I haven't been on this site in years, and don't recall meeting any of you before, but I've signed up now, - you all look so promising as compadres...
For Sunflower36, - I see we are in the same town, - so we could, if you like, meet beforehand and perhaps at least travel together?? I haven't looked at accommodation yet, but the simpler the better for me. Let me know what you think.
I'm looking forward to meeting you all already! (strange as it may seem...)
List of what women want in a man....as the years pass. Original list. (Aged 25)
1. Handsome. 2. Charming. 3. Financially successful. 4. A Caring Listener. 5. Witty. 6. IN good physical shape. 7. Full of thoughtful surprises. 8. An imaginative, Romantic Lover.
REVISED LIST. (AGED 35)
1. Attractive - preferably with hair on his head. 2. Opens car doors and pulls out chairs for you. 3. Has enough money for a meal at a good restaurant - occassionally. 4. Listens more than talks. 5. Carries groceries willingly. 6. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries. 7. seeks romance at least twice a week. 8. does own laundry.
REVISED LIST (AGED 45)
1. Not too ugly - bald OK. 2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car. 3. Works steadily, - willing to splurge out on a MacDonalds occassionally. 4. Nods at approprite times when I'm talking. 5. Usually remembers the punchlines of the jokes he's telling. 6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange furniture. 7. Shaves on most weekends. 8. Willing to wear shirts that cover his stomach.
REVISED LIST (AGED 55)
1. Trims nose and ear hair. 2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public. 3. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm talking. 4. Doesn't re-tell the same jokes too often. 5. IN good enough shape to get up off the couch at weekends. 6. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear. Daily. 7. Remembers my name. 8. Appreciates a good Tv dinner.
REVISED LIST (AGED 65)
1. Doesn't scare small children 2. Remembers where the toilet is. Uses it appropriately. 3. Doesn't require costly upkeep. 4. Doesn't forget why he's laughing. 5. In good enough shape to stand alone. 6. Likes soft foods. 7. Remembers where he lives. 8. Remembers where he was going. 9. remembers....
Hello and welcome. I'm a single Mum too and have found some lovely people on this site (some quite strange too - but that's humanity!!) who have become valuable 'cyber' friends!
Whenever you feel the need to make contact, it's a lovely place to come and share some time. Have fun.
p.s. also remember to take as much care of yourself as your beautiful son! You deserve it
A teacher asks her class to use the word "contagious".
Roland the teacher's pet, gets up and says, "Last year I got the measles and my mum said it was contagious."
"Well done, Roland," says the teacher.
"Can anyone else try?"
Katie, a sweet little girl with pigtails, says, "My grandma says there's a bug going round, and it's contagious."
"Well done, Katie," says the teacher. "Anyone else?"
Little Sean jumps up and says in a broad Dublin accent, "Our next door neighbor, Barry Wilson, is painting his house with a 2 inch brush, and my dad says it will take the contagious."
A young man excitedly tells his mother he's fallen in love and is going to get married. > >He says, "Just for fun, Ma, I'm going to bring over 2 other female friends in addition to my fiancée and you try and guess which one I'm going to marry." > The next day, he brings 3 beautiful women into the house and sits them down on the couch and they chat for a while. > > He then says, "Okay, Ma. Guess which one I'm going to marry." She immediately replies, "The red-head in the middle." > "That's amazing, Ma. You're right, how did you know?" > >"I can't stand her." > >
Naturally the social aspect exists, but I really don't believe anything is gained in school, unless it's a belief of inferiority, difference, bullying etc. Even the bullies aren't exactly 'learning' to become good social models!
Socialisation skills can be gained in other arenas, such as sports clubs, music groups, etc, where a much more positive emphasis is on appreciating each other and applying team ethics. Then of course you may just have a child who isn't much of a team player and much prefers to stimulate their own interests...this shouldn't make them 'wrong' or 'odd' or even 'geeky', - it's just how they know they feel most comfortable.
I was never keen on group or team participation, still so in fact, but as a child I was branded weird or aloof by my peers and was constantly bullied for it. This just made me attach to my art work or reading all the more. I still made friends, but they were carefully chosen.
Too many of our kids at school are subjected to immense peer pressure to participate in gang culture, - whethet they want to or not. Home schooling takes this possibility out of the equation.
The ability or willingness to be sociable is a choice we make out of comfort for ourselves, and others need to learn to respect that. Home schooling offers a child choices about friendships, without the peer pressure.
