Some would be controlling because of their back grounds, but there are the ones that choose to be controlling. Many men and women come from bad backgrounds/upbringing but they do not choose to be negative, controlling or abusive.
They have to want to see what they are doing is wrong if they won't, there is no chance of them changing. If they wake up and see what they are, then they have to decide to change and do the work to make it happen. In some cases, they just feel it's better to stay the way they are. Easier to not fix the problem and blame everyone else.
... it is a big red flag if they can not respond to pets (of any kind.)
It is a blessing when we have a partner who is there for us and for our kid(s). Eric and Brian are able to connect on a level no one else is able to do so. Eric is comfortable with Brian.
It's hard as a parent to watch your kid go through a crisis. As much as we'd like to be able to fix things (or make them better) we can not do so. Makes a person feel helpless even useless sometimes.
You and Glen are doing what kiddo needs. Getting him the help, giving him the support, and being there for him. Rest is up to the medial team to help him and up to the kiddo to help, heal himself. Double hard when kiddo is a teenager.
Kiddo is lucky, he has a mother who cares and a friend like Glen who is there for him on a level a parent is not.
Best of luck to all of you. You are in our thoughts and hearts.
Hey sweetie, Get your man to give you a hug from Brian and I. You were very concerned for your young man when we visited. It's not easy on him and even harder on you caring and hoping he will get better. Bravo to your young man for making the choice to get help. Never easy for them to do.
Take care, you know you have friends to lean on and talk to when needed.
My only suggestion is Vitamin B6. It's used for many things, and mainly things to do with anxiety, depression, A.D.D., Autism, & patients dealing with some psychological issues have been given it.
While looking at a house, my brother asked the estate agent which direction was north because he didn't want the sun waking him up every morning. She asked, 'Does the sun rise in the north?' My brother explained that the sun rises in the east and has for sometime. She shook her head and said, 'Oh, I don't keep up with all that stuff......'
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My colleague and I were eating our lunch in our cafeteria, when we overheard an admin girl talking about the sunburn she got on her weekend drive to the beach. She drove down in a convertible, but said she 'didn't think she'd get sunburned because the car was moving'.
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My sister has a lifesaving tool in her car which is designed to cut through a seat belt if she gets trapped. She keeps it in the car trunk.
They Walk Among Us! ----------------------------------------------------------------- I was hanging out with a friend when we saw a woman with a nose ring attached to an earring by a chain. My friend said, 'Ouch! The chain must rip out every time she turns her head!" I had to explain that a person's nose and ear remain the same distance apart no matter which way the head is turned...
They Walk Among Us ! I couldn't find my luggage at the airport baggage area and. went to the lost luggage office and reported the loss. The woman there smiled and told me not to worry because she was a trained professional and said I was in good hands. 'Now,' she asked me, 'Has your plane arrived yet?'... (I work with professionals like this.)
They Walk Among Us! ----------------------------------------------------------------- While working at a pizza parlor I observed a man ordering a small pizza to go. He appeared to be alone and the cook asked him if he would like it cut into 4 pieces or 6. He thought about it for some time then said 'Just cut it into 4 pieces; I don't think I'm hungry enough to eat 6 pieces.
Dumb as a box of Rocks A VERY GOOD EXAMPLE OF THE KIND OF REPRESENTATION WE HAVE IN CONGRESS, TRUE STORY:
A noted psychiatrist was a guest speaker at an academic function where Nancy Pelosi happened to appear. Ms Pelosi took the opportunity to schmooze the good doctor a bit and asked him a question with which he was most at ease.
'Would you mind telling me, Doctor,' she asked, 'how you detect a mental deficiency in somebody who appears completely normal?'
'Nothing is easier,' he replied. 'You ask a simple question which anyone should answer with no trouble. If the person hesitates, that puts you on the track.'
'What sort of question?' asked Pelosi.
Well, you might ask, 'Captain Cook made three trips around the world and died during one of them. Which one?''
Pelosi thought a moment, and then said with a nervous laugh, 'You wouldn't happen to have another example would you? I must confess I don't know much about history.'
You can’t make this stuff up! Make sure you read all the way to the end.
NEW YORK - resident Kathy Evans brought humiliation to her friends and family when she set a new standard for stupidity with her appearance on the popular TV show, 'Who Wants To Be A Millionaire.'
