Mature women and good lovers are both relative terms. Chemistry, passion and sesual mind are the main components and none of which are gender or age specific
Perfectly imperfect here.......and ego in check...life is a school, something to learn every single day...and areas to improve on, rough edges to file...
Believe or not, I read the entire chapter I commend you for showing your soft side. The "true love" phenomenon is a little more complicated than partners not knowing what they want. You can have all the positive attributes in the world and the determination to accept and love your partner for who they are but you may still not find the love, probably for the very reason you described as "co-creation".
I am an old-schooler. I think that love does not need rationalization. Get-along factor alone does not guarantee love. You've got to have it in your guts. And, you'll know when it hits.
Say a Name and combine it with an Emoticon. No need for words
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