I had this problem when I was a lot younger, and a friend set me down and said something to me that really opened my eyes, since that I bit my lip if I start feeling the jealousy bug start buzzing around..
My friend told me first all what is the point of waiting all that energy being jealous? If a person is going to cheat, what can you do? Say stop? Nothing you can do can sway a person if they have made up their minds to do something. Next thing to think about is that the energy you spend being jealous usually ends the relationship you were so worried about losing in the first place. Lastly when people cheat they always have personal feelings that they have betrayed the person they are with, and their subconscious takes over and they slip up and start giving off hints until they are caught.
Not to get on you bro, and I'm going from your opening post, but look around a few people on this site have made hook ups. I understand that there are a lot of scammers on this and any other site now days for that matter, but not a lot we can do about that. But the way this was opened, I don’t think you will have any luck having scammers come forward, and as for the regular people, I think some are scared of the online thing, and some may not be interested but are trying to be nice. Just my two cents, and I got it this time.
RE: are guys
LOL you can tell you haven't been online with me LOL