I'll tell you how it affected me. I grew up in a home where my dad taught me baking bread and cake recipes and my mum taught me how to make jokes on stereotypical perceptions of gender. As you can readily see the damage this has done, the scarring runs deep, and for this reason I only give Feminism 2 out of 5 stars.
Your best self will never be perfect and should not be perfect. The other person should always have a flaw you can exploit to keep their feet on the ground(doubly so in an age of narcissism). But a person who gives up on being their best self for too long should be thrown on the scrap heap. Husbands and Wives shouldn't tolerate the other letting themselves go(without good reason), it's a lack of love and respect to do this. No one would be very happy if they bought an AUDI one week and came back the next and it was a Dacia.
And I'm husband material on paper only. In practice I've yet to meet a woman who inspires my love for long enough to give me the temperament and desire to play happy families.
Having said this the silver-tongued devil is typically more devilish than the beautiful woman. His cunning mouth and mind is much more liable to commit evil than a pretty face. Which is a relief, life can not be very easy when you're attracted to evil monsters.
He's probably one of those men who makes everyone else around them worse off but gets away with it because of his charm. A bit like how beautiful women get away with murder. People around the beautiful woman or this charming man, especially people of low value, subconsciously welcome being walked all over.
Girls preferred the older boys ever since they were little girls.
Imo cougars are either older women trying to rekindle their youth, envious mothers competing against daughters, or they're women who genuinely still are 13 inside their own heads and the younger man is the grown up.
Why Facebook? Why Twitter? Why the CS forum? Nothing about the age and culture I live in suggests that people don't need or want to be recognised, everything suggests the opposite, yet many pretend they're the big I am who doesn't care what anybody else thinks.
White people like to talk like Donald Trumps whilst behaving like adolescent girls.
Ning and Lolette don't let your eastern inferiority complexes get the better of you. You two girls are right to think that other people and the rest of the world matter, that you need some recognition in life from others. White people just think it's cool to feign borderline sociopathic indifference to others when in actuality they are probably the least secure in themselves.
Don't look at how lovely and nice the West is and think it is this way because of who now inhabits it. We inherited our success and for heaven's sake don't try emulate to us, we're losers with an egotistical or insecure veneer of smug complacency that you are better off without.
I.e. it's blatantly obvious that White people are the most subject to peer pressure and likely to say whatever seems the coolest, strongest, and most "individual" thing to say. If it wasn't this then they'd have more variety of opinion which they don't. In fact they're so bent on pretending that they'll deny the basic Human need for recognition which leads to appreciation, praise and respect. Now that I've said the word "respect", which is a trendy noise/word, they'll then decide that they actually do want recognition and respect.
They're all not bothered about what others think. All of them, uniformly so(apart from Twazzle who is an honest simpleton incapable of pretense). I should not have to point out the irony in a group of people who are all very insistent upon being individual yet happening to have perfectly matching attitudes and opinions.
If you notice Ning and Lolette are the only ones who treated the thread like a real question. And Ali is just being Ali. But the White responses are near enough all the same. Of course appreciation, praise and respect matter to any person, but White people are really weird about admitting this if it suggests they may actually need other people.
White folk don't like to admit that what anybody else thinks matters lest it corrupt the sanctity of the individual. Self-satisfaction is one of our egotistical cultural memes and it's not really a good thing, however, most White folk feign self-satisfaction out of vanity, they very much want to be seen as not caring about what other people think which is itself a clear example of caring about what other people think.
An alternative to a dependent future is one where the hipster Left joins with Capitalist hards to wipe out the "useless eaters" and replace them with nature reserves. There's an elitist streak within the Left wing and that Right wing that agrees on mass global depopulation(for differing but not mutually exclusive reasons).
But who is to say we couldn't meet in the middle? If the Greeks continue to behave so badly and perform so perform have them all killed, and then re-direct the bailout funds into employing Spanish, Portuguese and Irish youth on tree planting projects in the now depopulated Greece.
However, I'm also aware that technological advancement and globalisation are diminishing social capital to such an extent that it may be the case that there's not much that most people can do in the real world. The future may be one where the majority of people are paid to exist which, morally speaking, will make for a terrible world. I believe what has to be done is to teach dependents to acknowledge what they are and not take chunks out of the hand that feeds lest this hand retreats and allows the lion's share of "useless eaters" to starve to death.
And whilst I do understand that a lack of confidence makes some people inhibited there are as many people(maybe not online)who are excessively confident and uninhibited to the point of selfishness, greed and blindness to reality.
Without some psychological anchor based in substance which keeps peoples feet on the ground the confident go mad with power - so many players, financiers and salesmen I know are just like this and the girls love them to a man. The women look at them and 'ug' and *tingle* for their power, it's only normally men(including gay men)who question what they are actually doing with this power?
When you stop and consider that confidence is a non-dirty word for power(personal power)the sensible person realises that you can have too much of a good thing after all.
I direct this at men who as men should know to not be so personal, to not simply look at how charismatic and confident a person is, but to actually consider what is objectively being brought to the table by them. The world is not built on confidence, personality, popularity and style alone - this is the way women think - no, there has to be some qualitative substance which backs up the confidence. It is a failure of modern manhood to not know the difference stylish charlatanism and substantial achievement.
The problem in getting to a point where you could default without disaster is that no one is aiming for this. The Right has a better idea of what a real economy is, but they'll never cross the banks. The Left, however, has it heart in the right place but no idea how to achieve their own objectives. What the West and particularly Europe desperately needs are statesmen beyond Left and Right with the icy mind of a capitalist and the fiery heart of a socialist.
This is contrast to the woman's "I'm fine" which is a poor lie that isn't supposed to be believed and is actually anything but protective and is instead a manipulative act of tacit aggression.
If I'm going to lie then I'll lie well. I've been having chest pains recently and I'd not told any of the women around me because they'll worry too much. I found out it was a ligament strain and then told the girls, but before then I could only tell men.
If I pretend to be ok it's usually to be protective, and I feel more protective over women I care about than men I care about. I also know men will take worrying news better and be less of a burden on my conscience.
That sounds much more like seduction than intelligence. It's a staple expectation for her to seduce. If she wants to lay claims to intelligence then she would need more than charisma to satisfy me.
That's a confidence tricksters definition of intelligence. I'd make this person head of public relations or my propaganda minister, (s)he'd never be my leading scientist.
We fight all the time and it's vain to postulate anything to a community and doubly so the species which the individual doesn't live up to.
Besides what would a world of nothing but passive aggression instead of open aggression look like? Legal and seemingly proper manipulation and violence. We should live by the ancient motto 'Nothing in Excess' and that includes fighting.
Yes, the Greek people pretended to be several social classes higher than they actually are for decades, and now I see it as as only right for the Greek people to live their deserved standard of living even if this only lasts one decade.
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RE: How feminism affects in men???
I'll tell you how it affected me. I grew up in a home where my dad taught me baking bread and cake recipes and my mum taught me how to make jokes on stereotypical perceptions of gender. As you can readily see the damage this has done, the scarring runs deep, and for this reason I only give Feminism 2 out of 5 stars.