RE: Why do we have too many single mothers in usa and canada?

I think sometimes people correlate the words "single" and "parent" wrong when they are used in the same sentence, especially when it is used to describe a woman as a "single mom". These people who do automatically pass judgement that the woman is lesser for it. I don't think it is fair to put all single moms in the same category.

If you pay attention closely, you can spot the differences in the good ones, the bad ones, and the ones who are looking to use someone. Circumstances differ from woman to woman who are single parents to why it is this way. I have seen and encountered all 3 types before. I know one woman (actually I know a few this way) who is "supermom", I went out with one who was a bad mom (which is part of the reason I did not get with her, I knew her from work but did not know she was a poor mom till after going out and spending time with her), and I've encountered on who was looking for a man to take care of and support her and her offspring (which I got away while the getting was good).

Basically what I'm trying to say is get to know someone before you judge them. Being a single parent does not make them a bad person.

RE: Security in a Relationship?

I would do these things, and have done all of the above.

RE: Is it a good idea to pay off a mortgage?

With all the uncertainties right now with the economy and job markets, I think it is a great idea if you are able to do so.

RE: First snow fall of the season?

I don't mind the snow. Living here in Ohio, our weather is from one extreme or another this time of year. It can be 40's or 50's one day, and below freezing the next. It can drop a ton of snow one day, only to rain or melt the next.

The only thing that concerns me with snow, is the other people on the roads when they are nasty and slippery. I am very cautious and alert when I am out in it, more so then when it is clear. I've been driving in the snow for years now, so I am confident in my abilities when the conditions are poor. I have a 4x4, but I do not have a sense of being invincible because I do, just because I have 4 wheels driving my truck instead of 2 does not allow me to stop any faster.

RE: Does your photo ratings result affect you in any way?

I don't let photo ratings affect me. It can be interesting to see what the different age ranges think though.

RE: Sometimes,,a smile is not real value

I find that true. Sometimes my exterior expression does not match how I feel on the inside. There's times where I don't show how I feel because I either do not want to burden someone else with my troubles, or it is not the place to do so.

RE: SMOKING

I smoke, but I respect others who do not. I have no problems with not smoking at all when around people who do not, or if I choose to smoke, taking it outdoors and away from them. And above all else, I will not smoke around children.

kissmedeeply, it's not really whether you smoke or not. What this boils down to is someone's consideration and respect for others. This stretches beyond smoking.

RE: How desperate are you

Yes, I hate being single. But by hating being single does not mean I am desperate.

To be desperate is to lower or completely drop your standards and take the first person that shows the slightest bit of interest, and by doing so sacrificing who you are and the things you want in life.

Me personally, I will not sacrifice who I am or what I want in life for anybody.

RE: Antivirus help needed

If it is something to tide you over until you can buy one, Norton offers a 30 day free trial for their products. I used the Norton 360 trial on a test basis and I really liked it, just not the price at that time. McAfee is OK, but my preference is Norton from the research I did.

RE: standards

Some men are stuck on physical appearances. I think their definition of intelligence is measured by financial success. These are examples of how shallow some people are.

I don't think it is setting their standards too high, I think it is more their standards are confused. I also think they are worried about how someone's appearance and such will make them look to their family and/or friends. Other than it being superficial, I think they assume that if someone is physically attractive and intelligent, they are a good person.

This is not always the case. I have seen "beautifully smart" people being very ugly on the inside. They are so self absorbed they see the world as revolving around themselves, and are far from humble. Now there are few (and I mean few from my experiences) "beautifully smart" people who are a complete package inside and out, but that is a rarity.

RE: This may be disrespectfull./but the truth.

Obviously not all relationships work out between 2 people with children, just the same as not all relationships work between 2 people without children. So the question of "where are the fathers" is irrelevant.

If you choose to not be with someone with children, that is your choice. Now I don't know if this choice is based on not liking kids, scared of kids, the fact of the added responsibility of kids, I don't know.

