KHD100 Forum Posts (2,495)

RE: Red River Rising...

Hope you and yours will be alright Loner .... same with all the other people in Manitoba.

RE: Red River Rising...

Hey bad spelling just means you are one of us.... hmmm is that a good thing or a bad thing????

RE: HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY

you said it better than I would have... then again, I wanted to use my foot on a posterior area ... and a rolling pin to someone's way of thinking that way about females.

So young, so jaded... it's a sad sad thing when someone is like this.

RE: HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY

You might not find someone on a date site, but for myself I used the date site to learn a lot about people, dating and relationships. There was a group of us (female & male)from a singles site that would go out once a month as a group. It was a great help, and they were a great support getting me out and about. They were also a great boost to my confidence.

I did meet a couple of people I would call friend, but what is weird, a person from a date site met me for coffee, and after meeting we knew there were no sparks. That was OK, but what was weird, he decided that it would be the neat if I met his friend. We both had the same off kilter humor. I said that I would only meet this person through emails before I would make the giant leap and go for coffee. I looked for all the red flags, but did not find any, so after 1.5 months, I felt it was OK (safe) to meet. I've never had patience for games or so called dating rules that people keep pushing on their friends.

To be honest, I would have over looked this guy, if we met on line. You will have someone special when the time is right, and it might happen when you least expect it.

JMO, self evaluation, and giving yourself the boost in confidence, and feeling positive in yourself helps. Took 9 yrs of self examination (writing things out)and healing. Till then no one would have been the right person for me, and vise a versa. "What you are is what you will attract." is so true.

best of luck to you all. It will happend if you allow it. :-)

Mom Update

First of all, thanks to everyone sending best wishes, positive energy and prayers for my mother. She has gotten stronger, and able to finally stop loosing weight. She has gotten strong enough to start chemo next week.

Thank you so much, your support has helped more than I can say.

RE: HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY

Bingo.... Eyes!!!

JMO, sometimes people are all for the idea of the special someone, but unconsciously (or unknowingly), have a brick wall that prevents them from finding that someone.

JMO, sometimes a person has to change themselves (heal the wounds from the past) to be able to meet that special someone.

My comment also had to do with watching so many people look for that special someone, but have an idea (list of qualities etc) that they want their special person to have. It's just my point of view, but that list might be unrealistic. It does not mean to just settle. It might be because I do not believe in fairy tales. My special someone is not perfect, but neither am I, but we are perfect for each other, and willing to work at our relationship.

I've seen so many meet someone; their hopes and dreams take over instead of facing reality and what that person really is like. Hurt and disappointment happens, and they get discouraged.

My comments are not made at everyone, but about people that have unrealistic expectations. It's easy to meet people on line, then set in your head what they are like, and then meet them in person and you find they are not what you dreamed up.

I guess in a long winded way I'm trying to say, "BE OPEN MINDED, YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT MIGHT BE RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE." There are no Prince charmings or Knights in shining armor ... that knight in rusty armor might come with lots of dints, scars and not the most handsome, but he might come with better qualities than expected. Same goes for that queen, or princess...

RE: HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHY

JMO, sometimes people won't find that someone because they are so busy looking for their fantasy (and might have unrealistic expectations), that they might not see that special someone.

RE: What do woman really want

Old Love

A husband in his back yard is trying to fly a kite..

He throws the kite up in the air.

The wind catches it for a few seconds, then it comes crashing back =
down to earth.

He tries this a few more times with no success.

All the while, his wife is watching from the kitchen window,

Muttering to herself how men need to be told how to do everything.

She opens the window and yells to her husband,

'You need a piece of tail.'

The man turns with a confused look on his face and says,

'Make up your mind. Last night, you told me to go fly a kite.'

RE: Happy Easter!

May the Easter Bunny of Happiness give you Easter Eggs and not lots of little brown nuggets in your Easter Basket

RE: Why do younger men go into older women profiles???

Moui, Yummy and Dawn. Not sure it's your age that catches the eye of the younger men, JMO, you are all very good looking ladies, and I have a feeling it's your good looks that catch the young men's eye, and they have to look at your profile.

RE: Is Bald Beautiful?

It's not what is on their head but what is in it that makes a man attractive.

Some women are folically challenged (just like some men) or have become bald due to an illness. How do you view them?

RE: Why do younger men go into older women profiles???

