"In 1967, Topol founded Variety Israel, an organization serving children with special needs. He was also a co-founder and chairman of the board of Jordan River Village, a year-round camp for Arab and Jewish children with life-threatening illnesses, which opened in 2012." Wiki
My dad and my sister find dying and suffering too confronting, so I spent the last 48 hours with my mum in a hospice.
She hung on against the odds and died 5 hours into her 85th birthday. I didn't want to see her without her feisty and often hilarious spirit and she passed just before I came back into the room having left to grab a breath of night air.
I'm pretty sure that despite the pain relief and appearance of coma, she did it her way.
She wanted to go straight to cremation and I don't even know where her ashes went.
I travelled straight back home by train so I could wail and gnash my teeth in private without disturbing my dad and my sister's internal struggles with their broken hearts.
None of us wanted a funeral. We each grieved, and are grieving in our own way.
I told my daughter I want to go to medical science (no funeral costs and I'd be making myself useful), or if that's not possible, to go straight to cremation. She said, "Don't worry, we will have some kind of a memorial!" I said, "I'm not worried. I'll be dead."
What she does should be in the best interests of her grieving process and quite frankly I think she'd be better off spending the money on a family holiday and living life to the fullest. I'd rather like that as a memorial, actually. Y'know, a life experience in lieu of a death experience.
Actually, I think she should do one of those enormous zip lines as a memorial. And go galloping off on a horse and abseiling. She'd love it.
My daughter rang as I was writing this and failing her being able to dye my ashes and release them from an urn in either hand as she goes down a zip line Red Arrows style, she suggested as a nod to my propensity for excessive house cleaning, she could use my ashes as ecologically sound Shake 'n Vac.
I've guessed that some unpleasant tittle-tattling has gone on in private mail from time to time, but in my experience most of it's about trying to suss out which multiple-profiler has brought out the latest stream of guff.
If we become emotionally mature, we set our own boundaries and are comfortable with our decisions.
Of course we ought to consider external information when deciding on our frontiers - setting our own boundaries doesn't give us the right to be a serial killer, nor call others names like 'sheep' if they make different decisions.
Individuality and creativity are fantastic, but social skills and going along with the crowd can be valuable skills, too.
I'm really not sure what you get kicked out for, but if I had to guess I'd say either flooding the forums, or getting angry with other people.
Whether someone is being deliberately nasty, or you just misunderstand their post as being nasty when it's not, liking yourself is the important thing, and maybe having a few good friends and family members around you. If other people don't like you on an unimportant forum, what does it matter?
As for the forum flooding rule, perhaps try and create fewer threads which last longer, rather than lots of little ones.
The exposure might get you banned (like LJ) and despite the controversy, I don't think someone has lied about his age quite enough for us to be certain that a burial is an urgent health and safety issue.
Looking at what's happening in the US, I'd say one country and one leader becomes more and more unwieldy the larger the country gets.
It's not like the people of the US are really getting any say, either. To manage the power greed, politicians resort to facile, untruthful advertising rather than fulfilling the political roles they're paid for.
I agree borders are dysfunctional in terms of patriotism and fighting over them, but maybe we just need to learn to enjoy cultural differences, rather than try to rule over all of them at once. We're full of beans when it comes to foreign holidays, but somehow that all goes out the window the rest of the year round.
I think maybe it's a bit like the ten commandments: we should agree on some universal truths like not killing people, or destroying the planet we share, but otherwise, smaller groups would better manage themselves.
I appreciate this isn't the kind of place where it feels safe to be emotionally vulnerable.
I do think there's no such thing as true altruism, however. When we share of ourselves we get something in return, even if that's feeling good about ourselves because we helped someone cross the road.
If we give of ourselves and end up not feeling good, we need to have a good think about what we're doing.
We can't control other people's thoughts, feelings, or behaviour. We can't make other people value us, or what we've given. We can only truly understand ourselves and control our own behaviour.
It's up to you to work out why you keep giving to people who leave you feeling uncomfortable, or unfulfilled.
Clearly it does bother you in some way because it's not the first time you've created a thread about people sponging from you.
The question is, how and why is it bothering you?
I imagine it's a complicated mix of emotional stuff and practicality, not to mention the challenge of saying 'no' if it's not in your nature to deny others.
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RE: Chaim Topol dies at 87 R.I.P.
"In 1967, Topol founded Variety Israel, an organization serving children with special needs. He was also a co-founder and chairman of the board of Jordan River Village, a year-round camp for Arab and Jewish children with life-threatening illnesses, which opened in 2012." Wiki