Evans, a 32-year-old wife and mother of two, got stuck on the first question and proceeded to make what fans of the show are dubbing 'the absolute worst use of lifelines ever.' After being introduced to the show's host Meredith Vieira, Evans was posed with a typically easy initial $100 question.
The question was: 'Which of the following is the largest?'
A) A Peanut B) An Elephant C) The Moon D) Hey, who you calling large?
Immediately Mrs. Evans was struck with an all consuming panic as she did not readily know the answer. 'Hmm, oh boy, that's a toughie,' said Evans, as Vieira did her level best to hide her disbelief. 'I mean, I'm sure I've heard of some of these things before, but I have no idea how large they would be.'
Evans made the decision to use the first of her three lifelines, the 50/50. Answers A and D were removed, leaving her to decide which was bigger, an elephant or the moon. However, faced with an incredibly easy question, Evans still remained unsure.
'Oh! It removed the two I was leaning towards!' exclaimed Evans.... 'Darn. I think I better phone a friend.' Mrs. Evans asked to be connected with her friend Betsy, who is an office assistant.
'Hi Betsy! How are you? This is Kathy! I'm on TV!' said Evans, wasting the first seven seconds of her call. 'Ok, I got an important question. Which of the following is the largest? B, an elephant, or C, the moon. 15 seconds hun.' Betsy quickly replied that the answer was C, the moon. Evans proceeded to argue with her friend for the remaining ten seconds. 'Betsy, are you sure?' said Evans. 'How sure are you? Duh, that can't be it.'
To everyone's astonishment, the moronic Evans declined to take her friend's advice. 'I just don't know if I can trust Betsy.. She's not all that bright. So I think I'd like to ask the audience,' said Evans.
Asked to vote on the correct answer, the audience returned 98% in favor of answer C, 'The Moon.' Having used up all her lifelines, Evans then made the dumbest choice of her life.
'Wow, seems like everybody is against what I'm thinking,' said the too-stupid-to-live Evans. 'But you know, sometimes you just got to go with your gut. So, let's see... I'm going to have to go with B, an elephant. Final answer.'
Evans sat before the dumbfounded audience, the only one waiting with bated breath - and was told that she was wrong, and that the answer was in fact, C, 'The Moon.' Caution...they walk among us! Some guy bought a new fridge for his house. To get rid of his old fridge, he put it in his front yard and hung a sign on it saying: 'Free to good home. You want it, you take it.' For three days the fridge sat there without anyone looking twice. He eventually decided that people were too mistrustful of this deal. So he changed the sign to read: 'Fridge for sale $50.'
The next day someone stole it!
They walk amongst us! ----------------------------------------------------------------- I stopped at Mc Donald’s and ordered some fries. The girl behind the counter said “would you like some fries with that?”
*One day I was walking down the beach with some friends when someone shouted.... 'Look at that dead bird!' Someone looked up at the sky and said...'where?'
How about being grateful for all the laughs we get. Geo, Gord and can't forget Brew's jokes. (I am not great at remembering names, so if your name is not mentioned, please do not be insulted. Got turkey on the brain and all the stuff that has to be done before this afternoon.)
Laughingone ...is a hoot!!!... and love the way Eyes comes up with things that causes us to smile and think.
I appologise oreos... sometimes I forget to welcome the new comers. Welcome to the group and anyone else that has not been welcomed, please join in.
We accept anyone that respects others, we will be a bunch of nutters from time to time, but if you attack or insult anyone, there are a few of us that will do our best to set the record straight.
It is hard sometimes on a forum where misunderstandings can take place. (Hard to understand the tone of a comment when not given verbally) We are not perfect but we do try to respect others.
You might not meet a life mate, but you can make some cool buddies and friends for life. (good support when needed, and lots of people in the same boat as you are willing to share good advise.... even some bad ....)
Sorry if I'm speaking for the group, but we always hope that others on here will feel free to be themselves (with out disrespecting others.)
To bestat45 and nottoo2525, you definatly have something to be thankful for. To still have your fathers. I wish for both of you and your fathers a very special thanksgiving.
I'm thankful Mom is still here and have grown to admire even more because of her strength to get through a major operation ... just finishing chemo last week (6 months of it.) and never once feeling sorry for herself but thinking of her foster kids when most would have had them put in other foster homes.
Thankful for the way my Dad did his best to look after my mother in his own way and my Aunt coming from Ireland to help out for 6 months.
