Arlene101 Forum Posts (3,320)

RE: 11 September 2011: do you still remember what you did on that day?

I remember it like it was yesterday. I phoned my mother's place and my step father answered the phone and told me what happened and I did not beleive him because he was always trying to pull one over on me and I could not imagine him saying something that would be hurtful so I turned on the TV and watched that scene over and over for months and I still fo. ....just so terribly sad!!

RE: When Do Attempts At Persuasion Become Controlling and Manipulative?

I couldn't (or too impatient to) figure out this new format and it is truly great to see you. You are always thought provoking. I have been a victim of all of the abouve and in all the ways you have mentioned BUT then I snapped out of being the 'people pleaser' and took my own mind and power back.
My Ex husband (Deceased schizophrenic) was the worst nightmare ever for all of the above, the trickery, controllingand inducing fear. I am not meaning to sound sad about this because I am not in the least but when I started taking back my power, I was left beat to a pulp many times until I gave him the finger and told him where to go (guess he is there now) Yeah my snobby daughter-in-law will learn soon who is the boss of me and it is ME!!

RE: When Do Attempts At Persuasion Become Controlling and Manipulative?

Hi there Ambrose, long time no see.
I don't mind if somebody is contolling me if I am dying and they have to control the situation but I consider controlling to be someone who is trying to isloate me (didn't work on me). My daughter-in-law is a control freak, it is her way in every aspect of her life and she is trying to push her ways on me and trying to contol me by saying little snyde remarks.
I do believe that a controlling person is sometimes abusive, manipulating and selfish. I consider manipulation a form of trying to get what you want by making another person feel guilty if you don't want to do as they wish. J.M.O. (These are just a few thoughts about your OP.)

RE: Is she or isn't she?`

So what? Don't like the topic --you know the rules. I have seen the Obama thread for maybe 4 years now. I don't go in it'cuase I am not interested in the debating.

RE: Is she or isn't she?`

I hope she gets that but I doubt it. She was guilty of lying to the police so Iwould guess that she will get 'time served' BUT that judge is not happy with the verdict so hopefully she will get the Max..

RE: Is she or isn't she?`

I was shocked as hell and I am quite upset about it because she never cared where she was for 31 days while she was partying.
I think she got off on that 'Beyond a Reasonable Doubt' decision.

RE: Is it what it appears to be....or is it something else

I will check it out but I am sure it IS for you, I trust you.
I wrote is down but I wil be back tomorrow because lasagna is is beckoning me.

RE: Is it what it appears to be....or is it something else

No just wanted to brighten up my place.

RE: Is it what it appears to be....or is it something else

you just hit the nail on the head. I try to make out what some younger ones are saying all the time and the spelling is atrocious and the girls are even allowed to wear P.J.'s to school aroung here.
I think maybe they got rid of Health as a subect.

RE: Is it what it appears to be....or is it something else

Well homie, I was busy at my crib today--painting, washing bed clothes, cooking--all the the stuff to make my crib homier.

RE: Is it what it appears to be....or is it something else

hi the Ms, Snuggs I am so tired that Iforgot the OP but I got a message today (Very Nice)but I know the pic is not his because the man is huge in his pic but his p;rofile says he is 5' tall. I never encounterd that before.

RE: would u date a disable person

Hello Darlin' nice to see you again as usual.

RE: would u date a disable person

It seems to turn out to be a funny subject??????????

RE: would u date a disable person

RE: would u date a disable person

Do I get this right that he broke one of his legs and has a plate in it?
You think he is disabled?
I think you should dump him so he can meet a very real and great woman.
Jeeezuss!

RE: How many of u feel shy to dance in public!!

IIf nobody is dancing and I am in the mood, I am the first one there, parter or not.

RE: Leave an Anonymous Message...

I love it!

RE: Leave an Anonymous Message...

I am getting attracted to someone who is on my page somewhere else.
Great looking and smart also.

RE: why R u in international site?

Nope but it is nice to hear the many reasons.

RE: why R u in international site?

Good, then I love you since you are so far away.

RE: Hi, I'm for real and honest!

Hello I hope you have a great time and get to know some fun people. Thiks place is a zoo in a very good way.

RE: why R u in international site?

The Canadian site is too boring and Ilove meeting new people. I met so many people I hope to keep in touch with for many years on this site.

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

No worries, I have been around here for years and I love to banter and have fun.

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

I see pigs fly all the time so get at it.

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

Tight on, this will be fun then --I haven't beenon for a while!

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

Thank you--sometimes I think they only make sense to me.

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

Sorry, just my own thoughts to add. I am serious.

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

I agree but if it is just a little change to be more flexible toward each other is good BUT to ask them to change drastically is not a good thing.
I don't believe we have to fulfill ourselves alone (that should already be in place to have a mature relationship).
I think it helps to discuss our insecurities so that another person can give some constructive critique.

Now, I cannot change because I have tried so hard for so long that I gave up. I give too much and I have a rather unsettling annoyance to who/whomever to always be the giver and that exhausts the hell out of me and I get up and walk away when I get tired so therefore I am quite happy with being alone but would like to have a boyfriend who is secure with himself and lays the cards on the table and that is all that would work for me.
GREAT to see you again 'J'. Missed ya'!!!!

RE: Just remember

Aww, thank you and back at you.

RE: Just remember

I didn't realize it was so close. EVERYONE!!