I forgot to say that, while our brother was in rehab, our entire family had to attend counselling as well. We didn't realize it at the time but we were part of the problem. Part of the counselling for us was to set our bottom lines if he decided to quit rehab so that we wouldn't be drawn into his addiction. It was hard to believe at the time, but families do help addicts maintain their addiction. It's also families who help addicts gain control of their lives. Because of counselling, we learned that we were feeding his addiction with "kindness"....out of worry and guilt. Ala-non will help your family and will more than likely be able to suggest help for your sister.
Last Christmas, we were up to our armpits in snow! this year is very mild and, while there's snow on the ground now, there won't be by Christmas Day as our temps have been in the +6C range all week.
My first Christmas memory was of Midnight Mass....the choir singing, the church beautifully decorated...but especially the walk home. The stillness of the night with a clear sky filled with stars, the snow glistening from the street lights and crunching under our feet. I grew up in the Gaspe Peninsula in Quebec and enjoyed many traditions....French Canadian, Irish and Ukranian. in Quebec after Midnight Mass, it's tradition to return home and have a "reveillon" (party) which includes certain traditional foods. One of those foods is tourtiere which I make every Christmas Eve and which everyone is looking forward to again this year! Very best wishes for a wonderful Christmas!
it has to be a shared responsibility with agreed goals. If we weren't married, I would keep my finances separate. Share the common expenses but my savings are mine as his savings are his. If we were married, I'd be very sure that I kept my nose in and I'd peruse every statement and attend every meeting with our financial advisor. Unfortunately, I didn't do that when I was married. I even think that a signed contract between two people is a good idea. What you agree to when you're in love with each other can change significantly when decide to part ways.
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RE: Losing a day of your life!
Five years ago, I lost two weeks. It bothered me for awhile until a wise friend told me to smarten up and enjoy the living days.