortunately that´s only been an occasional bad bout of flu to date.
That´s when I´ve wished for somebody to adminster some tlc.
If one does not have a partner, then I suppose it all depends on whether one has family and close friends. They are the lifeline to many of us, and prevent us from really feeling lonely. In my case anyway.
There are ways to debate an issue without getting "holier than thou" . It´s not easy, and 99% percent of us fail at one time or another on these forums....including me.
I remain optimistic about the future of Europe, and over 67% of voters in Ireland clearly feel the same.
Perhaps this time around the voters were more educated about the complex issues in the Treaty, and realised that it is fundamentally about reform, enabling the machinations of Europe to work more efficiently and democratically.
The Charter of Fundamental Rights, requiring all EU law to be compliant with human rights law, is for me one of the most important things in the Treaty. This will extend the rights of EU citizens in so many areas such as education, freedom of thought, equality before the law, and workers rights such as the collective bargaining and collective action.
Ireland has benefited enormously from its EU membership, and is viewed as a model to other more recent member countries, who hope they too will benefit in the same way.
You are so right. Goodness stems from our family and close friends initially. A significant other is an bonus, if, that is what one is looking for. In my opinion anyway.
I am not religious in shape or form unlike you John, but I do give thanks for the relationships I have with my family and friends.
They form inextricable branches from this old tree of life of mine.
Good advice JD. I would also add, try your level best never to criticise their mum or for a single mum, their dad. It will do you no favours at the end of the day, however hurt or betrayed one may feel by one´s former partner.
Fortunately my ex and I are still friends, and neither of us has bad mouthed the other to our children. Something my son and daughter, now responsible adults, have commented on to me favourably. They have seen so many of their friends parents who have split up criticising each other and trying to gain top position in their children´s hearts and minds. It isn´t possible if both parents truly love and take responsibility for their children after a separation or divorce. Children will love their parents equally if the split has been amicable and both parents continue to see the children.
I realse this is not always possible, but it should be something to strive for, if only for the sake of the children.
Declaring a relationship on CS has no bearing whatsoever on whether it fails in the future. That is solely down to the two people involved, and how they get to know each other as time passes.
Most people here declare the fact they have met a significant other, as occurs in real life. Later, with more knowledge of each other, things may not work out for a variety of reasons, again as occurs in the real world.
But isn´t an International Forum better than just a USA Forum? From a cultural point of view I mean. It´s surely a good thing to communicate with, and learn about other cultures and nationalities. Sometimes Americans are too insular, and the fact that only 10 percent hold passports supports that I believe.
In actual fact, the posters here overwhelmingly outnumber posters from other countries anyway, so I don´t see why you are complaining to be honest.
Even breaking it down into US States is divisive in my opinion.
And in some ways that was so much better! I still prefer to go out with friends, read and write private emails, and make telephone calls than log onto CS.
As for the ghost pics you mentioned you had seen way back in the earlier years, that speaks volumes in itself no?
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RE: This thread is dedicated to Bobby Darrin
I do remember my mum had this one in her record collection though, and I do like it for the memories it evokes.