I'm thankful for my kids being healthy. (even the dog and cats) I'm thankful for my fiance who has stepped up to the plate to be a rock for me (and being there for my parents when mom got sick) and treating me with lots of patience and respect.
I did not meet my fiance on here. I did meet with other people. I was told that there are lots of artists on this site, and less boring than forums or chat sites that only deal with art. The forums can teach you things about yourself, and there is lots of information regarding relationships. Found many things to think about and I feel that lead to me being able to meet the right person.
Eyes and Gord met up with me in Whitehorse. Eyes and I took to each other because we share many things on common. Our special children, marital experience, and we both like working with people dealing the disabilities. She also has a great sense of humor. :-)
Someone I met on line, met me for coffee, and we knew we were not a match, kept saying he knew who I had to meet. It took a while, but I finally went out for coffee to meet Brian. Low and behold, the person who wanted us to meet, was right. (How well our relationship is going was a complete suprize, because he thought it would be a real comedy act since Brian and I share the same weird humor. He had no idea we'd become a couple... then again neither did I.) Now I am engaged to someone that decided he would be a bachelor for the rest of his life.
Unfortunately too many are only able to chat, email and share dreams, because the reality of what it takes to have a real relationship is too much work. It's amazing what a person might find if they face reality and are open to meeting a real person.
See what I mean.... you could gain a brain listening to WOMEN.
Most of us have seen bestat45's photo ... She has a great smile, and if you really look at her eyes, there is lots of intelligence.
It's never easy trying to communicate in a language that is not our native tongue. It is a wise idea to make sure you understand what is being said, and how you respond.
Geo knows I was joking with him. He has always shown respect towards all the females on CS.
My comment was from the female experience. No where in my post did I say ALL women nor did I say "no men" raise their kids on their own.
I have a lot of respect for men/fathers that step up to the plate to raise their kids as a single parent. Many women would be surprised how great some single fathers are at raising their kids. Not all men need a woman in their life to help raise kids, cook or do the house work. Problem with using a forum where you type, makes it hard to tell what tone is used.
In this day and age there are men that want to only be with a woman that earns enough money to pay for what they want.
There are a lot of women that have paid off the debts men have caused, and the same with men doing the same for women. Stereo typing all women is not a good idea.
, found while Spanish men are considered the best lovers, those from Germany come in dead last because they’re — according to the results — much too smelly.
Guys from England were found to be too lazy in bed, Swedish men were too quick, in Holland they’re too dominating, Americans are uncomfortably rough, Greek guys are annoyingly lovey-dovey and in Russia, women complained, their men are too hairy.
Scottish men were found to be loud, in Wales the guys are said to be selfish and in Turkey, the respondents complained about issues with being sweaty.
Of the men rated as good lovers, as well as the top-dog Spaniards, Brazilians, Italians, the French, the Irish, South Africans, Australians, New Zealanders and the Danish all were rated as being better in bed than Canuck males.
In the U.K.’s Telegraph, a spokesman for the polling company explained: “These results are an eye-opener for thousands of men around the world and female travellers might judge potential new lovers by looking at these results.”
How can Canadian men now move up in the raunchy rankings?
They may take a cue from another recent OnePoll survey, which found six out of ten women don’t mind when a man uses a cheesy pick-up line, because it shows he has a sense of humour.
(a hell of a lot better than below average. hmm is that why I keep hearing ... "the average Canadian...")
Brian says Hi to Eyes and Gord. Brian's jealous I got a hug and he didn't LOL. (he was awfully quiet ... normally he jokes around.) I'm sure next time he will make up for it.
Hello Hello Hello .... Brian and I finally got home safe and sound.
Eyes... my mother is 4 ft 10 and my father is about 5 ft 4. So now you know for sure, the wee folk do come from Ireland.
It was a short visit for sure, and you did visit even though your son was not feeling well and you were tired from a very long day (working 2 jobs). Hope your son is feeling better.
Hope you did not drive all the way to camp after the visit Gord.
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(a hell of a lot better than below average. hmm is that why I keep hearing ... "the average Canadian...") 
RE: controling partner
Some would be controlling because of their back grounds, but there are the ones that choose to be controlling. Many men and women come from bad backgrounds/upbringing but they do not choose to be negative, controlling or abusive.They have to want to see what they are doing is wrong if they won't, there is no chance of them changing. If they wake up and see what they are, then they have to decide to change and do the work to make it happen. In some cases, they just feel it's better to stay the way they are. Easier to not fix the problem and blame everyone else.