I was 19-20 and pretty sensitive... at the time drugs full-on and no tangible direction. yep, now that i think about it i was a mess... but it was that time that i got the best advice anyone's ever given me. It was from a 6,5 foot gay mohawk who worked as a prison guard. he told me " I DON'T CARE WHAT IT IS, SORT IT OUT" and that saved my life.
there's this 'being honest' thread that's been going round and most surely i'm a greatest of sinners posting there. throughout the thread were mentions of honesty as a social strategy being banal, violent, frivolous... i kind of figure there is a fair amount of truth in these so i'm making this thread so that people can support their claims for dishonesty as a better social strategy. it's only fair i figure for arguments to be eloquently expressed rather than them being reactions to things said. it's only fair :)
I shall consider myself complemented. And to be honest fairly happy that i didnt bend over for you and your mild manners to violate carefree. Now the fact that i'm 'filthy and poisonous' because i deeply disagree with you, ok leave that to history. But don't consider even for a second that i will allow you to dictate when and if i talk. also [caps lock] doesnt make what you say any more correct, it just feels you're shouting.
'kapiche' you can say to your children (i'd say goats but respect them too much), certainly not me. It is inherently violent and rude and presupposes inequalities. and how interesting that it comes from a propagator of peace and mild manners. See, i did understand you very well, I just find you dangerous to our species.
also i have witnessed that kindness in words and kindness in actions are not performed by the same people. My experience was that people who talk kind many a times allow torture to happen before there eyes and do nothing. Of course there are times where i will not induce unnecessary verbal violence, but from what i understood, here we're talking about the principle.
Sorry man, there's no white cards in how i live... i'm kind of responsible for everything i do and say... as for cruelty, i find it more cruel to build a society on deception that inherently violates and attacks people who share how they feel when that is not 'suitable'. I suppose i would be mean if i had any interest in demeaning anybody, but i dont. as for absolution, i wouldn't know because i am not religious so i have to take responsibility rather than a free pass after a few prayers.
i actually like you very much. i am engaging in a formal debate here. not only do i like you , but proud of you for giving the space for the formal debate! i am really sorry if you felt bad in any way, please let me know what i can do to make this right!
i smile a bit now..... i know for a fact they dont like us brutally honest. i learned a saying the past few years that i have moved into the countryside. the saying goes "go die and leave me at peace".... at first it sounded extremely violent, but truth be told i find it more and more applicable to people that like half truths. btw what's wrong with my age ? i'm 34 i'm not a dinosaur! young guns full on!
compassion is overrated. and mostly referred to by people who wont give a crap. empathy might be a better term... respex jono7 this is not personal, just my views and experience.
i had a court day the other day, and the court secretary told me 'it's good to be honest, but not that much'. i find this ludicrous....good luck. 48000 years of civilization and we still haven't figured out honesty is the way to go.
i am veggie but used to eat loads of meat.from what i understand you are conflicted because of your care.in my opinion try following your principles and see where that takes you.
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RE: What's the wisest thing anyone has ever told you?
those were real times.