JMO - they see a beautiful lady with an awesome smile and then look at your profile to check you out. :-)

RE: what is too old

You look so much younger than your age. I have a feeling there are plenty of that females would like to look half as good as you Dawn, and some of think hoping to look half as good at half your age.

You do not look OLD.

RE: what is too old

,,, keep it within 10 yrs younger or older? Sorry just thinking out loud. I'm just assuming that if you are both with in 10 yrs of each others age you might have more in common... but I do know of one couple where he was 17 yrs her senior ... were married over 50 yrs ... and still crazy about each other after all that time.

I also know another couple where SHE is about 11 yrs older than he is, and married for almost 30 yrs.

JMO, it has more to do with how both of you are in regards to things you have in common, example, expectations, moral/ethics (non religious ones), common goals and how you treat each other. Age does not determine these things.

RE: Why do younger men go into older women profiles???

For myself, sometimes it's unsettling ...

RE: Canadian girls....are there any men looking for one?

I'm Irish ... my kids are first generation Canadians in my family. :p

RE: Canadian girls....are there any men looking for one?

uhhh you do realize you are asking an Irish person that question?


Canadians come from good strong stock. Not as arrogant and have found Canadians to be very generous for the most part. Canada was built by strong hard working people. We may not be perfect but we are unique.

RE: Canadian girls....are there any men looking for one?

They save the best for last .... that means us Canadians.

If they feel they only want American Women... all the power to them, they have no idea what they are missing.

RE: What is the reason you............

Stopped searching for someone to date, when it just seemed to be a game. Just for myself, felt more like it was a game and it did not seem to matter if others got hurt. I just did not have the patience for the games.

Now I'm job searching

There are times, I'm searching for something (besides lost socks), and don't realize I'm doing it.

Hope you have happy searches no matter what they are.

RE: Good morning

Good Luck and hope it's a good first day for you Eyes.

Sun is out, had 1 job interview so far, doing some more job searches ... that's about it for now. :-)

This seems so true!!

Coffee Breaks

So maybe you can’t go out for a proper coffee date and spend a few hours mulling over your lives. Fear not! Surprise her at work with a couple double doubles and sit with her during her break. Get up early and bring some caffeine to him before he heads out for the day. It’s all about using the time you actually have and spending it with each other.

Go outside the box to think of ways to make the most of the all too scarce “free time” that we are allotted each day or week. Even 20 minutes of conversation can really make the monotony of everyday routines disappear. Having your significant other make the effort to come down to your work or surprise you on your doorstep will not only be beneficial to you and your mental health, but it will mean just as much, if not more, to them as well.

Park Benches

This is one of my favourites. If you can steal away for a couple of hours, don’t waste that time around crowds in the mall or a restaurant. Get away from all the noise and the chaos and just be alone. You can do this in any season. Bundle up and make the trip because it’s important for you two to remain connected throughout everything that you deal with outside of your relationship. Chatting on park benches is an excellent way to achieve that!

Early Morning Or Midnight Meetings

I am the first to admit that sleep is extremely important to me. However, let’s say your boyfriend works the evening or midnight shift and you work all day, which means you have absolutely no chance of seeing each other. After a few days of calling in sick to work, you’ve really got your back against the wall. Well, this is when you make a decision: do I go to bed late or get up early? Sacrificing sleep is difficult, especially if you need it to get through the marathon of each day, but it is ultimately worth it. Whether you decide to go for a midnight stroll or an early breakfast, your sleep deprivation will seem secondary to the sweet make out session and lovely company.

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some sacrifice required

No matter how you decide to fit each other into your chaotic lives, it’s important to keep in mind that you shouldn’t do it out of obligation. Both of you will have to sacrifice to make it work and it’ll only be worth it if you really want it to work.

This seems so true!!

Fitting Each Other In: Surviving Your Schedules

Life sometimes seems to get in the way of everything fun.

My biggest pet peeve in the world is getting up in the morning and knowing that my entire day has been planned. Between school, work and responsibilities at home it seems like I’ll never find time to actually have a relationship. Sound familiar? This is a problem that plagues many of us and makes trying to maintain a healthy relationship incredibly difficult.

Many of my coupled friends have come to me ranting about the fact that they never see their boyfriend because he’s always working or their girlfriend never has time for anything but studying. There have been many, many, many times when my boyfriend and I have been at each others throats for what seems to be no reason at all. In the end we usually discover that we’re both just totally frustrated by our conflicting schedules.

