I can certainly forgive. It's not always an easy process, but with honesty from the forgivee, I can understand that things happen, and even our best friends can make terrible mistakes - as can we all.
Forgetting is the hard part. I'm not even sure forgetting is a good thing, for we learn from life mistakes - of our own, and of others'.
As for forgiving and forgetting in relationships, the hardest part for me is the loss of trust. Rebuilding trust is a far harder task that forgiving. Trust may be one of those things where we're given only so much, and then that finite resource is whittled-away in time. Trust can be rebuilt, but it's so much more difficult to attain and build, than it is to destroy and erode, for me. And then as we get older, wiser and more jaded, it's more and more tempting to say, "Why bother"!?
Thankfully, there are kind souls so full of hope that they insist that trust can and will be rebuilt, and they understand the process requires a little patience, and trust of their own.
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RE: Forgive & Forget - Can You?
I can certainly forgive. It's not always an easy process, but with honesty from the forgivee, I can understand that things happen, and even our best friends can make terrible mistakes - as can we all.Forgetting is the hard part. I'm not even sure forgetting is a good thing, for we learn from life mistakes - of our own, and of others'.
As for forgiving and forgetting in relationships, the hardest part for me is the loss of trust. Rebuilding trust is a far harder task that forgiving. Trust may be one of those things where we're given only so much, and then that finite resource is whittled-away in time. Trust can be rebuilt, but it's so much more difficult to attain and build, than it is to destroy and erode, for me. And then as we get older, wiser and more jaded, it's more and more tempting to say, "Why bother"!?
Thankfully, there are kind souls so full of hope that they insist that trust can and will be rebuilt, and they understand the process requires a little patience, and trust of their own.