gingerb Forum Posts (4,139)

RE: If you were in a situation like this what would you do?

It would appear you spend entirely too much time in your own head, and love drama.......

RE: Men fear commitment more than women do

Fearing commitment.... I don't think it is gender based..........

Does that have anything to do with people coming to visit your profile every day but never contacting you?

Does it then progress to sending you a flower or mail?

When you answer to thank them, does it mean they never write again but continue to look at your profile nearly every day?

That was tongue in cheek about the subject matter, but I do wonder sometimes, if fear of commitment extends to behaviour around how some socialise with people on the internet, even from the comfort and relative safety and anonymity of their own homes.

RE: why is it so hard?

One of the prime instincts in a woman who is nest building, (thinking of having a family), is having a good provider. Instinctively she needs to make sure she has the best chance of having her offspring looked after right into adulthood. A man with a disability or limited income is not a good bet therefore.

That is primal. Not written in stone, but it does drive some women.....

RE: Need ideas for interesting threads !!!!

What would your dream house and its setting look like?

RE: Changing Values

I wouldn't care what belief they took up, their base belief doesn't change. Who they are, even with a new set of beliefs, doesn't change. I wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them.

Quite a few of my foster kids found religion. Still, when something went missing from the house I knew who to ask. I also knew they'd lie. When found out, I knew they'd cry and be repentant, and promise on their God never to do this again....Nothing ever changed.....

Most turned out to be good kids, holding down good jobs, having lots of friends, socialising, leading good lives, paying their bills, but if one of them was having a hard time and came home for support, which they do from time to tome, I still lock up my stuff......

RE: Funny or sad epitaph's and unlikely obituaries ?

Here are some real ones that I liked...........

On the grave of Ezekial Aikle in East Dalhousie Cemetery, Nova Scotia
Here lies
Ezekial Aikle
Age 102
The Good
Die Young.

In a London cemetery
Here lies Ann Mann,
Who lived an old maid
But died an old Mann.
Dec. 8, 1767

In a Ribbesford, England, cemetery
The children of Israel wanted bread
And the Lord sent them manna,
Old clerk Wallace wanted a wife,
And the Devil sent him Anna.

In a Ruidoso, New Mexico, cemetery
Here lies
Johnny Yeast
Pardon me
For not rising.

Memory of an accident in a Uniontown, Pennsylvania cemetery
Here lies the body
of Jonathan Blake
Stepped on the gas
Instead of the brake.

In a Silver City, Nevada, cemetery
Here lays Butch,
We planted him raw.
He was quick on the trigger,
But slow on the draw.

A widow wrote this epitaph in a Vermont cemetery
Sacred to the memory of
my husband John Barnes
who died January 3, 1803
His comely young widow, aged 23, has
many qualifications of a good wife, and
yearns to be comforted.

A lawyer's epitaph in England
Sir John Strange
Here lies an honest lawyer,
And that is Strange.

Someone determined to be anonymous in Stowe, Vermont
I was somebody.
Who, is no business
Of yours.

Lester Moore was a Wells, Fargo Co. station agent for Naco, Arizona in the cowboy days of the 1880's. He's buried in the Boot Hill Cemetery in Tombstone, Arizona
Here lies Lester Moore
Four slugs from a .44
No Les No More.

In a Georgia cemetery
"I told you I was sick!"

John Penny's epitaph in the Wimborne, England, cemetery
Reader if cash thou art
In want of any
Dig 4 feet deep
And thou wilt find a Penny.

On Margaret Daniels grave at Hollywood Cemetery Richmond, Virginia
She always said her feet were killing her
but nobody believed her.

In a cemetery in Hartscombe, England
On the 22nd of June
Jonathan Fiddle -
Went out of tune.

Anna Hopewell's grave in Enosburg Falls, Vermont
Here lies the body of our Anna
Done to death by a banana
It wasn't the fruit that laid her low
But the skin of the thing that made her go.

Owen Moore in Battersea, London, England
Owen Moore
Gone away
Owin' more
Than he could pay.

Someone in Winslow, Maine didn't like Mr. Wood
In Memory of Beza Wood
Departed this life
Nov. 2, 1837
Aged 45 yrs.

Here lies one Wood
Enclosed in wood
One Wood
Within another.
The outer wood
Is very good:
We cannot praise
The other.

On a grave from the 1880's in Nantucket, Massachusetts
Under the sod and under the trees
Lies the body of Jonathan Pease.
He is not here, there's only the pod:
Pease shelled out and went to God.

RE: excuus.

Yet another persona......

RE: does getting.....

Depends entirely on the length of time you knew the person you are mourning, and how deep your commitment to them was, (how much of your life they became part of).

RE: Amazes Me

I'm sorry if this happened to you Stef, but no REAL friend would do this, so you lose nothing if it does happen.

RE: What I really want to read...

I never change a thing I say. I just check spellings. What is the point in thinking it if you don't say it? Isn't that dishonest?

