There may be other factors at work for/against you too. For instance, you travel a lot, play a lot of golf and have plans made. You actually have quite a busy schedule. Maybe, (just a thought), you don't actually have time for a relationship, and maybe, that is why one is not forthcoming. You might have to slow down enough for it to come to you, and maybe, too, to face things you didn't know that you were running away from, that are hampering your chances of developing the relationship of your dreams. The occasional halt often brings many things to the surface.
My suggestions are not set in stone, just observations from things you say on here.
Any idea on the percentages of people who find the "right" person on here, as opposed to how many people have used the site?
I'd like to bet it is infinitesimal...
You can't believe all the hype you read on sites like this.
CS, like other meeting places for singles, would like their numbers to reflect positively, so they can say they are successful. They don't care if you meet Mr/Mrs Right or Wrong, as long as you can say you met "someone" on their site.....
For instance why didn't you pick the first presentable woman you met on here so far, if what they say is true? According to their dictates, you should have, to be open minded.......
You, like everyone else on here, know that the vagaries of the heart are unique, and in truth everyone is looking for specifics.
Thing is, in order to personify what you actually want, you have to visualise, in very great detail, for it to present itself.
Otherwise you might as well go to a football match or something and randomly pick out the first female you meet while blindfolded, and settle for her.
You have to have a clear picture of what you are looking for before you could recognise it. You can't recognise an apple, (never mind a red as opposed to a green one), if you have never seen or smelled or tasted one.
I didn't obviously get the same from that piece of writing as the rest of you. In my book she didn't know what she wanted in the first place, just vaguely wished for someone she knew she would naver have, someone who was "too good " for her.
Then, when she examined her beliefs about herself, she found herself short of anything she would present to a man of her dreams, so she settled for someone who made her feel good, because he had so many faults that hers didn't matter any more.
The way I see it, she came across as desperate enough to settle for anything, rather than examine what she really wanted and go after that.
She settled for Mr Right Now, instead of waiting and working towards Mr Right.
I have dated people with higher and lower IQs than me. I find that high or low intelligence has nothing to do with a good partner or date. Intelligence somes in many forms.
For instance: A person who is a univeristy professor can live like a pig in filth and see nothing wrong with it, or be intelligent enough to get out of doing housework or helping you, and not be intelligent enough to see that your relationship depends on co-operation and being compatible on the basics.
What use is high intelligence if your partner only uses it to outsmart you or to prove superiority all the time?
People of low intellectual intelligence can be a problem too in that they can be stubborn in their belief that they do not need to learn anything. I find few things worse than inverted snobbery. Ignorance is certainly not bliss for a partner.
To my mind common sense, a willingness to be openminded and learn new things, and the pursuit of truth, is of much more value.
In answer to your question Phoenix, I talk about all subjects will all people. If they are not at a level to understand, or if they don't agree and shun me, or if they think I am crazy, so what?
It truly doesn't bother me, except in the fact that I sometimes despair of finding someone who is as broadminded as I am, in the ways that I am, and has as wide a range of subjects to discuss as I have, with maybe the experience to back their opinions up.
That would be nice, but I know it is a long shot and hardly likely to happen, so I just accept what I get and be happy with it.
I find that it is not that people use what you have told them against you, it is that they use lies based on what you told them to hurt you. And really, if there is no real truth in it, then it shouldn't hurt, just piss you off a little for a while.
What they say always says more about them than it does about you. People who know and love you won't believe it anyway.
I find it really sad that you and Anctus have been hurt so badly by unscruplous women. It almost hurts me to watch you post sometimes. I would wish better for both of you.
I have no secrets. If anyone asks I tell them. It keeps things simple and honest. My maxim is, if you don't want to know, don't ask.
The light here in Donegal is unique, (reflecting off granite mountains), and artists prize it.
As well as being quite mountainous here, like the rest of Ireland it is very green and soft, (usually because it rarely stops raining year round).
Tá grá agam gur bhfuil beirt teánga againn. Roughly translated that means that "I like that we have two languages", (which most people here slip in and out of as the occasion arises).
You are correct in what you say here. Proven many times over and verified in the holy books of many religions.
I think some people who make up sites, like the one linked here, have nothing better to do than write about their fantasies and try to get others to believe in it too. They do people a great dis-service by making stuff up with no truth in it.
I notice there is a lot of this kind of thing on this and other sites. People post crap with no truth in it, without checking first to verify its veracity. They think that because there is a site dedicated to it, that it must be true, when very often it is just someones imaginings.
You are doing a lot of supposing what women are thinking, (big mistake), and seem to be ignoring the information people are giving you which is tried and tested, ie: to be honest, without frills.
I'm wondering, did you want the answers, or were you just sounding off that you rejected someone?
gingerb Forum Posts (4,139)
RE: women's Life
Your poor little feelings.....
Hope that has not set the tenor of your day.