To me, I think a man that can and will accept a woman with children, is a real man. Sorry if this doesn't go well with some of you guys, but this is how I see it. Any idiot can father a child, but only a real man can be a dad.

There is some women out there who are looking for a "daddy" figure for their kids, but that is only a small percentage of women with children. There are tons of good women out there that have children, so by only looking for women without children you are severely limiting your search.

RE: Guys: Would you consider going out with an avg. looking woman if she took a chance & asked you out

I would go out with an "average" looking woman, especially if she took the initiative to ask me out. Looks plays a role in initial attraction yes, anyone who says it doesn't is a liar. But for me looks is not the determining factor in going out with someone. There's ton's of (not all) "pretty" or "hot" looking women out there that their looks is the only thing they have going for them, because they have no inner beauty.

RE: EVER BREAK UP AND REGRET IT??

Anyone that I have broken up with has been for a good reason such as cheating on me with someone else.

The only one I have any regrets about is my ex that I was going to marry. She left me 8 years ago because I was a fool, and let my own stupidity, jealousy, and foolish pride get in the way and pull us apart. I can honestly 100% take the blame for that one.

But live and learn I guess. I know that I will not repeat that mistake, I have learned the hard way from it.

RE: Flirting- OK on a Date?

I haven't had it happen to me, and I haven't done it. If you are with someone on a date, flirting with someone else other than the person you are there with should not be done.

If someone did it to me I would probably not be seeing them again as I would be offended by what they did.

RE: Men what is your view on women's hair??

I have always liked longer hair on a woman. Not to say that short hair is bad, I have seen some women that look absolutely stunning with short hair.

I don't think I could ever date someone with hair shorter than mine, but then again that would mean she would have to be almost bald, LOL.

RE: Apparently i have ''Rip me off'' written on my forehead!

You are not the only one Ur_Knight, I've gotten a few where there is a picture of some gorgeous woman in her 20's or 30's, saying the same blah, blah, blah, and contact me at so&so at yahoo crap so "we can talk better". I don't think of myself as a bad looking guy, but I know I am not some super model magnet, I mean C'mon now, LOL

RE: Apparently i have ''Rip me off'' written on my forehead!

I have recieved my fair share of scammers email me as well. They're easy to spot if you know what to look for. I just delete their messages and ignore them. Most of the time they delete their profiles pretty quick, and make a new one, I've seen many that are identical in what they say just with a different picture.

RE: Men for single moms???

I would assume this law has a set time frame in which a guy would have to be with a woman before such an obligation just curious to what it might be.

RE: Were you in shock when you left your partner?

I felt betrayed and used when I learned what my ex girlfriend was doing. She used the excuse of finding herself and doing things on her own as a cover up to what she was really doing. She moved out to "get her life on track", when in reality she was just stringing me along to get whatever she could out of me.

I loved her and wanted to believe her at first, before she moved in with "family". But, there were suspicions there. I did some research and found out I was right, and confronted her. She lied of course, and could not give me the honesty I deserved for doing nothing but supporting her financially and loving her for 4 years we were together.

After it was over I actually felt relieved to be rid of her. I hurt naturally, I did nothing but love her up until I found out the truth. But I deserve better than that and I did nothing wrong, so I could not see myself mourning over losing someone who did me like that.

Someone who does you like that is not good enough for you, it's just that simple. When you love someone with your heart and soul and get done like that, you're going to hurt of course. But you do not deserve to beat yourself up over it and let it run your life. When you come to terms with that, you will see you can do better, and need to pick yourself up and continue with your life.

RE: First love

I don't think we ever forget our first love, whether it is good or bad memories. I do think you can love another just as much though. The main thing is that you cannot let your past love affect any new love. By that I mean having any expectations of the new person compared to the old, not holding them to the old's standards.

RE: Help Junk the Mobile home

If it is somewhere safe enough to burn down, contact the local fire department and see if they would want to use it for live training exercises. After that scrap what you can, the steel frame and copper wiring could make you a couple dollars.

