KatikoKatiko Forum Posts (196)

c'mon! give it me baby! ;)

It used to wonder me why so many men post half naked pictures (probably women do too but I did not check). Not that I really care - it's just an interesting internet dating phenomena - but...
I just got another email in the style of: "hi. how are you?" from a guy whose only profile picture is naked upper part of the body. And there is not much text in his profile.

The whole bad thing about it is that it's another picture of the same type, which did not excite me. It did not make me think "wow, now we are talking… " and blush. No: "hmmm…. what an interesting man" crossed my mind.
And it's not that the man was ugly or in bad shape. Is that I don't give a penny about a male naked chest or belly if the man himself is not attractive to me yet (and here comes the witty mind and personality into the picture).
But no, no personality or intelligence staring from the profile: Instead a bad map of protein and fat showing the body imperfections directly on the chart. Like a bad picture from old intro to anatomy book.

So, I just wanted to suggest that if you guys really believe that it's all mostly about the nudity and body - why don't we come to the point directly? and instead of posting those half naked pictures you dress yourself a bit and simply add in your profile sth what actually would be of lady interest: like length and diameter line?
And you let the women to be the one who takes your shirt when the moment comes?

;)

RE: You marry me?

Yes, yes, yes!
I just need to get rid of my first husband first.
But wait for me babe!
Or it's about harem?


;)

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GOT A REPLY:

"hai

sorry karima I do not want a marriage of convenience im care just trust and love really but ihope you good luck in your life"



So an honest man. Now I feel ashamed :(

Samples of messages you should not send to any woman!

This kind of message you also should not write…
Email it's not a chat…
Btw, what is a meaning of two dots in English??

"Hi

Hi there.."

Samples of messages you should not send to any woman!

Btw, my turst and love man did not replay my lovely message. And I hoped so much for that trust, love, moroccan visa and money…
Maybe I should have sent him my paypal account?

I did some spelling and grammar update but I must say it was challenging. I failed at the veri end:


hai

my name is karima im origin morocco two but leave in germany. look for man for marriage with visa and big mani. im not care age im interested just visa, mani and babies. do you have money

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[quote=pedalguy59: “" Liked your profile, can you squeeze this thing on the back of my neck?"”

This is a killer. Best so far.

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and to show that some men (why they are always above 50 and live in a remote part of the World? or at least on other continent? can send a nice message, even if it's just a flower:



"You deserve a flower :-) it is also nice to get one from a complete stranger who you will probably never meet :-) Enjoy your flower and forever may you smile ;-) "


I smiled :)

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That's for the next :)

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seems today guys got very productive in copy/paste function. That's next:

Dear concern Hope you are fine and doing well. Became so impressed wishes to be with you forever and to make a happily married family. If you are serious be appreciated may contact over cell 0035_____31, apps 0032_____24 and email s____@gmail.com Please be acknowledge if you are here with good intention and if you find me suitable means a real, trustworthy, committed, honest, sincere, simple, caring, family oriented to meet our goal. Best wishes Dr R___m

This message is also on his profile…
With this message my mind got paper white. No single idea for an answer ;)

Samples of messages you should not send to any woman!

English is not my language either. I understand spelling errors or wrong order of sentence parts, or wrong use of phrasal words. Happens to everyone from time to time. Yet, the interpunction a) say how the person thinking process is taking place, b) adds a meaning to the words, c) show if the author managed to pass through the primary education school due to satisfactory grades and not to the expiration of the age. Interpunction - if used correctly - may change the tone of the expression. From accusation to question. From question to sarcasm, etc.

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I bet to all out there :)
it crossed my mind to write back sth like:

my name is Xyz im origin morocco too but leave in germany. look for man for marriage with visa and big money. im not care age im interested just visa, money and babies. do you have money

Samples of messages you should not send to any woman!

My today sample.

