Riya ... you think your thread should be re-directed back to your original question??? I feel bad about highjacking your thread ... but it was fun!!!!!
Awwww Clayyer!!! Come back here this minute and let's share them with Riya!!! And while we're at it lets have a few strawberries and champs to go with them!!!!
Reading about that reminded of another MUST song for the ladies who have struggled in relationships not worthy of them (including me) ...
TINA TURNER I WILL SURVIVE
At first I was afraid I was petrified Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong And I grew strong And I learned how to get along and so you're back from outer space I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face I should have changed that stupid lock I should have made you leave your key If I had known for just one second you'd be back to bother me
Go on now go walk out the door just turn around now 'cause you're not welcome anymore weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye Did you think I'd crumble Did you think I'd lay down and die Oh no, not I I will survive Oh as long as i know how to love I know I will stay alive I've got all my life to live I've got all my love to give and I'll survive I will survive (hey-hey)
It took all the strength I had not to fall apart kept trying hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart and I spent oh so many nights just feeling sorry for myself I used to cry But now I hold my head up high and you see me somebody new I'm not that chained up little person still in love with you and so you felt like dropping in and just expect me to be free and now I'm saving all my loving for someone who's loving me
Go on now go walk out the door just turn around now 'cause you're not welcome anymore weren't you the one who tried to break me with goodbye Did you think I'd crumble Did you think I'd lay down and die Oh no, not I I will survive Oh as long as i know how to love I know I will stay alive I've got all my life to live I've got all my love to give and I'll survive I will survive
If there is one time when "the stiff upper lip" thing just IS NOT right that is at times like these!!!! You don't need a kick up the bum!!! You need to hug yourself and anyone else who's happy to let themselves be bear hugged by you right now ... If there's no one about go drag a stranger off the street!!!! Tell them you need a hug and I said so!!!!
Clayyer for you and her family ... May those who are left bereft find solace in the knowledge that Thrish's Spirit lives on in the heart of all those who love her and those who's heart she touched with kindness throughout her life ... Her Spirit is something that nothing can take away, it lives forever
Good advice Bowie. However, the forums are a great way to get support, share and clarify what's on ones mind ... so out of the many online dating sites I would say this one is a great one to join even if one is not quite ready to dive in yet ...
What I found with some of the "choices" I made in the past is they weren't so much choices as "reactions" to things that had happened before ...
Little by little and with time you will be able to discover WHO you really are and WHAT really makes you tick ...
If you keep asking yourself the question when dealing with everything (small and big) - Is this a "reaction" or do I really feel like this ... then listen to your feelings for the answer ... Same goes for likes and dislikes ... interests/hobbies ... decisions ... buying clothes ... going out ... You name it!!!!
Then when you are a "whole you" warts and all ... You will be able to recognise the same in others and IT will happen
No apologies needed on my account ... my post was meant to convey for you NOT to get wound up by others comments ...
Actually ... you know which is the British thing that most makes me smile?
When you get somewhere and tell someone some sort of "sh.t just happened to me" and invariably after making some sort of supportive noises you know what's coming next!!!!!! "Oh! Never mind ... It'll sort itself in the end ... here HAVE A NICE CUP OF TEA!!!!!"
I have lived for a fair amount of years in France and in the UK and have now returned to my roots in Spain!!! And guess what???
Every country AND its people has "things", "flaws", "foibles", "laws", "the way things are done", "the way SOME people act", that we could pick on and have a field day when we feel dissatisfied and want to project it onto "something else" . The thing is ... it can be done in a witty funny way OR in a crass angry way ... I know which one makes me feel better!!!!
I think you have now hit the nail on the head at last Diogeness! The most violent type of anger is the one where one is angry with oneself and someone does something to remind us we have f.ucked up big time ... because there is a double wammy of anger, the one we feel for ourselves and the one we feel towards the person who reminds us of it ... Only we project it all on the other person ...
In order to leave at peace with yourself and project safety, re-assurance and love to your daughter, you may need to forgive yourself for being instrumental in her being in the position she is now in ... Also kids tend to feel the energy of anger from those they love and sometimes they think that it's THEIR fault even when it obviously isn't ... Responsibility as a parent comes in many layers ...
PS. I have been both a step-mum and have experienced my children having a step-mum in their life ...
Hi Marushka!!! Your story reminds me of something that happened to the friend of an ex-colleague of mine. This young girl had been going out with a guy from "British upper class" and was invited to dinner at his house by way of introducing her to his family. She got there very nervous and head full of "doss and don'ts" of etiquette ... Half way through the meal she absolutely needed to go to the toilet but didn't want to use the word toilet at the dinner table so she excused herself asking if she could use "the bathroom". She was told were it was and off she went ... To her horror when she walked into the room that's exactely what it was a "bath/wash room... No toilet in sight ... She got really worried about walking around and looking for the toilet in case they would hear her and thought she was snooping around soooooooo ... she decided to go wee in the sink ...
All the guests downstairs suddenly heard an almighty crash and rushed upstairs to see what it was ... to find the girl passed out on the floor in a very unlady like fashion and the broken sink hanging from the wall ....
And NO the relationship did not survive the "incident" !!!!!
RE: Forum Etiquette ?
Well!!! What did you expect with all these gorgeous ladies shaking their "assets" to the grooviest music on CS in the grooviest thread on CS!!
I better go get some dinner sorted before I get into trouble!!!!!