Narcissist supply (you) Narrcissist rage (when the supply undermines, however slight, the Narcissist). It is not normal for a grown man or woman to throw a tantrum....
Banks that were led by narcissistic CEOs before the collapse of the US banking industry in September 2008 suffered more severe consequences of that systemic shock. Narcissist will trample on everyone to get to the top and obviously cause great destruction when they get there!
True! There is healthy Narcissism which most people have. However, there is no comparison to it and NPD. Had you ever encountered it you would know and not forget!
Thank you Rachie You think you’ve found, “The One”. Everything you like they like, you never thought you would find someone else that loves everything you love, everything you want in life they want to. You will feel safe and assured in sharing and you end up letting your guard down. They share so many intimate things with you too, making it a very safe trusting space. You have so much in common and seem to mesh well together. You’re flying high on all the goodness that seems to surround you. There is no reason for you to think this person is anything other than what they’ve shown themselves to be and you are in love.The sad fact is, that you have fallen in love with yourself, because this person is mirroring you like a parrot.
The second reality for which the narc can become dangerous is even more stark…tangible and odious. The narc counter intuitively to most, begins a second phase endeavor with a well entrenched relationship where he or she begins to create a circle of “ flying monkeys” to align with his or her intentions to demean and diminish you [hence you being a cause and his or her being the effect { and thus a victim }] while you are progressing with the relationship unknowing nor possessing any concerns. This action is the beginning of the end of the relationship as any rational or logical human being could comprehend yet, due to the subterfuge and perfected nature of the narc you remain unaware and like the prey in the jungle when danger approaches…danger of unknowing proportions and consequence, you carry on a daily routine until the moment the danger arcs into a moment in time when all things imaginable and unimaginable become your new reality. The narc has you backed up against the abyss while the danger of the moment produces not a fight or flight reaction as much as a deer in the headlights of an 18 wheeler scenario. You are in abject shock. You are frozen in time. Danger abounds as the moment envelops you like humidity on a August day in central Florida. In closing, danger and the narc are for those entering into their realm is much like war…95% of the time life simply remains inconsequential and routine and then , not knowing…completely unprepared you are confronted with a most difficult of realities; the enemy has entered your interior world as a single shot is fired…a second shot…a flurry of shots and then you realize much like Custer at the Little Big Horn, you are surrounded …our numbered, overwhelmed and on the run with all that you deem essential under siege. Danger created by a well prepared and ever determined narc has enveloped you. This is the apex of the narc’s danger …the moment they witness blood in the street as the prey stumbles, falls, cries for mercy. This is the narcs grandest moment unfolding.
To be succinct, the narc is most dangerous when one of two realities are entering their space. The first is more abstract or simply defined in less tangible terms while never the less daunting for the narc. This is when a narc senses like a predator in the jungle having stalked it prey, ever patient…always diligent to the conditions that surround he or she, determines the prey [ supply source] is becoming aware of their status or intuitively begin to incrementally become more aware…sensing something within the space is adrift…like a nuance noise in the jungle sounding alert to the unexpected. At this juncture the narc like a muscle reflex begin to become reactive…sometimes subtly …with poise and precision while other times with vigor…hostility…while ever…always dangerous. Their eyes dilate as jaws lock…and a distilled focus ensues. This moment is genuinely an existential one for the narc consequently for all those in his or her space danger is abundant.
You are obviously a very strong woman and congrats for that! I believe the smear campaign is terrible and they gets plenty sympathy. Did he stop and how long did it take?
So it’s important for ones sanity...... recognizing one is when you get a gut feeling that something is totally out of sync. Like words and actions don’t match!
They seem to hide their dark side so well! But it appears they do not and cannot change.. no amount of understanding seems to work. The general advice here seems to be “GET OUT and STAY OUT”
Yes! We tend to throw a low blow when we are hurting but I think you would know if you were one! It takes a lot of energy to pretend, a lot of the time, to be someone you are not!
Flying Monkeys” is a term used to describe the hangers-on who usually orbit around narcissists, and support/defend everything they do. The brainwashed minions the narcissist uses to carry out their bidding......
Some say that they are devoid of empathy and objectify people. Others say that they are pure evil like psychopaths! It affects about 6 people in every 100!
That question should not be directed to others but to yourself! We define wreck as destroyed or severely damaged. Most of us past 50 have experienced a serious relationship and rearing children which in itself is a huge draw on both our financials and emotions but those are the the experiences that mature us. But not wreck us. At this point most of us would not entertain another child in our life; as a partner... been there done that.
Yes! We can do something about being overweight, drinking, smoking, drugs and negative individuals in our life. But illness is an unfortunate of life and can happen at any age! So in your journey don’t blame all the wrecks out there for your own empty void, your damaged ego or whatever causes you to deflect.. you cannot change the wrecks, you can only change your own mindset.
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WoW, that is deepVery good!