It's not only about the English and writing skills. It's about the content.
For those in a good mood: what kind of message should I write back? ;)
(be inventive, stick to the orthography and grammar rules of the partner )


"hai

my name is dxyz im origin morocco but ilive in paris france Look for a woman for marriage im not care age im interesed just: trust and love"

RE: Could correct Grammar and Spelling increase Your Dating Chances?

uffff….

I got worried I will have to put more effort in my writing.
But since the men do not care what kind of women they catch at the end, why to bother? ;)

RE: What's your type?

Type?

In the sense of how one looks like? I am probably one of few women who completely don't have an "ideal" physical look of the man. Apart from the way he moves, smiles, talks and smells. Should be taller than me, stronger than me and rather normal /slim but a great character and mind could make an exception regarding the posture.
No preferences for any color of hair or eyes. Of course he needs to look the way I find not turning me off: so no big mustache and beard, please.

Its completely about so many things than look.
For that reason starting in the high-school I dated boys (later men) looking completely different. They just have to have sth great about them.

RE: Why are you still single?

some of my friends posted on fb:


"I am over qualified"

;)

RE: Have you had sucess in any online relationship?

Well, I like your thinking. It crossed my mind too. I told myself: "well, this guy needs to have a story behind" and at least there won't be a misunderstanding.
But no. The objective of this declaration was not to be upfront and honest - if so he would do it another way, e.g. asking about my wishes and needs, and just analyzing. He was just terribly focused on his own wishes and requirements. He will also never give up hunting or flying. So the right lady should simply adapt and fill in the empty gap between his activities.

RE: Relationship ended due to family strife?

Is there any serious problem with German or European Guys I should know about?

RE: Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!

I don't think you should spend time thinking of who you are for him (for your own safety treat this as friends with benefits), but rather:
are you ok to be with someone - even a lover who sees/meets other women?
I mean, even in lover relation there needs to be some trust/respect/care, and being exclusive for one another is in my eyes a basic requirement. Even having just your physical health in mind.

I cannot imagine being in intimate relation with someone, who in between is in intimate situations with other. I find it disrespectful and neglecting.

RE: Relationship ended due to family strife?

Thanks for the hug :)
Actually, I always thought that I met many good guys on my way.

RE: Have you had sucess in any online relationship?

Definitely.
- I met many interesting people (mostly online)
- I met someone I still smile when I think of :)
- I met my theoretical ideal match, who turned off not to be even close to a man I would like to be with. The first moment we met he told me that he want's no kids. NONE. NEVER. EVER. adding "take me as I am or leave" (wtf???)
But "theoretically" he was my perfect match: a little older + non-smoker + carpenter, who renovated an amazing historic house with his own hands (I love skilled men) and lived on a side of a mountain with a breathtaking view + architect + a hunter (and I love good food) + a pilot / instructor of flying… (it's exciting, isn't it?). He even liked fishing and sailing if I remember good! Only this character and kids-fobia…

So this dating thing is also a learning process: verifying what features of a man are the most important for me, and what things I am ok to accept, and which I cannot stand.

RE: Relationship ended due to family strife?

haha.. maybe I should mention that my ex is from south of Spain. Spanish mothers "las leonas" are crazy in love with their sons.

RE: Relationship ended due to family strife?

my marriage.

Not officially, of course. But it was a huge issue.
But my mother in law played her role since the very beginning. She disapproved the marriage, she disapproved the idea of having a child, she was always negative, she was writing emails to my husband daily trying to be always present.

It's over 2 years we separated. And although she was a terrible mother-in-law, she is awesome grandma to our son. Funny.
But I respect her for that a lot.

RE: Ever woken up next to..

