I think for some it is bible related, you know the verse where it says visit the sick and imprisioned..... Maybe the attachment gets out of hand and they fall for them.
It can be a form of co-dependency, that one like to take care of someone and the other needs to be cared for.
Like others said it can be a "safe" man. One who can never leave or cheat.
For some it can spark from a sense of injustice on the prisoner's behalf.
It can even be a karma thing. Do on to others so it never happens to you.
It can be a form of OCD. A man you never have to touch or even see.
For fantasy lovers it is ideal. It can be anything you like, in your head. And you can be enything you like. He never needs to even see you.
Great for disabled people, those with a fear of rejection because of looks, weight issues etc.
No end of great things to be interested in. Fair play for having a go.
I figure if we only get one crack at this, and who knows we might only get that, then make the most of it, and try as many things as possible just to test your mettle.
I did consider law for a while. I have a few family members doing that too, one is a judge, a couple are barristers.
I preferred teaching and art, although I have done hospital admin, been a chef, owned my own companies designing and making soft furnishings and clothing lines for specialist markets. Also studied psychology, philosophy, sociology and art at different times at Uni. Am a stone mason, apprenticed and qualified in stone and wood sculpture and bronze casting, even make my own chisels. Owned set designa nd decorating companies, worked on and behind the scenes in theatre, was a hairdresser. Worked with old people gave parenting classes, fostered kids. Got certified in holistic therapies, massage, business diplomas, all sorts of things really. Worked at anything that took my fancy. Tried to be good at everything, suceeded at some things, had a fair go at others. It was all fun, and not over yet.
I am told I am good with kids. They seem to like me anyway, so I work mostly with them these days, and I paint when I get time, and of course chat on here a bit.
I like to learn things firsthand too from people who actually live in other countries. It often gives a unique slant on something we take for granted here. It's one of the reasons I used to go to America or other places for a month at a time on my own every year and bus it around the cities meeting and chatting with people. Certainly got a lot more than was advertised the the tourist brochures.
There is another thing too, people who commit murders, and other violent crimes often go to jail on lesser crimes, like tax fraud, or overdue parking tickets or whatever, so when people say it depends on what they are in there for, it may not be clear what kind of person you are dealing with anyway. Their crime may be theft or receiving stolen goods, but really it might be armed robbery or murder but they couldn't be incarcerated for the other crimes, maybe because of lack of evidence.
I think that every neighbourhood knows who is trouble and who is not, regardless of whether they have been in prison or not. Law breakers may or may not get caught but they are still trouble.
Yeah I see your point. It seems to work ok though. I won't say there isn't an elitism in the police here. There certainly is. Don't forget, too, that we might need to be a little different because of not having arms. There has to be that implied differentiation to assert control, when they can't stand behind a gun.
It seems to work for the most part. Never met anyone who complained. It is very difficult to even get in the police here. They are very choosy whom they allow to be one.
Police families then tend to live in small clusters among themselves and not mix, so as not to be influenced by neighbour ties either. It is a very insular life.
In chinese astrology, people same age, or who are in 4 year increments either way of your age, are supposed to have most in common with you, and be the most suitable matches for you.
It is suggested that they would , or might, then be showing bias towards a person because they are a member of the family, (and let them off with a crime). It is to discourage nepotism and corruption.
Police here cannot live within somethign like 100 miles of family , too, for the same reasons, so they are posted to other parts of the country, where hopefully, they don't know anyone.
Everyone has the capacity for change, so no personal bias.
However, I can't date or have relationships with people who have criminal records in my family, because I have several family members in law enforcement, and it is against the rules for them to work as police when they have criminals in the family or among their in-laws.
Didn't get married again because he didn't want to.
Longest relationship time was nearly 3 years. He wanted to sleep with other women, (more than one at at time)..... so, after talking about it, we decided to part company.
Bi-polar is another name for manic depression. It is a mental illness that gets it's bi-polar name from the suggestion that people who have it have mood swings that are poles apart, or at opposite ends of the spectrum.
There are various different types and degrees of bi-polar, and many sites online wher eyou can get more information. There are also many people on the site who have it and are willing to talk about it too.
Not into personality worship. Makes no sense. Have never made anyone my hero. I think it is just wrong to think of some people as being above or better than others.
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RE: Women who marry men behind bars, on death row......... etc
I think for some it is bible related, you know the verse where it says visit the sick and imprisioned..... Maybe the attachment gets out of hand and they fall for them.It can be a form of co-dependency, that one like to take care of someone and the other needs to be cared for.
Like others said it can be a "safe" man. One who can never leave or cheat.
For some it can spark from a sense of injustice on the prisoner's behalf.
It can even be a karma thing. Do on to others so it never happens to you.
It can be a form of OCD. A man you never have to touch or even see.
For fantasy lovers it is ideal. It can be anything you like, in your head. And you can be enything you like. He never needs to even see you.
Great for disabled people, those with a fear of rejection because of looks, weight issues etc.
A bit like CS really..........