RE: HEY GUYS . . WANT KIDS ..

I would like to have at least one child of my own, if it is meant to be only time will tell.

If I were to meet someone who has kids, I am perfectly fine with that. I feel I am perfectly capable of being in a successful relationship with a woman who already has children. But whom ever I may meet that does, she must have her life in order and not just looking for someone to support her and her children financially. That is the only thing that I draw the line about being with someone with kids.

The title of "father" scares a lot of men that obviously aren't ready or willing to be. Any man can father a child, but it takes a real man to be a dad.

RE: To Have Loved, or Not Loved At All

I have been in love twice, and was devastated both times. Being in love is the greatest feeling in the world, and losing it is the worst feeling ever. Even with the risk of great pain, I continue searching for love that will last.

RE: what is the likelihood of finding a right person for yourself to be your soul mate on the internet.

It's just like real life, you never know. Online dating for those who have serious and geniune intent, the internet is another option for finding the one. And like in real life, you have to sort thru or "weed out" the ones who do not draw your interest.

college football

The NCAA needs to make some changes. There has been question to whether college football players should be paid, and rules regarding stuff like memorabilia sales, autograph signings for cash ect....

I do not think they should be paid for playing. That is why they have a scholarship. They may have gotten the scholarship for sports, but they are at an institution of higher learning. Their payment is the opportunity to get a college degree to give them a better shot at a career. Some players are good enough to make it to the professional level, but not all. They should have to stay in school and earn a degree, and honor their scholarship. If they want to leave early for the pros they should have to repay the money for the amount of time they were in college.

Now the memorabilia and autographs, I don't think they should be penalized for this. If they sell something that is theirs like a jersey or signature, then they should be allowed to do so. I could sell something of mine and not be in trouble, so why should they if they do.

There is a lot of scandal going on in collegate sports, and it does need cleaned up. Dirty acts and cover ups should be penalized, hands down. But if some kid can turn a buck for selling something of theirs or signing an autograph, then let them.

But there is so much grey area that there needs to be much work done, and a lot of thought going into this before any changes or allowances are made.

RE: Men for single moms???

It's sad that some men cannot handle being with a woman that has kids, and it's even more sad some will not even bother being with one that does.

There are real men out there who can and will though. Where they are I can't say and how many I dunno.

I've never had an issue with dating someone with kids, I mean my step-dad is the man I am proud to call my dad. It takes a special man to step in and fill the role of a partner AND a father figure. Any man can donate DNA and father a child, but it takes a real man to be a dad, whether biological or step. I think I am a lucky man to have such a great man come into my life and be my dad many years ago. It makes me feel good to hear him call me his son or his boy.

The example he set for me is one that I am proud to carry on if I meet that special someone to be with and she has children. I would love to father a child of my own, but I am confident that if I do not have that opportunity and I meet someone with children already, that I am willing and able to step into that situation knowing I can handle it.

RE: Steve jobs -- end of an era or start of another ?

Already Apple stock is dropping in Germany from a report I heard on the news just a few minutes ago. Steve Jobs did wonders for the company, and I wonder how Apple will fall as a result of his death, and if it falls to far if they'll be able to recover.

RE: Does the music that you prefer reveal your personality?

Country, Rock, Pop

I think it does reflect on someone's personality for some people.

RE: what are you listening to now?

Jason Aldean : Who's kissing you tonight

RE: Red Flags!

I've had my share of scammers on this site in the short time I've been here this time. A few years back it wasn't as bad, though I did have a few then.

The biggest tip off are things like their grammar, sentence structure, and by reading their actual profile.

I have saw a couple profiles where there is a piture of this good looking woman, only to have her profile state a different hair color, a different body type, a small height that clearly is not true, and so on.

They are easy to spot a mile away. I do not reply people with other countries listed as their location, or any of the reasons I listed or the other ones others have listed.

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