No…

But I still remember one experience from high school. It was more or less like that: We went to a village of our friend, and he told us to join having a "camp -fire" in the woods with some of his friends from a village. We went there and it was like 7pm in the summer so still not dark. We had a lot of fun. Some more than others. Like one friend of us, let's call him X, whom I spotted kissing one girl when having his hand in the pants of another (just a light of the fire so not really visible). When the party was ending and we were getting to cars, the kissed girl - according to our friend - had no place in other cars and had to go with us. O'right…. We had planned to sleep all in the room of our friend in the village, but first to continue the party. We arrived to the house and X and the girl went out to turn the light and open the gate.
Suddenly X runs alone into the car and says we need to go back to the town. Now. Immediately. There is no way we stay. We find it strange but do not want to make any scene.
So we excuse the girl, drive her home and once she is safe indoor we try to find out what happen.
There was silence for a long time.
And suddenly he almost screamed:
- Did you see her in the light?!?!?!?!?

RE: What do you like about from men from other countries?

- in Latin-america men - their love for dance, for food and eagerness to enjoy the moment (even when just sitting and having coffee.
- in Slavic men - the way they treat the woman like a lady, the fact that they are handy with tools and in the kitchen, and that they still want to be the man in their relation
- in Irish men - the way they speak English. I don't know a any Irish man personally, so I am judging on movies ;)
- in American - that none of those who I know smokes, and that all of them have easiness in talking to strangers and be the king of the party
- in Mediterranean men - their respect and care for food, their positive attitude (and their broad intimate vocabulary, which my language doesn't have)



From other nations I now only one or two exemplars so cannot say much.

RE: What is love and how do you describe love to someone???

I think there are minimum as many love descriptions as humans and their experiences with people they cared.

I have my own now. And it's a one connected to the experience I went trough:

Once upon a time I got sick (after an accident) and there were moments I was feeling I was about to die. My first and basic need was to protect my son, and directly after not to have pain. But there was one more need which was all the time present: that there was a person I wanted to be with. Have him around, do normal stuff like we used to do: cooking together, or reading next to each other. Just having him close, not those few hundreds km away. Wrapping myself in his arm, his smell, his eyes, his smile whenever we would have a minute. Breathing him in.
No needs to go to to exotic places (well, ok: this sailing around the World was just next on the list in case I was ever going to make it trough;) ), winning Lotto or having a big house anymore. Funny because some months ago he had told me that he wanted to buy a house and I had found it would be a good idea. But now I thought that if I was to get better I just wanted a place for us: me, him, and our two kids. A cozy place to feel home. Even in this country where there speak a language I don't understand at all.

When he actually came to visit me he joked and asked me what kind of wished I had before dying. I could think only about one: just him. just a moment of him. It was more than enough.

Final cut

Guten Tag. Ich bin gar nicht sicher wie es mir geht :) / :(

Final cut

Independence Day. Maybe I should actually look at that this way. If not my (yes"our") son that would be the best: go away and never look back. Actually leaving the Germany would be for me really great.
But we are bounded due to this little sweet monster, who just turned 2 and I do want hum to have both parents present in his life. Not just one and other from birthday card or so.

I know so many families which divorced and the children got with time to the situation where they are either left behind by one of the parent or one of the parent tries to keep them just for himself not taking care of the child needs.
Both situations so destructive.

Final cut

Yes, I guess all the feelings are allowed and normal in this case. Since we separated there are days I feel completely emotionally disconnected, but there are also days I think we may be doing the biggest mistake. Due to the kid we have we are going to be bounded no-matter the divorce. So I do think we should first try to fix the problems not escaping them.
From the other hand I was so relieved when he moved out. I remember I finally felt like I could breath. And I am so happy I moved myself too so it's a new place I live now.

Final cut

yes, you are right. we tried to do it already and I think we are more or less set here. Yet, I hear so many stories when people start to change their minds somewhere in between the process as it is so emotional.

Final cut

Our, not! I dont't think we ever had together ;P.
Talking about my ex…. well, I always think that he is mine in minimum 50% and a little more. But that's a personal story. Of course my son is his son to, but I don't like the "our" word at the moment. It give the feeling of belonging together and that's not the case.

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