RE: Is there too much kindness on the forums?

I put the * in twit.

We all read from our own value framework.

RE: Is there too much kindness on the forums?

Plainly, you didn't get what I was saying, Hex.

RE: Is there too much kindness on the forums?

Banter without some level of affection is just bitchin', ya tw*t. grin

RE: Phone sex ... would ya, could ya, should ya

I wasn't grumpy when I made my comment.

Your op is loaded by giving your opinion that sexuality activity is not worthwhile unless two people are in the same room. It's further loaded with your suggestion that phone sex is unhealthy and deluded. That's different from simply asking people's opinions.

That means people are either in a position where they agree with you, or oppose you. It's perhaps a conflictual way of presenting a thread, rather than one inviting open discussion.

Having seen a lot of threads like this over the years, they tend to promote a continuing theme of judgement and superiority: you get the 'I'm so much better at sex and relationships because...' kind of theme running through them (assuming they don't just dissolve into arsing around, or conflict about other things.)

Are sex and relationships competitive sports? dunno laugh

Personally, I'm not all that interested in other people's sex lives assuming it's consensual and non-abusive.

I get why the stuff of 50 shades might be a point of discussion as there seems to be different opinions about eroticism versus abuse.

But phone sex? Consenting adults engaging in verbal eroticism as a subject of conflict and judgement?

RE: Phone sex ... would ya, could ya, should ya

I'm thinking you can only decide what's right for you.

There's not much point in trying to impose your view on others, nor is there much point in asking other's their opinion if you've already decided for yourself.

dunno

RE: I'd like to know which emoticon you regard as most powerful... and nominate

tongue ...how to say the English 'th' sound.

tongue ...how to say the Welsh 'll' sound.

RE: Do I look Like A drug Abuser !!

What does a drug abuser look like?

RE: Cabbage recipes .... an invitation especially to those who 'lurk' to join in and post your favourite

I'm trying to remember how my mum used to cook red cabbage.

She was a lousy cook, but this was one that was mum proof. laugh

She used to bake it with apples and maybe cinnamon. I'm sure there was a bit more to it than that, but I can't remember. dunno

RE: Cabbage recipes .... an invitation especially to those who 'lurk' to join in and post your favourite

Hmm...lush. I'm gonna try that sometime.

Lightly steamed cabbage with garlic butter, or plant based alternative is nice.

Polish tomato soup - fry onions and garlic in a little oil. Add seived, fresh tomatoes, or unseived if you want to retain the nutritious pulp and seeds. Add stock and a very small handful of rice. When it's nearly cooked add a chopped cabbage leaf, salt, freshly ground black pepper, tamari, maybe a few drops of lemon juice, or anything else you fancy to tweak the flavour.

RE: Same Sex Marriage

Is the vote about people getting married in a church ceremony, or is it like over here where people have the same legal right to get married and have the same legal status?

The discrimination here got to the point where all people could have a civil ceremony, but it was called marriage for some couples and a civil partnership for others. That distinction came with a different legal status affecting other legal rights.

People having the same legal rights to marriage, doesn't necessarily affect religious institutions which under legal religious freedoms may retain their rights to discrimination.

RE: Same Sex Marriage

Is the vote about people getting married in a church ceremony, or is it like over here where people have the same legal right to get married and have the same legal status?

The discrimination here got to the point where all people could have a civil ceremony, but it was called marriage for some couples and a civil partnership for others. That distinction came with a different legal status affecting other legal rights.

People having the same legal rights to marriage, doesn't necessarily affect religious institutions which under legal religious freedoms may retain their rights to discrimination.

RE: Bomb attack on London Underground

That wasn't a playground idea, Galrads.

That was from an observation of mine travelling once a week by bus at school run time through Wales' hotspot city for refugees.

The young Muslim mother outside the station sent her child with a pound coin for the homeless man at the same time as I was giving him some leftover food I had acquired.

