Ok you pick which part of the "dumb" blonde (it has come to my attention that some dumb blonds are very clever indeed!!) you wanna wax lyrical about and go right ahead!!!! I'll just listen ...
Jan I have a friend my age who has brought her kids on her own so never really worked as she was an "at home Mum" ...
Her dream is now to meet someone who she would be happy with and her aspiration for herself is to "make a home" and look after it. She is not stupid or uneducated. That is what she would love to do ... And what she always wanted ... She is however more than capable od discussing any subject ...
In my opinion there is no right or wrong ... each person - man or woman - has different needs ... the tricky bit is forming couples who trully complement one anoter in their needs ... And lets face it many of us on here haven't been to successfull at doing that in the past...
Oh!! And I know a few people who are only interested in discussing the price of beef and the latest soap although they have full time jobs (both male and female) - may add football match results to the list too!!!
Your suggestions/ questions being of a very negative nature received a response accordingly ...
You're calling it a slinging match because you can't handle anyone "suggesting" anything that is not complimentary to you where as you find it perfectly acceptable to address the same to others ...
Clichés and innuendos is what your "suggestions/questions for discussion and/or confirmation" was written with ...
"So who is it flowerofthesnow--- is it a person that went back into the threads- studied them waited for his oppourtunity-- then came in-- faceless- showed his hand and played his cards - utilising the emmotions of others-
I may be totally wrong- but if this is the case it has no place in Spirituality"
the pot calling the kettle black!!!! "WHO"are you to judge who and what has place in spirituality? What makes you think you are equipped to do so? Those who "know" - know that people "judge" others through the lenses of "their own eyes" experiences and actions ...
BTW you ARE totally wrong .... unless he is a visionary who knew he was gonna meet me and lived his life for years in preparation for this moment ... Also a face that is only a veneer that doesn't withstand scrutiny is, I would say, far worse than being faceless ... Anyway I don't remember mentioning "faceless" in my description
"Utilising the emotions of others" : You still think you are the centre of the universe and people have nothing better to do than "utilise your emotions" ??!!! Grow up!!!
My daughter gave me a beautiful crystal neckless for Christmas ... 4 days later I met (face to face for the first time) someone rather special who was wearing a very similar neckless. People around commented on the necklesses thinking they has been acquired together ...
A few days later that special person was given a gift to pass on to me by one of his friends (whom I had never met). I could not believe it when I saw what it was ... A string of tibetans bells ... Reason for my amazement: when I moved out of my house in Septembre I forgot mine hanging by the window (was very gutted as they were a present from a very dear friend of mine- no point going back for them as builders had gutted the place out by the time I realised) ... the universe had replaced them for me
These are just 2 of the most striking "coincidences" in the last 2 weeks
"whoever succeeds in winning this fair maiden's hand will have to be a good man and true! "
Spot on Rusty!! Although letting him have just my hand might be a bit mean
Added bonus would be/is to be able to make love back to me in several languages, to have a true spiritual dimension which is part of his everyday life, to be surrounded by friends or family who respect him for who he is, to have values of which he and I can both be proud of, to know what he wants from life and have made choices accordingly, to value life more than money, to be gentle and loving in essence and in reality both towards others and moi ...
2. separation is a devil's project. IMHO separation is infringement of human rights. Why does this still exist? It denies normal life to any of the parties, unless one wants to use its dubious benefits like unlimited number of no commitment relationships. It is not that difficult to obtain an annulment or divorce but it is costly to say the list.
May be separation is NOT a devil's project if staying together equals emotional (and sometimes physical) misery for one or the other of the parties involved and that sure is an infringement of human rights. The laws of divorce are very different from one country to another. In any case separation usually preceeds divorce. In some countries the "couple" has to have been separated for a number of years before divorce is legally "accepted/formalised" by the courts. I will choose peace of mind over money any day of my life ... so "the cost" of divorce is irrelevent IMHO.
1. biggest age difference: 20 years (both younger and/or older)
2. separated as in "no longer living under the same roof" is akin to being divorced in my mind ... what's important is not how I feel about it but how the separated person is emotionally dealing with it in their mind and are they emotionally separated as well as physically?
3. not done couple counselling. Friend of mine has. As far as I can see has not been that helpfull. Although I have heard that sometimes even though the marriage cannot be "saved", couple counselling can help each party to "see" all the different elements that contributed to the break up and therefore provide a safer ground for discussion and saying good bye without bitterness ...
More kissing defo on the agenda !!! But not so much re-discovering the past as much as the past, the present and the future all slotting together effortlessly ...
And Uli ... thanks for the compliment ... 1000 miles is about right!!!
Sorry to hear that ... It's a feeling that probably many young mums can relate to (at times) ... although I kow it's not the same for you as at least you can wrap the kids warms and take them out to run round a park ...
Isn't there anyone who could come and spend a couple of days and take care of of your dear folks so that you could have a break?
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