Just wanted to say that some of my posts come across the wrong way. I have difficulty at times being very clear about exactly what I mean. It's because I don't want to offend people, so I step around certain words or phrases and end up offending people anyway.
I'm not really getting why I end up in debates ..it must just be the way I come across. I'm just expressing my opinion, just as other people are.
I'm sorry Dougie if you think I was twisting your words. I also don't see the word might in your post. In your post it sounds like you are saying that poor mental health is related to weight without actually saying it. However, for me..the sentiment is the same.
No..but I've had a sudden surge in Swedish men e-mailing me? Messages about how stunning I am ... Not that I don't agree .. but just not getting why all of a sudden..
I don't like generalizations, they add to the myths and the stigma associated with being overweight. One thing I've noticed is that there is a lot of ideas about what overweight is. I've had guys message me and say that they liked bigger girls, in fact their last girlfriend was 5'7, 140 pounds. That's their idea of a BBW. To each their own. I don't bother trying to convert men into chubby chasers. I'm good with me and that's what matters.
I do have a problem when I read a message that says based on my experience bigger people have poor mental health ... I'm not really sure what was intended by that. Mental health is not necessarily based on appearance. In fact, many times mental illness is the result of a chemical imbalance. I agree that poor self esteem and body image has a positive correlation. The statements about bigger people being hot all the time etc, it's true in some of the cases. Not all. I think something for all people to be conscious of is how we word what we say. I'm all for giving your opinion and expressing your experiences..but you haven't dated every big girl in the world. As far as body odor is concerned ... it has little to do with your size. It's about hygiene not weight. I agree that being healthy and active is important.. it's something I've learned and have struggled with for many years. It's not the numbers on the scale, or how many men think I'm hot. It's that I think I'm hot. And I am :)
There was a time that I hated my life. I felt trapped, as though I was never going to escape my own hell. I learned a lot of lessons in the last 5 years and I've changed all of the things I hated about my life. I am not exactly where I want to be .. but one of the best quotes I've heard is
"Here is a test to see if your mission in life is complete-- If you are alive, it isn't."
I'm still alive :P So I know that I still have more to do. It isn't about the destination, it's the journey. I love my life and best of all .. I love the promise of my future.
Thank you for sharing your story and your opinion.
I am of the same mind frame. Nursing is a difficult profession, with a high burnout rate. It is important that nurses learn coping mechanisms to deal with the high levels of stress. However, nothing to say that someone with mental illness cannot deal with the same stress.
Depends on the college of nurses/doctors. In Ontario, you can be registered if you have a mental illness. Schizophrenia for example. However, the college must know before you write your exam and it must be well controlled. I was curious because some of the students in my group said they would refuse care if "their" nurse had a mental illness. However, chances are you would never know.
In the early morning dew, love conquered and won it’s glittering prize dangled before an adoring god.
Tarnished gold turns brass, in the early afternoon haze Malnourished mongrels feast upon pain and insecurity Ripping apart all that we were with the gnashing of their teeth
In the evening fog, love disappears into the thin air of confusion The velvet sky shines upon us, the incandescent light illuminating what we will never be.
In the vestiges of mutual inferiority, infatuation captured the essence of our lust. Fear unleashed provides adoration an excuse to fade from existence.
The arctic cold of ignorance blows our love to the north of consciousness.
Now that I've exposed my affinity for writing bad poetry .. Someone else has to share
I was just going through my old poems ... Was drawn to a few in particular. I wrote this poem when I was about..16? A long time ago lol .. I thought I'd share..because I'm wondering if others have gone back and read stuff they wrote a long time ago. Mostly I think .. what the hell was I thinking? It's rather dramatic..but then again, aren't most 16 yr olds?
Clay
Shades of grey drift past my reckless dreams The quiet mist of confusion surrounds my abandoned heart
Smile and tell me you love me, Your declarations fall upon my deaf ears. Your vinyl pain tears my synthetic heart
Mold me into your plastercine goddess. Shape me into the woman you dreamed I could be.
Craft me into the woman you said I was, the soft girl who hung on your every word, waiting desperately by the phone, its ominous silence echoing throughout the shadows of her mind.
Wrap your lies around me, cover my sensibility in the cocoon of your deceit. Engulf me in the plastic love you serve on rusted nails Drive the spike of your betrayal deep into the recesses of my shattered being.
Am just starting my rotation in mental health. An interesting question came up today during our orientation. Wanted to get a cross-section of views.
If you were receiving health care, at a hospital, in the community, home health care etc.
Would you be concerned if your doctor or nurse had a mental illness?
I am interested in hearing the views of all of you. I realize this can be a "hot topic" but I am not looking to start a Holy War ..just hoping to hear how others feel about the subject.
I like action movies..true stories..love stories (awww...) .. thriller..some horror..more the cheesy kind..not the truly scary.. (I have a vivid imagination..I can barely watch Unsolved Mysteries..lol)
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Thanks Dougie 
RE: weight
I am sorry that you think I'm twisting your words, was not my intention. Have a good night.