Jan1305 Forum Posts (5,319)

RE: Your thoughts about this dating thing...

"Freaks" is spot on!

Go with the flow as you always seem to do, and don´t listen to anybody here. It will send you down the road to eternal madness!

RE: Words that MUST contain the letter Y

Orderly

RE: Forgiveness?

I´ve just been watching about a documentary about Indian women being murdered by their families for supposedly "shaming" the family, and I agree with what you say about some cultures not affording second chances.

As a seasoned traveller, I can honestly say that within Europe there is no difference in how people deal with wrong doing against them. We may forgive if at all possible, or say we forgive, but actually never forget, and this is where your "strings" and "vengeance" come into play, so forgiveness is a moot point here as I said earlier.

It all depends on how much we have been hurt.

I may be talking through my backside here as I have never been truly and unforgivably hurt. (touch wood) I am basing my thoughts on the experiences of others whom I know personally, and what I have read.

RE: Words that MUST contain the letter Y

Yawn

RE: When was the last time someone said to you "I love YOU"?

I live in Spain and my family live in the UK, so most days, mum, and my grown up kids phone me, and they always tell me they love me.

If you´re talking about romantic love, then I´m lucky there too.

Everybody needs to be told they are loved, be it a partner, kids, parents, friends...whoever.

I am blessed.

RE: Speed Dating ......

I´ve never participated, but I have done a speed dating English class exercise a few times. It´s great fun, I use it to enable students to practice introductions, and giving basic information about themselves.

RE: Forgiveness?

I agree. However, do you remember when you were having problems with a certain ex-member? I don´t remember any posts of yours proclaiming forgiveness for the way you were publicly maligned. Forgive me if I´m wrong.

What I´m trying to say is that it is very easy to talk about forgiveness, group hugs blah blah, when everything is hunky dory, (slang for perfectly fine or satisfactory, in case it doesn´t translate into Am English) but when something serious happens in one´s life all that unfortunately goes out of the window for the majority.

We see it all the time here. People post similar things..."why is everybody arguing" "why are people so nasty" etc etc....then wham bam, the same poster/s are posting vitriol.

Consistency is a rare thing here.

Know what I mean Stress?

RE: why are older women criticized for dating younger men?

I don´t think women are criticised these days. Perhaps in the past when it was less common, or at least less openly common.

I also believe there may be cultural influences. I see many older women with younger men here in Spain and nobody bats an eyelid.

As for me, I prefer men slightly younger, my own age, or just a little older. As others have already said here, it is the future that can cause serious problems in a relationship when the age divide is great.

RE: Songs for your mood right now (part3)

This song fits most times I decide to log onto CS.

"Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right..."

RE: right time wrong place

He is probably looking for an excuse!

If a woman is looking for other women then she will state so in her profile if she is sensible and serious about it.

RE: would you

I wouldn´t say no I would not date somebody with false teeth, but I have to say it isn´t particularly pleasing to me.

In the past there were fewer treatments available for people with dental problems, and false teeth were the norm. However, these days there is really no excuse for having to "plop" a set of falsies in a glass each night!

Look after your teeth. Brush, floss, don´t get into fights, and visit the dentist regularly, only then can you maintain a reasonable set of "pearly whites!"

RE: A weird relationship

That is very sad, but life too. Prison really has nothing to do with this, it is the fact that you waited and stood by somebody in difficult circumstances. Many people stay in unhappy marriages for all sorts of reasons then, when they decide to get out later, regret the fact that they have wasted years of their lives.

You will hopefully learn by this episode in your life and think twice in a similar situation.

RE: Memory Loss

Well Robert, yoo seem to have so many women calling you and meeting you, it´s hardly surprising is it?

Maybe it´s old age setting in. I always remember names, but I often lose my glasses. I wear contact lenses usually, but when I get home after work I use my glasses to read. If the telephone rings I have to put my glasses on too. This always mystifies me.

RE: why do old men always seem to be all bitter?

Thanks Riz, it was good wasn´t it.

They did a "Grumpy Old Women" series too, which was also very funny.