I don't have a TV, I spend a lot less time devoted to the media than most, but I do interact with a lot of people through my job, studies and other things.

I have the privilege of interacting with people from many nations, cultures and from many walks of life. I could spew examples of love, respect and kindness for hours.

The media generally thrives on drama, hate and fear, but if you observe the everyday world, there's a helluva lot of people out there letting their light shine.

As for inequality in other societies, how can we hope to influence change with hatred, hostilities and our own prejudices?

RE: Same Sex Marriage

A public vote on this issue is an act of discrimination in itself.

It should be a given that all members of a society have the same legal rights.

RE: Kindness

You've just inspired me, Debs.

I've been trying to work out a way of dealing with a problem.

I think I've just sussed out a way.

RE: Bomb attack on London Underground

Common feelings shared broadly are human nature?

How broadly? Where's the cut off line?

If the media proportionally reports acts of kindness alongside atrocious acts, would feelings change? Would inherent human nature change if we didn't 'broadly' think of Muslim people as terrorists, but broadly thought of them as young mother's who sent their children to give a pound coin to a dirty homeless man sitting outside the train station?

Would this inherent human nature you describe change if everyone took note of a group of school kids of every shape, size, ability, nationality and creed being inclusive and treating each other with warmth and respect? Are those school kids inhuman because they don't display hatred and prejudice towards each other? Do they lack human nature?

RE: Bomb attack on London Underground

What is human nature, Galrads?

We have omnivorous teeth. Is it therfore in our nature to be omnivorous and is it impossible for people to choose to eat an entirely plant based diet?

Psychology experiments have demonstrated that if we are cognitively challenged we are more likely to make judgements about people based on stereotyping. Is it in our nature to stereotype such that it is impossible for us to choose to re-evaluate judgments, or choose to use stereotyping less readily?

As for the Japanese behaviour with captives during WWII, if you kick a horse twice, does that excuse me for kicking a horse only once, or should we each take responsibility for our own poor behaviour?

RE: Bomb attack on London Underground

Galrads, Churchill is dead, WWII is over and societies have changed in the last 70 years.

I'd like to think we've moved on a little from the days when I was at school in a relatively post-war era, having mixed parentage. The prejudice directed at me was utterly bonkers. I remember being aged 6 and being deeply concerned that my teacher had become unhinged because she was behaving in such a bizarre manner and speaking utter non-sensical rubbish.

Now, if I could grasp the concept that I was an individual in my own right at the age of six and that other people's bizarre and illogical connections were feck all to do with me, I don't quite get how adults in this day and age can't work it out as well.

I've heard that the treatment of Japanese people living in the US after Pearl Harbour was nothing to be proud of. Would you see our societies regress to that kind of behaviour in the here and now?

Or do we need to do something different to get a different result?

RE: STUPIDITY DELUXE

Anna, I'm a techno-twit, but I imagine that either the people are not in the country they say they are in on their profile, or they have bypassed the IP address associated with that country.

RE: Bomb attack on London Underground

Err...I think it is different from electing a Nazi to run London during the blitz.

It's basic logic.

If during the blitz a mayor of London had the same political belief system as the attackers, it's not the same as the current mayor of London having a different political belief system as the attackers.

If the mayor of London has the same name for his religious belief system as the attackers, that's not the same as having the same interpretation of that religion, nor the same political beliefs.

Your association of the mayor's religion with the attackers political beliefs is no more logical than associating eye colour, or shoe size with certain behaviours.

There is advantage in having a mayor with experience of more than one culture in a city of more than one culture if the aim is to live without cultural prejudice and conflict.

If your aim is to exacerbate conflict, then by all means act with illogical prejudice. I'm sure a lot more deaths can be brought about on both sides like that, especially of innocent bystanders who might rather negotiate peace, or be too small to understand any of it.

RE: STUPIDITY DELUXE

The number of unopened mails in my inbox halved when the captcha thing was introduced.

