It's always shocking when these things happen but we also get slightly immune to them because 'news' always happens to 'other people'.
Like I said, I am not in any way directly affected........... but I do know a person who is affected, obviously, as she was my wife not all that long ago.
You'll have to just decide what is acceptable to you; if you feel she is going to have a physical relationship with this guy and it is going to hurt you then you'll never feel the same way about her again.......... even if you later form a relationship you'd always wonder if in future years she'd do the same thing to you.
It's a terrible situation to be in. I feel for you. Good luck.
Remember that shooting in Alabama a few weeks ago?
10 people got killed.
I joke about rednecks, but I'm not joking now.
My ex wife just contacted me and said:
'I bet you hoped I was one of the ten people who got killed.'
I said:
'Of course not'.
It turns out though that one of her neices was killed by the crazy gunman; the neice had just gone and paid for gas in a petrol station in Geneva and walked out of the shop and got shot dead by the maniac who'd killed a few people in Samson then driven on ten miles to Geneva to finish his killing spree.
I didn't know this particular neice, but I certainly feel sad for the needless death of a young woman whom my ex wife surely loved.
From my above post consider yourself lucky that you have NOT had a relationship with her; whether she decides to split up with her boyfriend or discuss you with him or say nothing to him is her decision - you can only hope and pray that she makes the right decision for her............ if you love her you'll want what is best for her even if it might not be you!
Something slightly similar happened to me many, many years ago.
I fell in love with a fantastic woman.
She also fell for me.
I didn't know she'd had a long-term relationship with another guy that was still ongoing........... I'd seen photos of the man but assumed he was an ex boyfriend.
He wasn't an ex - and he was the only man in her life before she met me.
I felt awful.
She went away to meet up with him for a weekend. She told him about me. She had to make a decision whether to break up with him, or finish her short relationship with me.
She decided to stay with the other guy, but, because she was truthful to both parties it was 'ok' although my heart was broken, I knew she had had to make a tough decision and was sincere.
Mind you, I'd never have started a relationship with her in the first place if I'd know the truth at the time.......... we all make mistakes and they can cause hurt.
She did the wrong thing by starting a relationship with me without telling me her situation, but her boyfriend forgave her and I hope they are still happy and together.
Ethiopian women - never dated one but they can be very beautiful and intelligent and elegant.......... maybe in another life as I'm taken for the rest of this one!
When I was at University I founded the wine and travel society, but it sounded a little silly (T.W.A.T.S.) so I changed the name to the social wine and travel society instead! (S.W.A.T.)
Yes............ and India isn't Pakistan either, and even Pakistan had Benizeer Bhuto and even Bangladesh although muslim doesn't go in for the multiple marriage thingy business.
I kissed an Indian Princess in Calcutta (Kolcotta) way back in, I think, 1963 and I have never been the same - no, Sir!
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Shocking news.........
The German high school massacre was not far from where my fiancee lives and a friend's daughter's boyfriend was one of those killed too........