RE: Is Anyone Afraid of Falling In Love Again.

It all depends on how long someone has been without a partner, the longer it has been makes it more difficult in my opinion.

I´m not scared of falling or being in love, but it is more difficult to handle the "twosome and exclusive arrangement" when you are still enjoying the single life after a long marriage, as in my case.

If you fall in love with the right person though, these things iron themselves out, and you can enjoy new found love without compromising the wonderful experiences discovered as a single person.

RE: Pet peeves!

Oh, another thing. People who have cats and let them wander around the kitchen surfaces. Yuk!

If they ask me if I want a cup of tea or coffee.....even worse, a bite to eat, I always decline politely.

RE: Do people who are always positive annoy you?

No, I like positive people, it´s infectious.

As a teacher I have to be positive constantly in order to keep my students feeling confident in their abilities. However, it does take its toll on me, and sometimes I feel so drained when I finish work that the opposite effect takes hold of me.

It doesn´t last too long though, fortunately.

RE: Pet peeves!

British English for the American English "line".

RE: why do old men always seem to be all bitter?

Grumpy old men and grumpy old women, not necessarily bitterness.

It´s a rite of passage like marrriage or coming of age.

Have a look at this clip from a relatively recent, excellent British tv series about grumpy men. It may explain a few things!

RE: Pet peeves!

Yes, we all probably have many peeves.

Some things are just mildly annoying, for example people who queue jump. British people are brought up to queue in an orderly fashion...or at least they used to be! Here in Spain, nobody thinks twice about jumping a queue, but I´m getting used to it now.

There is one thing that not only annoys me, but makes me physically sick, and that is cracking bones. You know, when people deliberately bend and crack the bones in their fingers. Eeewwww!

RE: Your most hated household chore?

Household chores aren´t so bad when one is single.

When I was married with kids, the ironing was the worst chore for me.

Now I have a cleaner for the first time in my life. I work long hours, travel a bit, and my new flat is big, so she is worth her weight in gold to me.

RE: WHY?

Aww Smoky, nobody ignores your threads, it´s just as you say, many of us have other commitments making it difficult to come and go as far as CS is concerned.

We all seem to run on various timetables too, for example, I am rarely on here during the day as I´m working, often until early evening, unless it´s the weekend, or a holiday. Now I have better things to do at the weekend unless Javi is called out (doctors work long hours too).

It´s not the same here as it was when we all started, people have come and gone, others have met partners, and some perhaps find it all a little boring after a few years.

When I am here, you can be sure that I find your threads the most interesting, and I usually respond.

Meeting The Folks

Thanks Petal, and you are right that could have been an issue. Fortunately, although I am Protestant, Javi and his family are not devout Catholics and are very liberal minded.

RE: Pass'n Gas

Oh that doesn´t count!! Nor do farts whilst sleeping count.

RE: For Jan.......

Sorry but I prefer Josie too, but I do have an Auntie Joan and she is lovely.

Nite nite.

RE: Freedoms

I know Petal, but very often as is the case with couples, they post one after the other, paticularly of one is being maligned or having a hard time, as you two have done tonight on a couple of occasions. It is very easy to confuse who has said what.

I´m not supporting anybody by the way, just trying to highlight something.

RE: For Jan.......

To Jo.

I´m sorry too for judging you based on a few days of silly words.

AND, more importantly, I hope that you and Phoenix remain happy together.

Thank you. No I´m not having a ciggy or a toke Phoenix, but I will dedicate a song to both of you. No real relevance except it´s one of my favourite Elvis songs who I know you both like.

RE: Freedoms

You know Jesse and Petal, confusions arise when pics are similar, I have had to look twice when reading both of your posts to ascertain which of you is writing them.

Meeting The Folks

Thank you Tom.

Meeting The Folks

Thank you.

Being myself comes naturally believe it or not.

I just hope they like me. Javi has assured me his parents will love me, so in reality I shouldn´t be worried at all. It´s just that it is something I have never had to go through before and I wanted to hear about other people´s experiences.

Thanks to all for the comments.