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How can we recognize a Narcissist?

3 outta 4 ain’t bad!
You get a Meatloaf!

RE: How do you feel about thunder & lightning?

I don’t like it....
I blame my eldest brother, when I was about 3yrs old and my first memory of Thunder he told me, with each clap, that my neighbors houses were falling down... I was waiting for ours to fall with each clap.... Terrifying for a little one

RE: Christmas is fast approaching

I start preparing for Christmas after Halloween as my children (adults) travel home to celebrate. I try to recreate the Christmas of their childhood, they like that! Just nice family time!

RE: Women and men.....marriage.....

In Ireland, pre-nuptial agreements aren’t legally recognized and love is blind, the two allies of the gold digger. I hope that little innocent child feels vindicated in some way! Yes! Mom is a class act as she is valued as one. Slick.

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

In conclusion, every psychopath is Narcissistic but not every Narcissist is Psychopath. Psychopaths and Sociopaths are all those things except they feel no guilt or remorse. A psychopath is born and a sociopath is made. Named Anti Social behavior disorder. They are Intelligent, charming but have zero empathy. Psychopaths are diagnosed before 15 yrs old. Hurt animals, set fires, violent, bullish etc.... they lie, cheat, steal and are unable to hold down a job. sociopaths learn these things in their environment. They have empathy that becomes desensitized. The majority of perpetrators of domestic violence are either Narcissists, Psychopaths, Sociopaths or a combination of those. The make wonderful salesmen due to their mirroring abilities.

Narcissistic traits is the how to guide to achieve in today’s business and wealth accumulation which equates to materialism. Not so in the world of interpersonal communications and people skills!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

In addition, there are 4 different types of Narcissist...
1. The grandiose Narcissist .... who is all the things already mentioned
2. Malignant Narcissist.... includes lying, cheating, stealing ...very mean
3. Covert Narcissist.... quiet passive aggressive... it’s is everyone else that does them wrong. Can appear to others as depressed. Hypersensitive to criticism. Back hand complement.... Ah, glad you got that promotion, it is much easier to get promoted in your workplace.. so much more difficult to do that in my unique line of work.....
4. Communal Narcissist..... Out to save the world. Look at all the good things I do. I want to be recognized for it. I want my name in lights! Look at my greatness, I am always giving back... but I am far above those “things” I am rescuing...

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

Thanks for recommending. It was great to learn of Dr Ranani Durvasula view on this subject. I watched the 3 videos and this is my synopsis ...

A Narcissist is grandiose, superficial, hyper sensitive, never listen to anyone, is entitled, is constantly seeking validation, everything is big and better for example house etc.... It’s a trait that affects up to 15% of the population 80/20 split in favor of men but the gap is lessening. Narcissistic traits are more valued in male upbringing and can go unchecked compared to females. In essence, is a disorder of the self-esteem. When a Narcissist does a bad thing they feel guilt and shame because they are concerned how others see them. They feel empty inside. Narcissist are made and is a byproduct of parenting by over indulging and under indulging at the same time. Best fun holidays, best clothes, best appearance, best at sport and academia versus little me time, not been present, little interaction or attention to their emotional needs. Important for parents suffering from mental health issues to be conscious of how their depression can affect children. But some children tend to be more predisposed to Narcissism than others. Narcissists never change. They will insure that you are never enough for them and breakups are the stuff of nightmares...

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

Hmmm... From book smart to street smart!!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

The rise in Narcissism this past few decades points to is been a modern day epidemic. Some say it is due to societal shift from a commitment to the collective to a focus on the individual or the self.
This trend seems to follow in a number of mental health disorders.....

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

A Narcissists fuel or life support is narcissistic supply be is positive or negative.
You have to cut their life support.... yes! Self Defence does help but not a lot. They like to surprise!

RE: Unrequited Love... What's your experience?

Yes! It can be very cruel when Cupid shoots an arrow
through your heart just to break it when he sees your lover
has already been arrowed!

Unrequited Love
One finally grasped the terrible truth
that love can never be compelled
from the one you love.

One longs for requital.

No matter how long one waits,
One will only receive in return,
the reverse of what one gives,
the dark side of the moon.

RE: LOSS of someone dear

Death is part of living and it comes to us all.
When someone close to us dies we grieve for us,
for that piece of us that they take with them!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

Yes! The children are totally trapped!
Narcissists should never have any form of parental control over a child.
However, they are very difficult to expose in court as courts become
a favourite sources of supply for them! One should study how to disarm a Narcissist in court before going there. No point in telling the Judge; show the Judge!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

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Good one!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

That seems to be the general feeling!
Beware of the charmer with unmatched talk and action!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

I have sons and daughters too; young independent adults.
We are very lucky! I would have brought them up to respect people
that respect them!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

I am not too street smart at intelligent literature and paradoxes...
I like trying to figure yours out!

Just as sight recognises darkness by the experience of not seeing,
so imagination recognises the infinite by not understanding it..."
(Proclus Lycius)

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

We are lucky in that we can choose who to interact with in our lives.
You have two sons who you love dearly and that is recripocated! Don’t allow any future relationships be destroyed by anything from your past. Life is short so just look forward!

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How can we recognize a Narcissist?

None of it was your fault. You obviously done everything a wife could do.
Narcissism is a severe personality disorder, those that are afflicted have little or no empathy. The cannot love or apologies like others can!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

It’s called a woman’s intuition. Fool me once.........!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

That really says something.. I suppose they gain your complete trust and you believe everything they say and do! Their rages are your making as far as you are concerned!
How did you heal afterwards!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

That is the problem BW, it is only when you learn
how to disarm one that the mask slips!
Lots of men and women never knew who they lived with until the relationship finished!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

I try to acknowledge each post to my threads when I am online!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

I love to learn too BW!

How can we recognize a Narcissist?

I realize how dangerous they are in the workplace!
Do you know what checklist or instrument did they use to weed them out?