I think we've all been guilty culprits at one time or another of dating someone just so we wouldn't be alone even though they were not exactly our cup of tea. I seek quality over quantity in my dating experiences now and this has worked wonders for me. I'll only date someone now if they connect with me and do it for me! On all fronts. Refusing to settle in dates as well as long term relationships is very liberating.
To be successful in any relationship, not just marriage, you have to be able to not only forgive but to forget as well. The trick is to live for today and not dwell on the past. The mistakes of the past do not have to be a reflection of the way things will turn out in the here and now. Sometimes it's even necessary to suck up your base emotions and be the bigger person to make things work. When you can do this it's a true sign of maturity.
My experience has been that I've had better luck with the free sites as opposed to the pay sites. There are some really good free sites out there right now with many members and low rates of scammers. I belong to one site that is awesome and lands me all the dates I want. I actually met my last wife off a free site. She was a quality woman, it just didn't work out in the long run. Best of luck to you in your search!
I'm on another site that is alot larger than this one and I get alot of emails daily and have yet to have one scammer show up in the inbox. So it's not everywhere. But there seems to be a high preponderance of it on this site. It's why I just come here for laughs but nothing serious.
In the driver's seat and hell bent for leather! Things are going great and the possibilities of the future are limitless. I've got on my crash helmet and am firmly strapped in by my seat belt. Sometimes this can be a rough and bumpy ride but I'm loving it!
The yellow skittle phenomenon is your sign! Heed it and look for a door to open shortly. lol. Your spirit guides are communicating with you and trying to send you a message.
The patriarch deity era has passed and the child king god era is on the wane. I vote we have a matriarchal goddess as the power behind our cult/society. lol.
I met a woman here in the States that was a native of New Zealand. I ended up falling in love with her and marrying her. As a result I wound up relocating to New Zealand.
My finances are well off but I'm here to tell you in advance that it taks ALOT of money to relocate to other countries when all is said and done. It sounds cheap on the surface but as things progress the funds are exponentially needed.
But I'm like you. Why limit yourself to just your current surroundings and locale to find your soul mate/spouse?!!! There's a whole wide world out there and the one designated just for you could be in any country if you open your mind, heart and soul to the possibilities.
Best of luck in your search for the right one! Be adventurous and seek off the beaten path. You'll be surprised what doors will open up in your pursuit and the degree of happiness you can find.
I quit drinking alcohol but refuse to give up the java. Got to have a blast in the morning and a couple of times throughout the day to have maximum alertness and efficiency. Keep up the good work! Congratulations on your weight loss and on dropping the bad habits.
I think on an etheral and spiritual level you can recognize one of your designated soul mates in an instant. Thus love at first sight does occur but you have to be a believer in it before you will be susceptible to it and can exeperience the phenomenon.
It's easy to call when to leave a thread. When the stupid, little, jealous, and miserable crowd shows up it's time to split lest you sink to their level and become one of their ilk.
My theory is that more than a few individuals on here are drunks and drug addicts and post when they are feeling no pain. Thus all the bonehead remarks.
It's best to just post and move along to the next thread. If someone attacks you behind your back that shows what type of buffoon and coward you're dealing with.
Online friendships are akin to having an online relationship. It's nice for a season but will only take you so far if you don't take the next step and meet up regularly in person. We all need real live flesh and blood people present during the course of our lives on a regular basis. This applies for friends and those we are involved in relationships with. Some people wrongly mistake connecting with someone online as a substitute for real life partnerships. It's not!
With all the modern technology avaialable and at our disposal it's easy to strike up friendships via the internet with people from all over the world.
However, nothing takes the place of a friend that is tried and true through tribulations and trials by your side in person. A friend should be there with you when you need them. Comfort from afar is ok but its second fiddle to the caring strength of a friend by your side.
I have made some real friends over the internet. But it's not quite the same as a friend who knows you over time in person and is in your company on a regular basis.
I don't eat fast food at all. I much prefer a real restaurant with healthier choices on the menu. Fast food is the major contributor to the obesity of Americans. But it's fast and it's cheap and that's a major draw for alot of folks.
I was here in between marriages then met the last ex and dropped all site involvment. Post divorce decided to come back. Maybe two years total around this site.
To be efficient, which you have to be when weeding through all the garbage on the inbox on this site, you should delete and move along to the next message.
Most people that are habitually single are so by choice whether they consciously or subconsciously make that decision. As humans we are meant to be partnered up with another. We're bioligically made as such. To remain single for long durations of time is against nature and IMHO will make you miserable. I'm sure the eternally single crowd will get defensive when they hear the truth but it is what it is.
Firstly I'm attracted to someone's looks. I am drawn to unique features and an overall aesthetically pleasing face. Secondly I expect them to be fit and in shape if I am to be further lured in. Thirdly, and on par with points one and two, is that they must be intelligent which can usually readily be acknowledged or denied from perusing the written portion of their profile.
If they measure up in each of these three areas then I will either initiate contact with them or be sure to respond to the message or flower they have already sent me.
Of course there was a Creator and grand design behind the development of the universe. Surely there is an empirical goal driving the eons of time. We seek answers. Some we will never find.
When you're inexperienced and green you it's easy to just fall in love at the drop of a hat. When you're wise and learned then you finally become empowered by realizing you have control and a say over who you will give your heart and life to.
Some of us get innundated with so much mail daily that it's not feasible to acknowledge every lookie loo, emailer or flower sender.
Besides, many of us already have our favorites that we met from this site that we chat with regularly. So when someone new pulls up they better be very memorable and striking in their approach or they just get kicked to the curb and lost in the shuffle.
RE: Who sent you flower last time and what kind they are?
Got a rose from a dear friend in Canada. Always heartening to receive a thought in the form of a flower from someone who is thinking of you.