LOL Solidtartan life does not work like that, you can't order your perfect mate like you order a take away pizza..
Love happens, sometimes with the most inappropriate person, or someone you would never consider other wise.
I understand your pain as my ex also did the midlife crisis thing, leaving our very happy marriage and life in tatters.
You might have a better opportunity to find your soul mate if you eliminate your strict criteria and just experience anyone and everyone who interests you..
RE: Sending out the Wrong Signals
Wait! I see another bottle in your liquior cabinet... better get back to your finding inner peace!