I was commenting on what you said, not what you stand for. You know I have stuck up for you and many others every day I am on here. If I hadn't been sticking up for someone earlier, then none of this would be an issue.
Who am I supposed to listen to here to have things in common with, to get along?
That comment of yours wasn't surely meant for anyone but me..........The only person I don't get along with is cindyboy......What would you have me do then, to make the threads a sweeter read?
Maybe you'd like me to leave too, since obviously I couldn't possibly have any grievances here, that are justified enough to account for messing up threads with what is important to me, like my reputation. It's all about what is important to you right? OK so be it.
Load of crap. Irish Brehon Law gave women the vote long before New Zealand was ever heard of, since the Bronze Age in fact!
"Brehon Law was the law of the Irish until finally extinguished during the Cromwellian onslaught of the 17th century. The durability of the Law for nearly 3-millenium is astounding. The reason for its unparalleled strength and longevity was the sense of honor held by the people whom it governed. The laws were laws of users. That is, they attained their authority from public opinion. They were an expression of the moral power of the people. That moral power was the code of honor reflected throughout both ancient law and wisdom texts. An individuals word was his or her bond. As laws of users, no law could be changed without approval of the people. Thus any enactment of a new law or a modification to an existing law could only be accomplished in open forum of the assembled people. Thus though Rí and Noble might campaign for a specific law, it took a majority vote of all tribal free citizens to effect enactment. The Brehon Law truly was a Law of the people, by the people and for the people."
I personally think they are not good enough at it yet, not to make people look sometimes brute ugly, especially the botox brigade. Joan Rivers being a good example. Even Dolly Parton is not looking so good these days. One step too far I think.
But then those addicted to narcissism never know when to stop, even if they could.
The world is getting very much dog-eat-dog in it's competativeness to look good, and its penchant for only accepting people who look a certain way.
I won't say perfect here, because I don't believe there is such a thing, and perfection sometimes comes with a broken nose or one leg missing for me.
Don't think I will get to Benidorm because I have commitments to other trips in May. It is my daughter's birthday middle of May and I am hoping to surprise her in Barcelona for her birthday, and then have to fly to Ukraine to meet my new grandson who should be born by then, their first.
Otherwise I'd have made the effort to meet you for sure. The world is a small place though and a lifetime can be long enough to have opportunities to meet more than once in it. You never know.
I agree with every word that Steve said here, and would add that unless you have chosen, of your own volition , to leave this site, then no one has said one word to you that would indicate that they want you to go. All have tried to enlighten you and put you wise, but there has been no negativity towards you.
Now your Pakistani friend is a different matter. If he is pressuring you to leave because he knows he should not be here, and, if justice were served, be banned yet again, then that is entirely different, and more cause for concern for those who care about you, (and people here DO care about you, make no mistake about that!).
You are entitled, at the end of the day to do as you want. It is very much your life, but it is difficult to sit here and not warn you of things that you apparantly can't, or choose not to, see for yourself, because maybe you are too close to the situation.
Just, please, dont defend his vindictiveness towards women. Some of us know differently first-hand.
I had just raised my kids and the foster kids and decided it was time for me. I always met them at a local hotel or someplace safe, where if I didn't like them, I could leave them there after dinner, or coffee.
I only made two mistakes in the relationships I did have. They were more clever than I thought, and were able to hide who they were for a bit longer. The cheater didn't cheat on me by the way, he only wanted to, so I just told him go ahead, just don't come back near me, and left this bags in the street,and that was it.
The second one, I had an opposing view to him one day and he started shouting at me. Not a chance in hell anyone will do that to me and be allowed to stay near me. Both were sorry etc, but I have an "absolutely never" policy on some things.
As for you going to Benidorm, I went to America for a date before now. Distance is nothing these days. Always new cities to see even if the date turns out to be a dud. Wish you luck with the search though. Sometimes it can be quite fun.
I have dated people from here and other sites over the years. Most turned out to not be what I was looking for, and we knew it after one date. Problems like alcoholism, being argumentative, disrespecting, or cheating, become apparant very quickly. Two turned out longer. One lasted nearly two years and the other 6 months. It just took longer for their traits to appear. One was hell-bent on cheating, and the other had no relationship with the truth.
That is exactly what I was going to say. Their servers in some areas are not up to the load.
It loads fine here and operates fine too, just lots of cookies and junk to get rid of from time to time, but that is normal on any site that advertises or that you visit often.
What I am trying to say here is that it tends to give men the notion that they have power, and authority, that they don't actually have in reality.
This is perpetuated by rules for a society of unequals.
But a man cannot set down rules in his house, or within what he is told is HIS family unit, to harm anyone in it, regardless of whether they are men, women or children. There is not authority behind the NOTION of inequality.
All change is difficult, especially if the older values are ingrained. The next couple of generations are our only hope, but fly in the ointment is that the powers that be, who want things as they are, are also breeding a new generation and indoctrinating them in the same colleges they themselves went to, and turning out carbon copies. I think it is going to take a while for real change.
What we grow into is someone's warped vision of what they think a society should be. It never worked. Growing involves learning about Santa tooa nd incorporating that into our adult lives for our kids, but it is just so much nonsense.
All the present day laws are so much nonsense, as are all the social norms preached to us since infancy, according to a particular country.....
Notice how the rules for geders are not the same worldwide?
As I have explained earlier, the nuclear family unit that you are describing is made up only a relatively recent period in our history. The social norm is far from this, and society, in it's own slow way, is trying to get back to a more tolerant place for all of us to live, without all the possesiveness that goes on when someone thinks they are the boss of someone else, as in the nuclear family situation.
A tip it took me years to learn.......Let it go, before it destroys you! The only person that biterness can hurt is the person carrying it. The person it is about doesn't even care.
Of course in all the ways that matter, people are equal. Otherwise you would be telling me that you have more right to eat than I have, or more right to live than I have. If we are the same humans, with the same needs to be assuaged, then we are equal.
That misguided people don't sometimes let that happen, is sad indeed, but all the more reason to stand up for those people, not put them down because they are different, or tell them they are entitled to less.........
The address and phone number are on the site link I gave you. (Bottom of the page). You could actually talk to people who have the disability and their teachers........
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An acquired taste you might say!
RE: vindictiveness in groups
I was commenting on what you said, not what you stand for. You know I have stuck up for you and many others every day I am on here. If I hadn't been sticking up for someone earlier, then none of this would be an issue.Who am I supposed to listen to here to have things in common with, to get along?
That comment of yours wasn't surely meant for anyone but me..........The only person I don't get along with is cindyboy......What would you have me do then, to make the threads a sweeter read?
Maybe you'd like me to leave too, since obviously I couldn't possibly have any grievances here, that are justified enough to account for messing up threads with what is important to me, like my reputation. It's all about what is important to you right? OK so be it.