Many sincere thanks for your response, I really appreciate you taking the time to offer your own experience, and I provides confidence that the home-schooling method is by far the best option - particularly for children with their own challenges.
Avoiding the 'Bad Asses' is something I'm sure we all wish we could have done! I do believe learning should be in a positive, encouraging environment, - not one which creates anxiety and confusion, - as it often does in schools.
As far as comparing Autism and ADHD in learning, - the potential of course is there, but the method which suits the childs needs is what needs to be addressed first. It seems you Mum is doing a Faaantastic job with your daughter! Well done both of you infact for being able to take the intiative and action yourselves!
It's a hefty decision to make, - but aren't you glad you did!!
Sending each of you every best wish for the future
The kids have only been back at school a week, but I've alreadu tolerated enough crap form my sons' teachers, and am DELIGHTED to have made the decision to pull him out for good. It's actually a RELIEF!
Downside is that I now have to argue my case with the education department and 'prove' that what the school was providing did not serve my child's needs.
Some of you know that my son is Autistic, and had always been home schooled part-time, but his teachers at school are so fired up on 'Management' of Autism - which serves STAFF and NOT Pupils, as opposed to Treatment and Recovery of Autism, that they drove me 'doo-lally'!!
I realised my boy was only in school to give me a break, - and not for any benefit to him, so now I'm all fired up with the enthusiasm of wanting to recruit others to help in order to have him at home full-time, which is what I've always known is the best for my boy.
I'm just wondering if there is anyone else out there with a similair experience of having to deal with beaurocracy when deciding to take their child out of state school, and how it's working out?
Hi other Karen....I recommend a visit to M&S foods dept! This allows you to concentrate on your self before the date, and THE date during the date, - without the worry of having spoiled something.
Besides, if you own up to having help from Marky Spark, in order to focus your attention on the 'company', I bet he'd be flattered. Just this once.
The important thing is NOT to put yourself out too much to impress if this is a first 'occassion'. If you realise through the evening that he's not what you hoped, then you haven't wasted too much sweat over it.
AND, if you're delighted with what you find - "because he's not JUST a man" (said in deep sultry M&S TV advert voice! haha!), then there's no time wasted on the pots and pans!!
Myself, I'd opt for a 'man' meal - something with mashed spuds!
1. Handsome. 2. Charming. 3. Financially successful. 4. A Caring Listener. 5. Witty. 6. IN good physical shape. 7. Full of thoughtful surprises. 8. An imaginative, Romantic Lover.
REVISED LIST. (AGED 35)
1. Attractive - preferably with hair on his head. 2. Opens car doors and pulls out chairs for you. 3. Has enough money for a meal at a good restaurant - occassionally. 4. Listens more than talks. 5. Carries groceries willingly. 6. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries. 7. seeks romance at least twice a week. 8. does own laundry.
REVISED LIST (AGED 45)
1. Not too ugly - bald OK. 2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car. 3. Works steadily, - willing to splurge out on a MacDonalds occassionally. 4. Nods at approprite times when I'm talking. 5. Usually remembers the punchlines of the jokes he's telling. 6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange furniture. 7. Shaves on most weekends. 8. Willing to wear shirts that cover his stomach.
REVISED LIST (AGED 55)
1. Trims nose and ear hair. 2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public. 3. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm talking. 4. Doesn't re-tell the same jokes too often. 5. IN good enough shape to get up off the couch at weekends. 6. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear. Daily. 7. Remembers my name. 8. Appreciates a good Tv dinner.
REVISED LIST (AGED 65)
1. Doesn't scare small children 2. Remembers where the toilet is. Uses it appropriately. 3. Doesn't require costly upkeep. 4. Doesn't forget why he's laughing. 5. In good enough shape to stand alone. 6. Likes soft foods. 7. Remembers where he lives. 8. Remembers where he was going. 9. remembers....
Ahh well, if I had a penny for every time I........
........never mind.
You're right it's time for sleep. I'm only awake at this time because I felt obliged to finish the bottle of wine in the fridge, - and it deserved savouring!!
Perhaps you're a bit of a chameleon....ready to change your image with your mood or environment, ...what do you think??
Actually, I'm also thinking show-off! (In a very friendly sort of a way you understand ) : As there's not mant of us can afford to have more than one or two vehicles on the road....let alone 4!!!!!
RE: What made you smile or laugh today
I put my paintbrush into my tea instead of the jar of turps beside it.