Hang on a minute - Her past is her past, not your's - ask yourself why are finding out things from other people - why she not talking to you - maybe because your a being too hypercritical, too judgmental, too controlling - give her breathing space - when she wants to tell you something - listen - but for heavens sake let her live and deal with her past - her way!!!!
How true - except I now substitute love for lust - interestingly enough don't ask me how to describe what I feel right now - because I have no answer...
I still grieve for my geese after all this time - I lost them to a pack a dogs a few minutes before I got home from a pandc meeting... My ex loved them just as much as I did - they were 3 weeks old and yellow, all fluffy - Jinx & Arnie - ex helped build a pen to keep them safe, then as they got older the little rotters didn't want to sleep in the pen they slept in the pool of light that the toilet gave off... Had them for 3 years, they were so close to maturity I was counting down the days till their birthday... people couldn't believe it when they saw me walking down a hill with 2 full size geeze under each arm - the girls just dropped to the ground and I had to carry them, when hanging out washing, they would rub my leg, so that I had to squat to give them a rub - after the dog attack I moved the girls to the land we had bought to build our home and buried the girls in the backyard.. So even though we lost our pets through different circumstances, I understand your loss and your grief...
Anything that came into this home pre 2009 belongs in this house - No ifs no buts - MrX wants his Papua New Guinea Glasses back, his clock that he got from attending a spillcon conference, his wooden boat - but nope, it's all stays here -
but yeah you read about stories like that in the mags and it gets pretty nasty... sometimes the couples bicker and fight more over the animal and the children get neglected... but only in the states!!!
Venere I work in an industry that employes over 1200 people, most of the people on the staff are from overseas on visas... each day we see people coming in for interviews, every other day, our canteen is filled with inductees - but not too many of them are Australian... why??? The company uses Seek as their recruitment base, they must be over 18 to work there because of the machinery etc., but I hardly see any young Australian people - I am in my late 40's and I got a job there 2 weeks after applying online... so they are not discriminating... the company pays slightly above the award wage, so why is it that there is a mass of Koreans, Viet, Thai, Phillo, Chinese, Kiwi's, and South Africian, and Indian's getting the jobs...
My standing joke now is that I no longer speak English, I speak Korean and Indian because in my section that's who I work with... and I tell you something I'm the one that feels discriminated against...
Actually Daggy what defines love, may be only lust, but finding that "one" person well that a major challenge.. I've found a man, correction, he found me - a lost, frightened, confused person, but he saw through that, and gave me courage, when I needed courage, gave me a shoulder/hug when I needed that too - but most of all the things he gave me which I never had been before including that of MrX was to let go of all the insecurities, self-doubt, self destruction, the emotional turmoil - for the first time I feel calmness in my life, I embrass the challenges of the day, I embrass knowing I am strong, and gaining in confidence - that to me defines the person who is ... I feel safe, secure, happy and content... Is he my sole mate.. time will tell, and if I die tomorrow, I will be happiest of women for having been blest for meeting this man.. (Ps met him here on Cs)
RE: OTT
bucket of iced water -