I had a helluva lot of unopened mail. laugh

I know I have missed genuine mail in the deluge of scammer mail because sometime friends point out mail I haven't opened.

I suspect some mail is genuine, but the subject line from someone I don't know is enough for me to be disinterested in opening it.

If part of the remaining unopened mail was genuine, that would suggest more than half of scammer mail can be blocked by the captcha login, unless admin operated some other kind of cull at the same time.

I suspect it of working quite well though, as I haven't had as much scammer mail since.

I found logging in difficult at first because I'm using my phone and I live in a bit of a signal black hole. The login process involved pictures too small to be clear and a lengthy enough process for me to very often lose signal half way through.

There were other options offered, but being a deaf old git, I didn't try the sound based one, or try to find out what the others were in my lack of techno-patience.

I now get a login where I just have to copy a reasonably visually clear list of letters and numbers. This one is little effort and we'll worth the reduction in scammer mail.

If you're still having difficulties, it may be worth looking at the other login options, or contacting admin to get yours changed.

RE: Would you like to live longer .. or better?

@Dace45...

Yes, I know that and my daughter was much more shock than when my mum said it to me about having a debilitating stroke.

I got the gist of what she was saying, though - neither of us want our lives artificially prolonged for the sake of staying alive.

I don't expect my daughter to actually put a pillow over my head, but maybe if I no longer want, or remember to eat, it's time to let things take their natural course. I'd rather not have people ramming food down my throat for their own needs.

RE: Would you like to live longer .. or better?

Having had a close shave, I think we have quite a lot of control over life and death, so I'll decide when the time comes.

Deciding now is a bit like having age restrictions on our profiles - any ages we pick are somewhat arbitrary. We might know we're not going to get involved with someone aged 18, but if we pick, say, 10 years younger as our limit, we cut out contact with someone 10 years and one month younger. Far better to go with the flow and decide one way, or another as opportunities present themselves.

There will be some things we're pretty sure of - maybe we're not interested in a quick shag, or marriage, but that's a bit less arbitrary.

I don't want to lose my marbles. I don't want to lose the autonomy over my life and death. I want to be able to decide whether I'm ready to go, or whether to fight for life.

I've told my daughter if I lose my marbles, I want her to put a pillow over my head.

RE: Lookins Matchmaking

Juden - German for Jew.

RE: Lookins Matchmaking

*shoves Life out the way with ample bottom*

Jac & Ocee grin

RE: Where's the international help

I did read in the British media some stuff about Trump's promised aid.

I'm pretty sure it said that as part of the package, low cost loans would be available for uninsured properties.

That appears to imply some level of interest would be payable on the loans.

I'm also thinking the people who would be uninsured are the people who couldn't afford insurance.

Would they be able to pay back loans at all, never mind ones geared towards profit, however small?

Maybe, I've misunderstood.

RE: Where's the international help

Oh, how I like predictive text. laugh

RE: Where's the international help

I'm relieved to hear you're sage and we'll, Karl. hug

RE: Where's the international help

I know the British aid in the Virgin Islands isn't foreign aid. I addressed this issue as it had also been raised in this thread.

I addressed the issue of foreign aid in the second half of my post.

RE: Where's the international help

I've heard stuff in the media about there being plenty of advanced warning and Britain's response in the Virgin Islands being woefully lacking.

I do wonder why troops were sent out there, but weren't used to help make preparations for the storm, but we don't seem to be very sensible when it comes to cost saving preventative measures. We like good looking economic statistics better than sensible economic statistics.

I'm not sure I understand how foreign aid works. I've always thought of it rather simplistically - richer countries give to poorer countries, likely with an expectation of something in return, such as political co-operation.

It never occurred to me that nations who give aid, might also receive it. It never occurred to me that when Britain has had floods (we can be a bit wet) that it wouldn't be sorted out by Britain alone.

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