Is why my profile says that I am not looking for a LDR, I don't mind chatting with people online.. But when considering a relationship, eye to eye and spending time together is the only way for me. sure people put on acts in the real world also.. but when close.. an act can only hold up for so long then it will fall apart.
Is this maybe why when people from online actually do meet, they either don't show up at all or it falls apart so quickly?
an act can not stand the test of time. and an act is easier to see in person
I disagree, is usually hurried online. Is why I don't choose to get serious about someone just by what I am told here. I Have to see their eyes, actually spend time with someone to really get to know them. But thats just me, just how I think. In real world, I can end it sooner if I don't have the right feeling..In person. or If I do get the right feeling.. then I will pursue it further.
But I am led by my mind.. not what my heart tells me..
If we do not listen to our minds.. have we really learned anything from past mistakes?
What does bullying have to do with it? are you so wrapped up in a bullying thread that this has to be about bullying also?
Why do all of the hateful and fighting threads run page after page, fed by most people here but when one is posted asking a logical question, or makes ya think.. people don't post?
I didn't say falling in love is an act of depression, I said.. doing so blindly is. I mean when it is done in such a sloppy fashion that one is setting themselves up for devastation. knowingly but ignoring it.
Most of you have heard of these accidents/stupidity. People getting paralyzed because they jumped into water and either hit bottom because the water was very shallow, or- Because there were rocks in the water that they hit their head on. Life destroyed instantly for nothing short of stupidity. When all it would have taken was a few minutes to swim around in the water first to make sure how deep it is and that there are no obstacles.
Is not a BLIND LEAP of faith in a relationship the same thing. Especially online when all we know is what someone tells us, what picture they show, If it is even them,, or if many years old. Why do so many want so badly to find a mate that is too good to be true?
So you might have had a few chats on the phone.. can you see the honesty of the lack of in their eyes?
Do you only believe what you want to believe about someone, or do you listen to what you mind is telling you? or do you listen with your heart and ignore what you know is fantasy?
Sure.. a dream come true would be fantastic, But then realistically.. do you live your life as if a dream?
Many people hone their hunting skills so well, to the point that they figure out exactly what you WANT to hear. but also.. so many want the DREAM so much that they will believe anything.. regardless how UNbelievable.
Would it not be much wiser and much less pain if we were to be realistic?!
My Dad always said.. If it seems too good to be true...It probably isn't.
I do not mean any one person, We have all seen it happen again and again. Why are so many people so desperate?
If and when I find her, and it turns serious.. I am gone in a heartbeat. and would expect her not to be on dating sites if she were serious.
It's not a trust issue.. it is a devotion issue. I would gladly give this up to devote my time to my partner.
also along religious lines a bit also.. I don't see any reason to leave seeds of doubt spread all over.
Honestly, most of us are single because of bad decision in the first place. so is this truly the best place to get romantic advice? Sorry but I think NOT!
To me.. being here or being in a real relationship.... pretty darn easy decision
let me also point out one other thing, I have made it clear, and I think most here know it, I am not looking for a LDR.
When I meat her, she will live here or be willing to move here. Just too realistic, if I'm going to be in a relationship.. it will be face to face.. not cyber.
In the black hills, a little Indian boy got lost, there are signs all over the place to make people aware and to keep an eye out for him.. the signs say....
Example.. cutting a budget so close on a 30+ year home loan that when time comes that they have to buy a new car... they have the choice of making house payments or car payments, but no way they can pay both. using credit cards to make a few house payments at 20+ percent interest knowing that this will double their house payments.. again into a bracket that they know they can't catch up on.
Then lets add a boat payment, skidoo payments and just have to have a $20,000+ harley and a trailer to haul it in, lets add eating out several times per week, 2 vacations per year or more.. an on and on..
Called living beyond your means.
I think a close look needs to be taken as each case and see what their spending habits are. If they are loosing it all because of ignorance... LET THEM LOOSE IT ALL!!
I just don't feel sorry for these types.
but those who have spent wisely, They do deserve the help.
But.. as for the banks and other lenders, if they loaded the money to people that clearly couldn't pay it back... let them fall also!! The Economy will take a hit... yes... but it will mend itself and recover
Fell off of my roof 2 years ago, broke my heel, had a metal plate for a year then had to have it removed. Before I got it removed,, I finished roofing that section of roof Hey, it had to get done.
almost a year on crutches and cane, Dont expect to get back to normal for a LONG time.
Sorry to hear your bad fortune,, I know the pain, I wouldn't with it on an enemy.
rasgumby Forum Posts (4,665)
crap that came out badly
Those were my alcohol induced years
Paralyzed
Sorry, I don't drink and will not go into a bar.. for any reason,,I am Very patient, I know the right one will come along when it is meant to be.