I'm very happy so your assumption is quite wrong. I could however say the same about you just to prove the point that this online communication is so often misinterpreted. You often take offence and pist accordingly when folk post threads about larger ladies because you are one as you have said on a number of occasions.
I may criticise, but so do you. We all choose what we criticise or praise based on what we feel strongly about.
Never each day. Maybe two or three times a month. It's far too boring and inhabited by daily and seemingly 24 hour members who flood the forums with platitudes.
As I said previously I think my thread was measleading or misunderstood by some. I had read a newspaper article about finishing a relationship by means of text or social media totally unrelated to the CS world we inhabit and was not thinking about CS or any other online dating scenarios. I was only thinking about the real world of dating which is what I 'm more familiar with to be honest.
It is interesting to read to some of the responses though which seem to show that the online dating scene is at the forefront of their minds.
Why would you assume most of the communication is via text? Were you thinking of a CS or dating site "relationship"? My OP seems to be a bit misleading. I have not and never have been digitally dumped, nor would I be interested in a digital relationship! It relates to a UK newspaper article I read yesterday.
I never notice if and when threads disappear as I'm not here every day. It does seem rather censorial though if it is indeed happening as you say. Anyway, what is "current beliefs system" as you say ? Whatever it is I find it hard to believe that moderators would consider such deep thoughts before deciding to delete a thread. Isn't it simply because the CS rules have been broken?
Strange as it may seem, or not, I have never known any female, whether family, friend or acquaintance, who is or has been attracted by older men. By older I mean anything perhaps over 10 years in age difference.
We do see it in the celebrity world of course, young wanabee actresses or whatever hooking up with much older, influential, and very rich men.
I have a feeling that it may also be more common here or on other dating sites and I have my own thoughts as to why that may be.
What I do read here quite often though, is that many men of a certain age are not silly enough to believe someone half their age is genuinely interested in them, for the right reasons anyway.
Perhaps some are. Men too. As a 50 something working woman I've met men my age who are retired, semi-retired, unemployed and unemployable and love me for my hard earned cash.
I always wanted children, and adore being a mother, I also wanted to achieve things career wise. I had my children young and never employed a childminder, yet I continued to study and I'm now achieving what I dreamed of in terms of work.
My children are well adjusted adults now with good careers so I think I've been very lucky. Lost a husband on the way though.
Although you didn't quote my previous post I think your post here is in direct response to it. As I see it, being suspicious and trying to talk about it rarely works if the other person in the relationship is indeed being unfaithful, or anything else which could damage the relationship. Liars and cheats often have sociopathic tendencies which means they cannot usually admit to wrongdoing until there is hard evidence staring them in the face, and even then they may try to wriggle out of it some way.
Being extremely jealous and suspicious also often go hand in hand, and I have experience of a relationship where my partner questioned everything I did and snooped. It was awful as there was no reason other than his irrational thoughts to behave in such a way, but there are also situations where someone may have legitimate reasons to be suspicious. I haven't been in such a situation fortunately, and therefore never been tempted to snoop, but I was expecting more of a cross-section of responses in this thread, hence my previous post.
Given that droves of young people are leaving Facebook because their parents, more often mothers apparently, are checking up on them constantly, and having known more people who would and have checked up on their partners, I just found it rather strange that all the posts here gave a resounding no.
Perhaps it's simply that those who have done it, or would should the need arise in their opinion, have refrained from contributing to the thread.
Well done but you're a bit behind the times, many people are now closing their Facebook and Twitter accounts.
I've closed my Facebook account after enduring countless pics of their evening meal, babies and asinine posts, but my Twitter account remains because I've carefully selected people or organisations I'm interested in. Same with LinkedIn, good for business people.
Yes I agree which is why I said previously that the fake profiles and emotional con artists are far more dangerous and successful than scammers in their cruel games.
If real suspicions are in the mind of someone I believe most would try to get to the bottom of it by whatever means necessary, whether intentionally or accidentally, regardless of what people are saying in this thread. I just don't believe that if the opportunity arose and someone is sick with worry that their partner may be having an affair they would not read for example a mailbox which hadn't been closed.
Would hiring a private detective be more acceptable?
Perhaps, but I doubt it given the time most of them appear to spend on the forums. I look back on old threads and posts to catch up because I don't log in often and there are some that are posting daily or nightly whichever part of the world you live. That doesn't suggest an active dating scenario so I think you could be wrong.
Actually Tom, if anyone had bothered to watch the documentary link I posted way back, they would have learnt that irreparable damage was caused to the marbles by a botched cleaning attempt during the 1990's.
The biggest forum flirts are obvious for all to see, they don't seem any more successful than the rest of the people looking for a significant other though.
The quiet and actively dating ones are lurking behind the forum scenes.
If I had a bad experience as you say, and I was here to meet someone, I would not let it hamper my reason for being here. That's what I don't understand, not the people who really do only want to participate in forum chat and therefore are not worried or fazed by crackpot members. I think there is something more.
I know that, but it's rather sad that people feel they need to lie about it. Why do that? I've read profiles here which actively state their desire to meet someone and a few months later they drastically change to "not looking", "not single".......when regular forum posters know this isn't true, "only here for the forums" etc, etc.
The threads can be fun, sometimes they can be extremely dire and repetitive. However, after a time the threads become a safe place to hang out, but at the same time the impetus is lost in respect of meeting and dating someone. I liken the threads to a playground. Most play, flirt, debate, argue etc, and a teeny weeny minority actually hook up behind the bike sheds, or at least attempt to do so.
I suspect most of the "success" or "bike shed" stories are outside the forums. All the dates I've had have been with non forum contributors, so I'm of the opinion they are the CS members who are seriously looking to meet someone. You've probably noticed that there is a high proportion of forum folk who say they "aren't looking" for a variety of reasons and I've noticed that more and more forum posters are adjusting their profiles to say just that. Is that because they have spent so much time on the forums and have forgotten the reason they may have joined CS, or simply because they realise that online dating just isn't as successful as they had anticipated and given up? I don't know, but many people seem to stay on CS to participate in the forums, so yes, in answer to your question, the forums are often more interesting than the messages we receive in our inbox!
Don't do takeaway food but I did buy takeaways of home-made meals when I lived in Portugal. Big difference though as the food was was made on the premises and like you would make at home.
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I'm here maybe several times a month if that.
To both, sorry.
RE: how many houres u stay online on cs each day
I'm very happy so your assumption is quite wrong. I could however say the same about you just to prove the point that this online communication is so often misinterpreted. You often take offence and pist accordingly when folk post threads about larger ladies because you are one as you have said on a number of occasions.I may criticise, but so do you. We all choose what we criticise or praise based on what we feel strongly about.