RE: Petal and Jesse Got Married Today!

Congratulations

RE: Unrequited Love...

Doing fine Lydia.

Well if I had a penny for evey time I was called heartless on here... Nobody really knows anyone. They just think they do.

RE: Unrequited Love...

True. If we left hearts unfettered they would just give out endless love to everyone and experess it in every way possible.

What a strange world we'd be living in then huh?

RE: Tom Waits

Am a big TW fan since way back.

RE: Question:

Depends on a lot of things, like what the promise is, if it is feasible, if it was made under duress, or emotional blackmail, or if the promise was a vow, like in marriage............

RE: Love: Sold Out

Could be where you went right........

Yep! An enlightened man!

RE: Love: Sold Out

I had it set for age, so that the young scuts would stop mailing me saying they loved me.........

RE: Love: Sold Out

AAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The horse of a different colour...An enlightened man....

RE: Love: Sold Out

Hi RDM Glad at least one man on here told her that. She obviously needs to hear it, (although it is kinda sweet that she has no idea of her own beauty, when it shines so clearly).

RE: Love: Sold Out

You made me smile. Thanks.

RE: Love: Sold Out

You are stunningly beautiful inside and out. Can't believe you said that.

Every day I wonder why you are still here........

RE: Love: Sold Out

I know this doesn't sound like I usually am, but, occcasionally I can be caught off guard and this subject just got to me today somehow and made me re-face my reality.........

I don't want to be so open on here as to why I don't qualify any more, but suffice it to say that I really don't.....

Never know what life throws at you..........

It's not that I have given up, because I still believe in the possibility of all things, and am still here.....just a bit more realisitic than I used to be.........

RE: Love: Sold Out

Thanks Merriweather. You are one very sweet lady.

RE: Love: Sold Out

Statistically speaking men should be more able to find love, or what passes for love, more easily than women.

It all comes down to their more basic instincts. Our true human purpose here is to procreate, and men, chasing pheromones, and being more phycially driven, (visually stimulated), are more likely to be successful then women in the love stakes.

Their urge to do this is much stronger than women experience, and very little gets in the way of this almost urgent need, that fills nearly every waking moment of their adult lives. Even their education, jobs, and everything they do in life, are a means to impressing, in order to be competative enough to procreate.

Men, no matter how old, no matter how incapable, will still be driven to chase women of child-bearing age, just because that is their physical nature.

Women, on the other hand, are quite different, in that once childbearing days are over, have no great urge to search out partners in the same way they once did.

They are more likely to sit back and be more relaxed, socialise, admire their past achievements and be content. She is more likely to be pleasure driven and seeking company to explore more intellectual pursuits.

For a woman in her middle years to find a man, she is looking for a horse of a different colour altogether......

Usually she needs one who is a cut above the more basic animals. One who has managed to overcome his more base instincts in order to not be so driven, and be able to ride the waves of contentment beside her, learning things on a completely different, and more highly intelligent level, in order to pass wisdom on, among other things.....

Trouble is,that it is hard for a man to leave his driven nature behind, to overcome the urgency to impress, to stop seeking the younger and greener of the species...........

and so women become sad.......and sadness attracts no one..........



Such is th cycle of love and life.......

RE: Love: Sold Out

You're right. I had so much to offer then too. I'd have made any man extremely happy on all levels. Can't say it is their loss, because really it is mine... time wasted that can never be re-lived. A beautiful woman who is now old and not so beautiful any more. Just wasn't meant to be. Sad I think.

I see people on here who believe in love at first sight, believe in love at all, not believe in love, some believe in living with anyone and love comes.....I don't think it matters what you believe, or even whether you try to find it or not, none of it matters one whit in the grand scheme of things.

I think that maybe for some people love never comes knocking.....

RE: Love: Sold Out

Hi summer.

Yeah they do seem to have thrown caution to the winds and just gone for it...although... I think they saw something deeper too that maybe let them feel confident enough to go for it.

I have dated lots of people from here, but to be honest, never felt that degree of comfort I kind of expected from being with the "right" person......

I thought I had it once, but nearly 3 years in, I realised he had only been pretending to care, because he was addicted to the physical side of it........I was stupid.

RE: Love: Sold Out

I have always believed that too.........but these days I am not so sure.......Watching people on here, I am losing that belief.

Those whom I've seen meet here, and become partners, seem to be suited in ways that just in a general sense wouldn't have happened.

I tend, now, more towards thinking that it is actually a very complicated business.

RE: Blogs-do you do them/read them

Yes I read them.

RE: how many over 45s are on here?

Anseó freisin. 55

RE: waking up is so hard to do

I wake up then put kettle on, on the way to bathroom, get tea, or honey and lemon, on the way back, to sit and watch the morning light, no work, no thinking, just being.........

I start every day like that, unless I have company, in which case I get up and make them a huge breakfast to relax over......