I agree, looks are important, fortunately we all have different taste so there´s enough to go around! but race or colour for me just doesn´t seem to come into the equation. I´ve met black, brown, yellow, white, several nationalities, and found physically attractive and unattractive....to me at least, in all.
I ask myself how many people here actually work or do have a life outside CS.
Actually it´s quite sad IMO. CS should be an alternative means of finding a partner or making friends, not the be all. A night out on the forum when you have nothing better to do is great fun, but for me pales in comparison with a night out with friends.
Real life is much more fulfilling and exciting, if it weren´t, why are so many people searching here for the means to live it with a significant other?
It´s a well known fact that certain groups of people here love the backstage gossip.
I rarely send emails privately and I´m not part of any network, but I know it exists.
Most of the time I believe it aggravates already problematic situations. People take sides based on virtual friendships, which is not always fair or rational.
Despite my misgivings, sometimes it does serve a useful purpose.
Thanks Phoenix, but what do you mean by "too heavy?" I thought Norton was the best. My new laptop is vista, should that make a difference in what I choose from this site?
I´ve just bought a new laptop, so no problems, and I have a free 3 month Norton thingy, soon to expire. My old laptop functions, but is slow and I´m sure is infected.
What can you reommend when the Norton protection runs out? Are there really any free anti virus programs or should I pay and renew the Norton package?
I´ve decided to hang on to the old laptop specifically for downloads and avoid doing this on the new one.
I would never claim to be an art expert, but I studied Spanish art at uni so I do have a bias.
My favourite is a print of Guernica, I adore it. I also love Dali and have a print of Persistence of Memory. Each time I look at them I see something different.
However I agree with him about the first date. An invitation to a cooked home meal is just too personal. I would much rather go to a restaurant.
On a subsequent date I would always make some kind of salad, maybe simple with gorgeous Spanish tomatoes, feta and black olives drizzled with olive oil, followed by the main course which, depending on the man (meat or fish), would be accompanied by fresh vegetables, perhaps a platter of roasted veg.
I don´t have a sweet tooth really so I would always prefer a selection of good cheese rather than a dessert.
Of course there would also be some very good red wine.
I don´t have a separate toilet, but my bathroom is white and quite pretty I think. Nothing on the walls, but everything matches (blues)and I have lots of free standing shelves with all my toiletries. Plants I love in a bathroom, but like you Smoky, I don´t have much success keeping them alive, so I have searched for and found small fake greenery (which I usually dislike) but these are quite tasteful.
No reading matter, I think only men read when they are doing their daily business on the loo! but I do like other bathrooms I´ve seen with books and magazines.
Very good too thanks, though I think New Year and 5th (special day here in Spain) will be more fun.
I wasn´t criticising your thread with my opening sentence, just that I was so surprised, and disappointed by some of the responses. I really didn´t think that skin colour was still such an issue, believing that cultural differences rather than this make mixed relationships difficult or impossible at times.
Somehow I just can´t imagine you in red silk jimjams!
Do you wear your cowboy hat too?
I saw an old woman yesterday, around mid-day in her dressing gown and fluffy slippers crossing the road towards a corner shop and actually didnt bat an eyelid!
That´s what living in Spain for four years does to you!
Isn´t it so true! Replace jelly sandwich with buttered toast though, and the telephone ringing just after you slam the door to leave already late for work!
I think it depends on whether the first date is in real life, or through a dating site.
I don´t expect too many shocks on a RL date, they may come later though. However, dating site dates, in my experience, tend to be a real eye opener immediately, due to only having seen a photo, and IT or telephone communication.
So, if we are talking about a CS date, I don´t want to meet somebody who looks nothing like their photo, or who has obviously been lying in their profile. (no offence to honest CS dates I´ve had where there was simply no chemistry)
Has happened to me 6 times now so perhaps I´m a bit jaded.
Phoenix, they are wee children so you must make speaking English a game, with maybe a little reward. For example, the first one who speaks French during a set time period will get a good old tickling from the rest of the family. It becomes a competition and kids love that.
There are loads of games you can play to get them speaking English more, just don´t push it or make that English speaking time too long. Do you sing English songs with them, or simple card games with pictures, pictionary?
RE: Is it wrong to set criteras for ethnicity??
Not me, All I state is clean, smells nice and kind.....IF I were looking, which I´m not!