Don’t lose hope! What many people don’t realize is that even if you can’t spend the whole day together and only have one hour to spend, that little chunk of time can be the difference between a good day and a bad day. How you ask? It’s not quantity, but quality. It’s time to look past the negatives and rejoice in the 45 minutes you have to spend alone. Here’s how.


A lot of couples run into trouble when one party takes over the responsibility of finding time to see the other, so try to balance it out. No, I don’t mean keep a written tally of who went to see who and when or anything like that, but try to show the other person how important it is for you to see them. If you find yourself trying to see your boyfriend, but he’s going out with his boys instead, or your girlfriend brushes you off when you show up to bring her a coffee, there might be a bigger issue at work. It could be nothing, but it’s better to keep your relationship healthy so you won’t have to worry about that.

Stop stressing and add some fun into your days, even if they are short spurts of lovey-dovey goodness!

Niki Naderi

RE: What do woman really want

No Offense but that post comes across as bitter. Men are just a guilty as the the females you described, for doing the same thing.

Might I suggest reading the book "The Secret". What you are is what you will attract ... It's not some new age weird book, but (JMO) made a lot of sense.

RE: What do woman really want

someone with patience, ability to make me laugh, cares about others and can be trusted. Could make up a list of what might be nice, but if too busy looking for what is on that list, might have missed finding the one I am with.

I would have not put funny, goofy but a great shoulder to lean on when needed ... or what they should be like around people with disabilities, or the foster kids... found someone with attributes I would not have thought about. Things I really needed instead of dreaming up. He is far from perfect (as am I). To be honest, I would say he was not what I thought I was looking for, but ... he found me.

My kids, and parents approve of and like him. His mother, and rest of his family have given their seal of approval. This helps a lot. It's not a fairy tale, far from it to be exact, but we are a good match for each other and willing to do what it takes to make it work.

We passed the test of being in his rig for a week, (twice now), with the dog, break downs, delays etc, ... and he has been the one I'm leaning on since my mother was diagnosed with cancer. He makes me feel he is with me for the long haul, even if things get rough. He has surpassed anything I would have written down on a list of must have qualities.


I did ask for a teddy bear ... does anyone remember the cartoon movie, "The Jungle Book", and Baloo the bear? He is built like Baloo the bear, and reminds me of this carefree Jungle Book character from time to time. :-)

Sorry for giving a long winded answer. Just trying to explain, you can make a list of all the qualities your ideal person should have, but you might be suprized to find that the right person for you, does match that list.

RE: Lets play & make a comment about.....

Very beautiful and smile lights up in her eyes

RE: HOW TO GIVE YOUR CAT A PILL

Have 2 cats ... dog is much more laid back LOL

RE: Nite nite

Nitie Nite.... Natta

Hope everyone is doing well. Been a while since you have posted on here Curly and Dawn. Hope life is going well for you both.

Due to construction business coming to a halt.... thanks to the recession ... got laid off last week, (means Mom can get more time & help)... Sunday took off with Brian in his rig for White Horse. Eyes and I are supposed to get together tomorrow as she passes through Edmonton. :-) If not, next time I go with Brian to White Horse, we will get together there.

Take care

RE: 15 DAYS

Don't forget we are supposed to hook up for a coffee or 2 on Saturday.
Hope you have a safe trip!!!!!!!!!

RE: Just a Thought....

ENLIGHTENED PERSPECTIVE
Please Read all the way to the bottom:

Supposedly written by Andy Rooney , a man who has the gift of saying so much with so few words. Enjoy.......

I've learned.... That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I've learned.... That when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned.... That just one person saying to me, 'You've made my day!' makes my day.

I've learned.... That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right.

I've learned.... That you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I've learned.... That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned.... That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned.... That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I've learned.... That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.

I've learned.... That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned.... That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.

I've learned.... That money doesn't buy class.

I've learned.... That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I've learned... That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned.... That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

I 've learned.... That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.

I've learned.... That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned.... That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned.... That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned.... That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them..

I've learned... That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned.... That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.

I've learned.... That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.

I've learned.... That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one more time before she passed away.

I've learned.... That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.

I've learned.... That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.

I've learned.... That when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, that you're hooked for life.

I've learned.... That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned.... That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

RE: Happy St. Pats

If you want Irish temper you should meet my mother. LOL

100% Irish, father is from Dublin, mother is from Co. Mayo. Sorry I'm a traitor to the cause... was born in England.

Lots of Irish people here ...